I have noticed that in the last few years there’ve been an unusually large number of stories about female teachers getting involved with their male students. I used to read occasionally about a male teacher and a female student, but now there are many more stories than before, and nearly all about female teachers. What’s changed? Was this always going on, and is now just being detected more? Did people used to not care about this, or is this a consequence of the growing surveillance state?
While the increased presence of cops in schools and the growth of “snitch culture” are certainly contributing factors, what has really changed most is the legal climate. It used to rightfully be understood that most teen boys would kill to fuck am attractive female teacher, but that changed due to the increasing infantilization of teenagers: whereas teen boys used to be considered young men, now they are “children”; whereas sex with an older woman would have previously been considered a rite of passage, now it’s “child molestation”. Furthermore, in recent decades the “authorities” have recognized that they could use “feminist” assumptions now coded into law to persecute women just as they have always persecuted men; the “Violence Against Women Act”, for example, increased arrests of women by 446% in California. What this all boils down to is that the rate of the “crime” has not increased; it’s just that it was not previously called a “crime” and nobody pretended it was one. And given that some now want to extend adolescence into the mid-twenties, the problem is likely to get a lot worse before it gets better.
How have the NSA surveillance revelations impacted sex workers? Is there any sort of push for encrypting communications with clients?
There’s no big push yet, but I wouldn’t be at all surprised if one were to appear soon. Cops usually entrap escorts by stings rather than by surveillance, but most of us are rightfully paranoid and will close any security holes we see.
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Girl … you did NOT understate that!! 😀
Some of the teachers were old bitties – and I wasn’t interested in them. But there were a few new ones, young ones and I’ll be damned if I listened to a single word they said during class. I was too busy trying to make out what color bra she was wearing, or if her nipple might be erect through it, or find the panty line through her skirt. Then I’d go home and beat my dick like it owed me money! 😛 We didn’t have internet porn back then – we had to use our imagination. You’d get a little flash from a teacher and that image would be BURNED into your mind for recall later in your bedroom.
I’m willing to bet it still happens. I’ve often said that Linda Carter is the woman who got me through puberty … but she was assisted by a buffet of hot teacher vixens.
And … those images? THEY ARE STILL BURNED IN MY MIND!!!
I remember one teacher I was so hot for – I would draw pictures of body parts on the shower door when it got fogged up. Fuck me … my fingers had soap on them – so when my Mom went in to clean the shower and started the hot water – all my “tit murals” and “ass masterpieces” would come right back to life … for her! I blamed it on my brothers but I think Mom knew who the little pervert was! 😛
I have often said that the reason I was no good at teaching was that I was much too young; I was only 20 when I got my first job, and many of my students were 17. They viewed me more as a member of their dating pool than as an authority figure.
i will get my degree in two years and then i will hopefully start teaching.the way things go in Greece to make the most money i will privately tutor students from 15 to 17 years of age as those are the students who need preparation for the exams that will grand them university entrance.i hope i wont have an authority problem at 23,but im certainly worried.now if they will masturbate thinking about me i dont care as long as it doesnt mess with my work.
You might be one of the few women who don’t. I don’t know.
I used to date a girl in Hawaii named Sue who was a bikini-model extra for TV shows. She was dumber than a post and a plank of plywood had more enthusiasm for sex than she had. I told her once … “Hey Sue, why don’t you let me take some pics of you and send them to Playboy – they might ask you to model for them – you have the body for sure!” And she’s like … “Ewwww, I can’t stand the thought of all those men masturbating with my picture!”
No … as usual, she was mixed up … what she really meant was that she hated the thought of old, ugly, fat guys masturbating to her picture. For Tom Selleck – she would have sent him an entire portfolio of life-sized, color enhanced nudes to toss off to along with a bottle of her favorite perfume just to hornball him up from the olfactory side too.
