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Is there a market for escorts who are in their 40s and chubby or who are obviously mothers? If so what could such a woman expect to earn?
There is a market for “BBW” (Big Beautiful Woman) escorts, and definitely for mature ones, and for the combination as well. The most important thing for mature ladies is personality; gentlemen who see older escorts usually want an interesting companion as much as or more than they want sex. As for income, you’ll have to check your local escort boards, but I expect it isn’t much different from other women in your area.
Woman on top is good for men with smaller penises, and also allows for manual clitoral stimulation; if your wife is fairly flexible, she can also lie on her back with her knees pulled all the way up until they’re alongside her tits. Rear-entry (“doggie style”) also shortens and tightens the vagina, but it won’t work well if the woman is generously endowed in the derriere; this can be mitigated somewhat if she is flexible and can get on her knees while pressing her bosom as flat against the mattress as she can (it also helps if the man crouches to penetrate instead of getting on his knees). And of course, there’s also anal sex; a smaller penis is actually an advantage for that activity.
P411 requires that girls have several reviews, and I think they also need a vouch from a client or already-approved girl but I’m not sure of that. I don’t know about Date Check personally, but Aspasia wrote that she had to be vouched for by established escorts and email them a photocopy of her ID.
Is there a length or thickness of penis beyond which most escorts would not have sex?
I never encountered one I could not accept because of thickness, and I honestly don’t think very many other escorts have, either; the vagina is elastic enough to allow a baby’s head through, and there’s no penis remotely close to that in diameter. There is a common male myth that a lot of sex can make a woman loose, but this is pure, unadulterated nonsense; only childbirth can do that. Excessive length is a problem because it can “bottom out” against the cervix, but in that case a thin penis is worse than a thick one because it allows the head to ram harder against the sensitive tissues, whereas a thick one will be slowed down by friction. To a degree we deal with that by choosing positions which don’t allow deep penetration, but I have heard of some ladies who specify that they won’t see men over a certain length.
I’m afraid I have run into several escorts who could/would not accomodate my penis width. My circumference is just shy of 7″. Most women can handle it with lubrication and patience, but many smaller women just say no, or stop before full insertion, and anal and deep throat are right out.
I’d be interested to find out if there’s a surgical option for reducing its size, but haven’t had any luck finding out anything via web searches. (But it seems there are all kinds of options for increasing it!)
Naw man … when you say most women can handle it with lubrication and patience – that right there says that almost any woman who’s willing to handle it can handle it. The problem is – there ARE some escorts out there who seem to want save themselves the worry of vaginal sex – particularly with a guy who’s a little big.
Just find another escort – you’ll find one that will take care of you. 😉
I agree with Krulac. Lubrication and patience. I’ve never encountered a cock I couldn’t handle. Consensually, of course.
You would honestly think some of these girls were in some other business the way they make a deal about size. I am pretty much spot on average – maybe a tad over – isn’t the average 6 inches? Whatever. However, I still get comments from girls like … “you’re as big as I can take”. “Oh, not so deep!” “OMG GO SLOW!!” “That cover is too tight on you let me get you the big ones!”
I’m like – LOL – why don’t you save that for some YOUNG guy who might need the ego stroke there babe! I’m in my 50’s and believe me – I’m pretty good with my self-image and came to terms LONG AGO with the fact that I’m average size.
Yeah, I think the average is 6-6.5″. I’m just…I don’t get it. But then, I do enjoy challenges. 😛
I know a couple of escorts who won’t see men with even an average sized penis. I think it’s bullshit … I think they’re using that as an excuse to avoid penetration altogether – but it is what it is. And – we’re not talking about big guys here … unless you’re LESS than average sized … you’re not allowed in. Sessions with them are usually exclusively oral – but they don’t advertise that way. They won’t even SAY what the biggest size they’ll take is – you have to find that out at the appointment when you remove your clothes … “Oh you’re too big sorry”.
I won’t post their names here.
I spent time with an escort in her 40’s and she’s been in the biz for a very long time – at least a decade I think. She was one of the “tightest” girls I’ve ever experienced. She was also … a MOTHER! However, all of her kids were delivered via C-section.
So you are right, Maggie. I’m sure this girl has seen all shapes and sizes in her career and it’s not impacted her one bit!
I have NEVER understood why some indoor whores prefer giving blow jobs or hand jobs to intercourse; the latter is MUCH less work, the performance is totally natural, the cramps are fewer and it’s generally faster. Seven times out of ten once I’ve got a man inside it’s all over but the shouting, whereas a lot of guys can hold off orgasm during oral for as long as they like.
I totally understand why streetwalkers prefer acts which don’t require getting even partly undressed, but with escorts I wonder if it isn’t either prissiness or poor muscular control.
I suppose it could depend on how many clients the escort is seeing that day. They may be concerned with friction from the condoms.
Some other position suggestions for our small guy would be any where her legs are closed, and/or bent. I keep myself very tight so this isn’t a problem for me. But with my first boyfriend who I ever had sex with, he was very tiny….like, OB tampon tiny. Even as a virgin, he didn’t make a “big impact” if you will; I just laid there and counted the star appliques on his ceiling. The other times we had sex though, I took charge and made position suggestions that would have been better if he weren’t suffering from delusions of grandeur.
Exactly, I’m usually lucky if I can hold out for two positions – that’s “victory” for me.
Some of the male customers on another website were complaining once about escort prices … I made a post saying, essentially … “Hey grow up – nice things cost money”. Out of the blue I get a PM from a lady who manages an FBSM (two or three girls worked for her). Now, even though her place was FBSM – I already knew her rates were “tiered” and consisted of full service. She told me … “Thanks for the post … guys don’t just understand, my girls have no problem with FBSM for $200 – but they are fucking a guy for that much!”
Well – the FBSM included a full oral finish – so all that work and the mess to cleanup is cheaper than covered FS which is a lot neater and faster? LOL – Okay.
Also – you may not understand why some girls want to do the oral thing more than intercourse. Well, I think the reason you may not understand this is because you are still “snug”. The girls who aren’t are very orally oriented and really want to show off their technique to you. I think they believe that oral is the only way they can shine if they aren’t “snug” anymore. So they all have varying elaborate oral techniques – which I will confess are pretty neat.
Now I LOVE all girls – snug or not – they can always make up in mood and enthusiam. However, since this is always a SAFE SEX business – I can tell you that the snug ones are more preferable when you’re using a cover because you can feel a lot more. Without the cover – it’s not that important to me – but with the cover it makes a difference.
How does this ‘snug’ bs work when the vagina is a muscle that literally tightens with us. It’s a personal choice. For whatever reason. You sound gross. Not surprised. This passive aggressive attacking of sex workers for not doing things your way….. When we are all different. Run our business differently whether for food or bad. Ugh gross.
OK, perv question, but…
Is it possible for the penis to actually push past the cervix, entering the uterus itself? I mean without causing severe injury. I ask because it seems to be a somewhat common fantasy, but I haven’t heard of it happening for real.