This isn’t a question; it’s the kind of letter from a reader which lifts my heart and inspires me to keep fighting for what’s right. The last paragraph at the bottom was my reply.
I just wanted to thank you from the bottom of my heart for what you are doing. I recently lost my virginity (at the age of 23) with an independent escort, but I was extremely nervous, and I felt awful the whole time because I believed I was doing something horrible. The woman explained her work to me very rationally and assured me that she was doing this of her own free will, but I still felt so bad that some nights I could not sleep. During the following weeks I read as much as I could about sex work, especially testimonies from workers themselves and, little by little, I realized that this was honest, good and decent work. After finding your blog I felt liberated from my guilt and decided that this is the life I want to live. I still want to look for a romantic relationship with the prospects of making a family, but now that I have “found” sex work as a way to fulfill my needs in the meantime, I feel so much calmer. I no longer see sex as this dark, secret hush-hush act; I’ve been with one other sex worker since then, and I can say without a doubt it was one of the best experiences I’ve had in my adult life. I know it’s an act and that the girl is putting on a performance, but it was so sweet and kind. The people who work in this industry are saints in my book and should be treated with the utmost respect. Thank you for everything.
Thank you so much for writing this; I’m so glad you were able to throw off that awful guilt. The “authorities” want people to feel bad about pleasure of any kind (ever notice that the only things they claim are “bad for you” are those that bring pleasure?) so you’ll work harder and they can manipulate you. But that’s no way to live; as you’ve discovered, thinking for yourself and trusting your own experiences rather than what “authorities” tell you leads to a much fuller, more rewarding life. I hope you continue to have great experiences with other sex workers in the future!
I found your response about how only things of pleasure being restricted to be absolutely stunning. That is, of course, the basis for the war on drugs. That is so enlightening. Thank you for giving me that understanding.
You’re welcome. I first noticed it myself as a teenager, when a study showing that the absolute worst food for the teeth is spinach got no traction in the press AT ALL. Of course it didn’t; why demonize a green vegetable when you can attack sugar instead? And everyone ignores the studies showing that school should start later in the day so teenagers can get more sleep; the idea of sleeping later offends the puritans, better educational results be damned.
The “anti fun” coalition is going strong and probably will be so as long as there is organized virtue signalling (a.k.a. “religion” and its variants). Took me a bit longer to realize than you, probably also because it is nowhere near that strong where I grew up in Europe, but these people are completely mental.
Thank you for sharing this wonderful letter of appreciation about sex workers and how they have improved his life. It really captures the essence of how most customers feel towards the sex workers that are such an important parrt of tehir lives. I’ve always defined it as a feeling of genuine love without falling in love.
The more messages from customers like this the public reads that contradicts the law enforcement/NGOs/mainstream media narrative about customers being exploitative monsters, the sooner these same groups will move on to targeting some other marginalized groups to satisfy America’s addiction to mass incarceration.
Just finished re-reading Aristophanes’ “Lysistrata,” and it reminds me of why I have come to the conclusion over the last year that men should be denied the right to hold office in government or large corporations for 100 years, just to give women an opportunity to fix the world.
The compassion shown to that 23 year-old by the sex worker is far greater than he would experience from any government agency or large corporation I am aware of in existence. It doesn’t mean that there aren’t compassionate people in government or corporations; it just means that they are usually quickly burned out by attempting to do their jobs in a just and compassionate manner. I know that from personal experience.