Women are funny. It’s like – if an old fat guy that you don’t know and have never met spanks his monkey in New Jersey and he’s fantasizing about you – you’re somehow “fouled” even though you live over 5,000 miles away! LOL
Do women mind if their HUSBANDS “punch the munchkin” while thinking about … HER? I think my wife barely tolerates the thought! Me? Sometimes I get excited and think that maybe there’s a girl or two out there who flays herself under the sheets in her darkened bedroom thinking about ME – but I’m pretty sure that’s a fantasy. 😛
Don’t get me wrong – I”m not advocating teacher / student sexual relationships of any type. Teachers need to be respected and it’s probably not good if one or two of the students has an intimate knowledge of one and spreads that around school. Any time you have a senior / subordinate relationship wrt teaching or employment – I don’t think it’s a good idea.
But I was 17 when I lost my virginity to a 35 year old divorceend … I think that was a DAMN good idea! She mercy fucked me much like Saavick did to young Spock when he was going through “Pon Farr” on the Genesis planet. And – I’ll admit … that I was shaking and babbling just like young Spock the whole time. That woman was a tall glass of water in the middle of the Mohave desert for me, I was about to pull my hair out until she rescued me.
Teacher/student relationships don’t bother me so long as they are consensual on both sides. But where all the power lies with the teacher, how sure can you be that this is the case? What if the boy did not find the teacher attractive? (Not all teachers are sex bombs.) What if the boy is 14 yrs old?
Would you hold the same attitude if a male teacher had sex with a 14 year old girl?
I certainly remember numerous female teachers that I would not have touched with a ten foot pole.
As for not punishing such (consensual) activity, it’s fine by me so long as male and female teachers are treated exactly the same under the law. I’m all for equal rights.
Ha, I totally agree with Krulac. There was one English teacher when I was in 10th grade that looked like she was fresh out of college. She was a very nice looking blue eyed & blond. I used to actually cut up in class just to get her attention and that’s something I normally never did.
It would actually be fairly easy to set up encryption for emails. You use plugins for your email client that use public key encryption. There’s one password that you give out freely. When someone sends you an email they encrypt it with your public key. You also have another key which is used to decrypt it.
“Like it owed me money” made me laugh out loud😀
Sure the boys haven’t changed, but it would be surprising if lady teachers were as pathetically unrestrained in the past.
Well said. I agree.
This week’s brouhaha in the UK is about a 41 year old male teacher and a 13 year old student. She went to his home, stripped and performed a “sex act” on him. She told a “friend” who told the police.
The girl was described in Court as “sexually experienced” and a “predator”; it was the prosecuting lawyer who said this, the judge agreeing. The teacher received an eight month prison sentence, suspended for two years. (He was also charged with the possession of child pornography.)
Unsurprisingly, the “victim blaming” has not gone down well; her “experience” can only be the result of rape, etc. The barrister won’t be getting any more such cases to prosecute, the judge is being investigated, the case may be referred to the Appeal Court to see if the sentence is too lenient; and separately the Lord Chief Justice has stated that a panel of judges with special training in child-sex cases will hear such cases in future (suggesting that the present judges don’t have any such training).
Yet, reading the Psychology Today article you refer to, it’s clear what the “natural” or “primitive” state of affairs is likely to be. But then, we are not a “primitive” society, we are an “advanced” one.
More about the case here:
http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-23597224
I was a bit snarky about the “untrained” judges. It seems that there is a panel of “rape certified” judges, that is, those who’ve had training to enable them to hear rape cases. Some of these panel members are to have further training in the sensitivities of young witnesses, for whom being repeatedly called a liar can be very traumatic.
This case was discussed on BBCTV this evening. There was an interview with a young girl/woman/witness in an unrelated trial; she was about 12 at the time. She was repeatedly called a liar by a defense barrister, to the stage where she was so distressed that she could not continue. The judge stopped the trial, the defendants went free. A very cynical thought occurred to me; was it a deliberate ploy by the (female) lawyer to so upset the witness that she would be unable to continue, thus stopping the trial and freeing her client?
