Recently, I saw an escort who had a rash on her behind and thighs. She said she had been laying on her belly on the beach and fell asleep, resulting in a serious burn which also caused a rash. The rash did not look like herpes, but I am worried about carrying it to a girl I’m dating even though the sex was protected and the lady is meticulous about condom usage. Do you think she was telling the truth?
There’s a really, really simple way to be sure about this: get tested. If she was lying, you’ll know soon enough. But I’m sure you already thought of that; it’s pretty obvious. It is, in fact, so obvious that I have to wonder why you didn’t simply do it instead of writing me about it. And what I think is that you aren’t really worried about an actual disease spread by a pathogen, but rather an imaginary “contagion” of sin. You don’t owe fidelity to a girl you’re simply dating, but I suspect you’re more serious about her than y’all have officially agreed to be, and because of that you feel guilty about having visited a whore. Sex with a professional would not be the same as cheating even if the two of you had a monogamous relationship, which you don’t; feeling guilt when the two of you aren’t committed makes even less sense. And I hardly need to tell you that you’ve got far more chance of catching something from the amateurs you’re implicitly allowed to date than from professionals.
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While I am constantly amazed that people suddenly lose context and common sense when a sex worker is involved, at least this person asked. Yes, it is annoying that the question has an obvious, common-sense answer, but the real problem are those that do not ask or are confused, but are certain that things are “of course” much always worse with a sex worker than with an amateur.
As far as getting checked for any STD’s there are labs you can find online that you purchase the lab, then print it out and go to a local lab to get blood & urine collected. This way it can be done in a fairly discrete manor in case you don’t want to see your regular doctor.
Of course if the escort practices safe sex then the odd’s are against catching anything, but it never hurts just to have a check-up every once in a while.
that seems like a lot of effort. Don’t most major cities have STI clinics where one can obtain free, confidential testing?
Rash under the butt and thighs? Sounds like eczema which is NOT contagious and can be caused by skin irritation (the explanation the provider gave is realistic so I’m inclined to believe her).
My childhood was filled with people who were mean precisely because they believed I was contagious. 🙁