I’m a have a micropenis, described by a urologist as “infantile” in size. In “All Shapes and Sizes” you stated: “…even a man like that could be compatible with a woman who loves cunnilingus above all else.” That’s true in theory, but my experience has been that women who are spontaneously aroused and who have strong sexual appetites, even if they prefer pleasures other than vaginal intercourse, will eventually find that element to be missing and pursue it elsewhere. Would the probability of meeting a woman who really doesn’t care about penis size really be higher than of finding a woman who is only two inches deep when she’s aroused? Or one who is willing and who can enjoy sex, but who is also not all that interested in sex to begin with, or who is highly responsive rather than spontaneous in her desire?
I think you’re reading far too much into that particular bit of advice. It was not intended to be the only situation I could think of in which a woman might be happy with a man lacking in the size department; another might be a very dominant woman seeking a man for the sort of kink play that doesn’t require him to be well-endowed, and still another a sex worker or polyamorous woman who doesn’t equate sex with exclusive partnership. I can tell you from firsthand experience that the situations you describe would not be solutions for the monogamous, because I fit both of those categories. I have an exceptionally small, tight vagina…and a two-inch penis would still have no effect on me. And though my sex drive is entirely reactive, that doesn’t mean a tiny cock would do anything for me once I am aroused. Stated more generally, I doubt there’s an adult vagina small enough that a micropenis would fit it snugly, and how a woman gets aroused has nothing to do with what it takes for her to be satisfied once she is. I therefore feel your best bet is not to try to find a woman who wants nothing other than a very small penis (which seems to be the track you’re on), but rather one whose feelings of commitment for you cannot be measured with a ruler.
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I thought of you this morning Maggie:
http://shequotes.com/2015/04/16/polly-adler-chose-boldly-shequotes-quote-life-destiny-determination-confidence-success-decision-making-prostitution/
Hope all is well 🙂
You’re as consistent as you are comprehensive Maggie.
You’re down on all rulers.
This^^
But what is the medical explanation for him having a “micropenis”? Was there some kind of hormonal shortfall during puberty? Does it still exist today? DHT causes the male organ to increase in size at puberty. DHT is synthesized in the body from testosterone. Men with low testosterone can have low DHT and low testosterone can cause a whole range of OTHER issues.
Reason I’m asking is, SIZE may not be his only problem in attracting a mate. Can he impregnate a woman? Does he look visibly effeminate? These could be detractors in finding a girl for a lifetime relationship, perhaps even more of a detractor than his size.
It’s easier and more descriptive to say “micropenis” than the mouthful that is “undetermined 4,6 XY disorder of sexual development”. It’s likely a question of an ill-timed or poorly-received hormone release during the fetal stage. Other than for the size of the external genitals, there is no further visual indicator in this case. Functionality is completely normal. All other body proportions and features are those of a healthy well-formed adult male.
get real comfortable playing with toys. you’ll be able to pleasure your partner with penises of all sizes. plus, a man who is comfortable bringing dildos into play is an incredibly sexy commodity.
Polyamory is definietly your best option. What else do you have to contribute to a polyamorous family? Build on your strengths. Note that although ten-year-olds might have the “right” size vagina, their physiological immaturity makes them unsuitable as sex partners for an adult (not to mention legal complications).
If the women isn’t satisfied by penis alone, there are many other ways to satisfy her. So the hoopla over the size of one’s penis is an individual’s mental issue rather then reality.
Before we begin, I must warn you: my equipment is baby sized…
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Eighteen inches, six pounds.
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I’m a regular reader, but have no idea of what this post is alluding to, context-wise. I will say this, though: a few women into anal sex have told me they prefer guys on the small side for that. So that could be an answer to the micro crowd, perhaps?