The email privacy/security problem is largely solved and tools are available as FOSS (free and open source software). This is not malware-laden share-ware, but high-quality publicly-developed peer-reviewed software. Some is even produced under the respected GNU brand by the FSF (free software foundation).
Some far-seeing geeks identified this problem long ago and have worked tirelessly for years to solve it, often at great personal sacrifice, and have given their work to the public domain. See Phil Zimmerman.
If you want secure email, first get away from web-mail (gmail, hotmail, etc). Then get away from windows, which is notoriously vulnerable.
My specific recommendation would be to:
(1) get a small laptop dedicated to email, and don’t use it for anything else
(2) install ubuntu linux (replace windows)
(3) delete the evolution email client built in to ubuntu
(4) install the thunderbird email client
(5) install an openPGP compatible encryption plugin for thunderbird
All of this is relatively easy to do. All the software is in the ubuntu repositories and can be installed with just a few clicks. Sadly ubuntu pushes evolution, a microsoft compatible email client, that i wouldn’t trust.
The reason that things like this are not better known is because the only trustworthy software is that produced by non-profit organizations. There is no advertising budget. Often they try hard to keep a low profile, because of repeated government persecution.
Security is not a product but a never ending process. Don’t trust anybody trying to sell you security. The tools are out there and the best ones are free. If you want security, you have to study and think for your self.
Don’t know if it’s true – but as a young submariner (who worked with crypto equipment occasionally – and begrudgingly) … I was told that if anyone came up with an “unbreakable” code (read: one that couldn’t be broken by NSA) … then they would receive a knock at the door from … NSA.
I do not believe that NSA would rest a second if they knew there was some kind of security protocol out there in the open domain that they couldn’t break through. They used to have huge, pornographically expensive Cray mainframes specifically for cracking code.
I could be talking through my ass here – because I’ve never worked for NSA (that I know of). I got none of this info from classified sources … just deckplate gossip.
But it would make sense that … as “rule #1” … that they would not rest a second with a security tool out there that they knew about yet couldn’t subvert.
TOR browser for instance. Said to be secure … yet it was developed by Navy Research Labs (I think) and released to the public.
Yeah right – that’s a Trojan Horse right there and you can bet NRL and the NSA both have back doors to bust that Tor browser all to shreds.
In the end … Commander Adama said … “Fuck it … you guys unplug my BattleStar from that sonofabitch mainframe and anything else that talks in ones and zero’s because there’s no way to be sure.”
He just gave up.
I do not believe there is a “backdoor” in RSA (the Rivest Shamir Adleman cryptosystem).
That is not to say that NSA cannot decrypt it. However, it takes them time. Significant time. They cannot afford to decrypt every email on the net. So it is worthwhile to encrypt your email.
There is something to be said for turning your computer off and unplugging it. That is the ultimate in security. However, it is also lacking in utility. In practice you have to find a reasonable balance.
I note that last week an obscure Russian agency placed a purchase order for old fashioned typewriters.
Some countries (sadly, mine is among their number) set limits on the length of the keys used in those protocols (public-key cryptography like RSA) for civilian usage in order to allow the government agencies to crack the codes. I’m not sure such limits exist in the USA, but RSA can be brute-forced (though if someone ever discovers a better way to factor integers into a product of primes, RSA will be much easier to crack). Still, that takes time and they definitely cannot crack every email that transits on the net. I bet they reserve that to the people they consider seriously dangerous. Otherwise, they’ll juste note who sends messages to whom.
Although encryption may not be absolutely safe it would take some pretty dedicated effort to crack it. A problem I see is that although it can be set up fairly simply, a lot of people just aren’t the least bit tech savvy. As far as installing Linux on a machine I don’t see the average person going out and doing that. If a sex worker did set up an encryption system and required all clients to communicate that way she’d end up losing most of her clients. Also there would have to be an app for cell phones that would do the encryption/decryption.
I was just about to comment on that.
IMHO, the biggest reason for the sudden spike in *reported* female teacher-male student abuse cases is simple: in modern times, the “any port in a storm” idea is moot.
