What is meant when girls say “upscale”? Does it have some meaning outside of the donation rates?
When the word is used to describe an incall, it’s basically intended to assure prospective clients that they aren’t going to a squalid apartment in a seedy neighborhood. But when words like “upscale”, “high-end”, “luxury”, “sophisticated” and “VIP” are used by escorts to describe themselves, they don’t really mean anything specific or quantifiable; they’re just branding words, used to convey an image and attract the kind of clientele the user believes such words attract: wealthy, generous, and unlikely to haggle. Of course, they’re just as likely to attract solidly middle-class guys out to treat themselves to a luxurious experience, which is why soap is described as having “luxurious lather” and chocolates are described as “decadent”. Personally, I try to avoid empty words like that in my marketing; as a writer I prefer words that actually mean specific things, and distrust emotive words with little semantic weight (especially those that seem a bit snobby to my ears). In reality, most sex workers will see whichever men can pass screening, pay our rates & treat us properly, “upscale” or not; I doubt very many really care whether a good client is a neurosurgeon or a bricklayer as long as he behaves like a gentleman. Mind you, I’m not criticizing the ladies who use that kind of ad copy; if it works for them & brings in money, good for them & long may they prosper. The fact is, some guys respond to “puttin’ on the Ritz” kind of words, just like many of the guys who call me are responding to my perceived intelligence & sophistication. Or my huge tits. And we all use the branding that keeps the money coming in.
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The “my perceived intelligence & sophistication” item made me laugh. An excellent multi-layer joke in the context of this website.
As to the word-games, the same is extremely common in the consumer-tech world. Everything is “high performance”, “innovative”, “excellent”, “superior”, etc. Nothing of this means anything with regards to the product, but serves quite the same purpose as the language used by some ladies in the horizontal business: To get a specific type of customer interested and excited. As the tech world also has marketing targeted at experts, you can sometimes see a striking contrast. One is done in bombastic language where everything is great and shiny, the other is a cold, accurate and (usually) completely honest list of features and limitations.
My personal take is that this kind of language is acceptable with regards to business ethics as long as it is not directly misleading and directly promising things that are just not there. Imagination is always part of spending money on a luxury item or service and makes the whole experience better.
One thing about me, I’d always rather go with a woman who had a sensibly high price than try to get a bargain. When I first started I went to off the grid places that might be brothels or might not be. Usually I had no way of knowing till I was in the room with a girl if I had just wasted my time or not. (Obviously, this being the United States, none of these brothels could advertise as such, so they would just hint at what they really were.. which sometimes turned out not to be the case.)
With a high-end escort you would end up with an escort who knew what she was there for, knew what you were there for, and didn’t try to up-sell you because you were spending enough money up front that it wasn’t necessary.
Upscale for me? Means a professional who acts like a professional.