How do you get deposits for appointments? I don’t mean the physical logistics like PayPal or whatever, but rather the larger question of actually getting men to pay them (say, if they want you to get a hotel room or travel a great distance to see them). Then, there’s the vastly larger question: how do escorts command more respect from clients in general?
Generally, the way anyone commands respect from anyone else in any sexual transaction is, paradoxically, by not needing them. Let’s start with a couple of extreme examples. Think about how you feel about men who are very emotionally needy; even if their deep neediness doesn’t induce you to run as fast as you can in the other direction, it’s not exactly going to endear them to you or inspire you to treat them with more respect. If anything, it’s going to discourage respect because A) it’s annoying, and B) respect isn’t necessary to ensure their devotion, so why bother? By the same token, one of the classic forms of abuse is to convince the victim that she’s unattractive in some way: she’s fat, she’s ugly, she has bad teeth and/or breath, she talks too much, her pussy smells, her sexual desires are repulsive and/or she’s no good in bed, etc, so nobody else but the abuser would want her. When a person has no options, they don’t feel they can command respect, because most humans reserve respect for equals or superiors (which is why people react so strongly when someone “above” them gives them respect).
So the answer to both of your questions is the same: the more well-known, well-reviewed and in-demand you are, the more respect you’ll command from clients and the more hoops (including deposits) you can demand they jump through. The more clients you have, the more you can turn away; the more you can turn away, the more guys who want to see you will be willing to do to keep your attention & goodwill. Some ladies are fairly good at creating the illusion of being very sought-after, but no matter how much you call yourself “VIP” and “exclusive” there’s no substitute for the obvious confidence that naturally comes from knowing you can tell anyone who annoys you to take a hike without it affecting your bottom line.
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That sounds like it rings true for business in general. I’d say any type of “unequal” relationship, even. What it makes me wonder if, what if both sides present themselves this way?
I can confirm that at least for the consulting field. My last negotiation with a customer about reduced rates consisted of me stating “we do not do that”. Of course, the little fact that we do turn away more business than we accept and that they already failed once getting comparable services from anybody else is what allows this. You need to know and use that you are in that position, but I advise against getting greedy. That has a tendency to backfire.
True, true, in a relationship, the least interested party has the most power
Now that was a good article. Very true in all that was written. Its the essence of all things if the people of the world saw it in the true form of respect in how it is used for induviduals.