As mentioned above by various posters, there are no real restrictions placed in female sexuality in modern times. Pregnancy? Take a pill. Disease? Take another pill. Chastity?LOLOMGWTF. However, during the old days, teenaged girls (as the most accessible sexual foci of teenaged boys) had the most to lose and the least to gain from being promiscuous. This, obviously, led to the average teenaged girl being as “chaste” as a nun (even among the flappers and other libertines, the majority of them were holding out on PIV until rings and parental introductions occured.) In fact, I’ve met plenty of older gentlemen (veterans in the 65+ age range) who didn’t go “all the way” until they were stationed overseas (because their local “bad girls” earned their reputations by being willing to give *handjobs* and nothing else.) And even when you could meet a girl who was willing to touch it, where would you go? Mamas were always around, Pops were never too far away, and God forbid that you were living in a small town. And speaking of **God**…
So, a teenaged boy who couldn’t afford *condoms* (never mind the money needed for weddings or children or pornography or the cost of hookers) would have treated a willing older woman like gold. Doubly so if the boy in question wasn’t especially attractive or skilled (as those boys would have had their hands full with female admirers.) Sure, he *could* report “Ms. Dalrymple” for touching his daddy parts, but he would have to get back into the mating game as well. A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, so the idea of snitching would have been anathema..
But, in modern times, with mommy at work and a box that gives you thousands of pictures and videos and a plethora of Daddy issues-laden teen girls, there’s no reason for omerta. If she gets busted, the child isn’t going to be starved of stimulation. He gets victim cred from one side and a status boost from his peers. He has no reason to *not* talk.
Today’s teen girls aren’t any wilder than back in the day. For instance, teen pregnancy is now at historic lows. I know, I know, people will say, “Yeah, ’cause now they’re on the Pill!” Well, in the olden days they didn’t take the Pill, and they got pregnant. And it isn’t not taking the Pill that makes a girl pregnant; it’s not taking the Pill and having sex that makes a girl pregnant.
The average age of first intercourse these days is barely seventeen for girls, and almost seventeen for boys. It hasn’t varied by more than a couple of years either way in decades, and I mean five or more decades.
One of the things I detested most about the teenage years was that, whenever it was something I wanted (like sex, although I was behind my age mates in such regards, due to lack of spending money/car and most HS girls being as mercenary as so many condottieri) the response from the society around me was “No! Oh, NOOOO! You’re too young! An innocent child! Practically a baby!” But if it was something I didn’t want to do…all of a sudden what I heard was “Man up! You’re practically an adult! How dare you balk?” I could handle “child” status—I didn’t like it but I could deal. I could handle “adult” status—rather better than some chronological adults I knew, as a matter of fact. But I wanted consistency.
I agree; that’s one of the worst things about our society’s treatment of adolescents. It probably does more damage than simple infantilization alone would.
You all know where I stand on that: agreement with you both.
Now, that a teenager is a child when it’s most restrictive and an adult when that’s most restrictive has become official in the worst way. The age where you’re old enough to do things is going up, but the age at which you can be tried as an adult is coming down.
It probably won’t get to the point where you have to be thirty to have sex but we’re handing out death penalties to ten-year-olds, but that’s the directions we’re going.
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More bad news for folks on the Information Highway; The UK House of Commons have passed the third reading of the Investigatory Powers Bill, the so called “Snoopers Charter”, into the House of Lords. Info here : http://services.parliament.uk/bills/2015-16/investigatorypowers.html
This bill, in effect, legalises mass surveillance of all electronic communications in the UK.
This is worse than the Nazi Gestapo. When this passes (it would be almost unprecedented if the HoL toss back a Public Bill) FREEDOM WILL BE DEAD IN THE UK.
Big Brother (the Orwellian Concept) will be listening to everything electronic all the time. Everything recorded, everything kept. Every text, email, tweet, and phonecall.
Watch for robust encryption and computer location anonymity to be the next legal targets.
Can you hear that? That distant crunching sound? That’s the sound of jackboots, mate. 😱