I’ve never been with any kind of sex worker before, and I’m planning to book an escort in a couple weeks. I asked for a three-hour date because I wanted there to be plenty of time; longer appointments seem to be what high-end escorts generally prefer anyway. I imagine the first part of the date will be getting acquainted, having a drink, etc, but I’m a little concerned that when things turn physical I might climax very quickly; if that happens, is it OK thing to to go again, or is it better to try and prevent it from happening? Or would you suggest I shorten the date to two hours?
It would be pretty rare for a “high-end” escort to do a la carte pricing; we charge only for time, though most of us do have separate rates for purely social dates (no intimate contact at all) and “full service” dates. So it really doesn’t matter what y’all do with the time, and most experienced escorts aren’t going to be surprised if a guy wants to go twice in a three-hour date, especially if the first one is accomplished fairly quickly. That having been said, don’t try to spring a second round on her with less than half an hour in the session, unless of course you want to piss her off. With the exception of Tantra, “edging”, etc, the preoccupation with delaying orgasm is purely a male one; men seem to imagine that women like interminable pistoning, and nothing could be further from the truth (especially with a pro). When a man expends effort in attempting to delay orgasm, all he usually accomplishes is annoying his escort and (if he succeeds too well, which I have seen happen innumerable times) frustrating himself. I suggest you spend the first hour chatting and relaxing, then let nature take its course; if you climax quickly and want to do it again, try to start around the beginning of the third hour. But if you are satisfied after the first (and most men are), just spend the rest of the time enjoying a beautiful lady’s company; most of us are quite good at entertaining gentlemen in ways other than having sex.
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Enjoy unlearn from reading your blog/email. Term “interminable pistoning” gave me a laugh altho realize it probably not funny to the women. Whe younger, problem for us guys was not to come too quick, now that am older problem is the opposite-often just takes too long to ffinally come. Problem largely mine, but some women iinadvertantly pull me back from the brink, often because of their supposed orgasming or other disruptive moves. How tell woman she need not fake coming, just please go with my rhythm and sort of let me take charge so to speak. Also, obviously tougher to finish when condom on, any suggestions on things to do or use to help with this? Certainly not going to go bare or use lambskin? Take care….Jim