A country without bordellos is like a house without bathrooms. – Marlene Dietrich
As I’ve pointed out before, male sexuality tends to get out of control when untended. I’m sure every sexually experienced female reader knows exactly what I’m talking about; if for some reason you can’t give your man any tail for a while his sexual fantasies and sex talk usually start to get stranger and more extreme as the days go by, and your normal man’s sexuality may go from vanilla to kinky to perverted to weird to just plain sick. Most men don’t really want to do the more unusual stuff they’re talking about, but they sure as hell think about it, and one can only imagine how bad it gets for men who don’t have regular bed partners. Whores, of course, don’t have to imagine; we see all the time what happens when an untended male fire spreads beyond its proper boundaries and endangers others. If the untended male is in the right (or rather, wrong) position these can even become wildfires which threaten entire populations and can cause millions of dollars of damage.
The most common way in which the uncontrolled male sex drive can be dangerous is of course rape, though amazingly enough there are many people who deny this. Back in the early 1970s (before neofeminists took over the movement), leading feminists wanted to call attention to the problem of rape, yet didn’t want to scare women by also calling attention to the fact that male sexuality is inherently predatory. In other words, they did not want to risk reversing the gains of the “sexual revolution” by allowing the average woman to realize that sex has a powerful, profound and untamable dark side and that consequently, sexual freedom carries risks. Note the strong taint of Neomarxism already rearing its ugly head here; the feminist “elite” felt that most women were too immature or stupid to be allowed to take responsibility for themselves and so had to be lied to for the “greater good”. So the myth that “rape is a crime of violence, not of sex” was invented and aggressively promoted; once this slogan became ingrained in the public consciousness it even proved useful in deflecting the monstrous old rapist criminal defense that the victim actually wanted to be raped. If rape had nothing to do with sex, her actions or state of dress or whatever obviously had nothing to do with it.
A crime victim should not be blamed for attracting a criminal, but the notion that rape has nothing to do with lust is arrant nonsense. Most rapes are committed not by angry strangers with guns, but by horny acquaintances who are very much attracted to the victim (as revealed to the general public during the whole “date rape” brouhaha of the early 90s). 65% of rape victims are between 12 and 30 and 29% between 12-17; the rape rate for girls of 16-19 is four times that of women in general. Does that sound to you like something that has nothing to do with sexual attraction? The very idea is asinine. And then there’s the “elephant in the parlor” of penile erection; it’s necessary for penetration, yet as any heterosexual non-virgin could tell you it only occurs when a man is sexually excited. Feminists somehow managed the nigh-miraculous feat of getting nearly everyone in American society to drink the “rape has nothing to do with sex” kool-aid despite the fact that most of the people repeating this inane mantra are adults who know very well that rape cannot be accomplished unless the rapist is sexually aroused! Sometimes they’ll elaborate even further by saying “rape isn’t about sex, it’s about power and control” – despite the fact that BDSM exists precisely because power and control are inextricably bound up with sex!
But despite its absurdity, the “rape as asexual” dogma continues to be promulgated in the US by both government and neofeminists for the very good reason that if women realized that rape is largely caused by sexual frustration, they would collectively demand that prostitution be legalized and that would NOT satisfy the prohibitionist agenda. A number of cross-cultural studies such as this one have shown that in every culture where prostitution is legalized, the rape rate dramatically decreases; the author of the linked paper predicts a 25% decrease in rape in the US if prostitution were legalized. That’s right, the neofeminists and politicians know what’s best for women, so they allow an extra 25,000 of us to be raped every year rather than bury their opposition to a venerable institution which also provides income for many tens of thousands of other women. But I’m sure all the women who were raped by sex-mad men this year can rest assured in the knowledge that their torture was not in vain; after all, it was necessary to advance the holy neofeminist cause of preventing heterosexual males from having convenient access to sex.

Phillip John Eide (AKA “Xavier Von Erck”), the unemployed 26-year-old self-confessed computer gamer and wrestling aficionado from Portland, Oregon who founded “Perverted Justice”.
But rape is only the least of the problems which can be caused by frustration-induced perversion, because it affects only one woman at a time; some frustrated men manage to gain sexual gratification at the expense of dozens, hundreds or even thousands of victims. Vice cops are a perfect example; consider the one I mentioned on August 6th who got such a sadistic sexual thrill out of tricking and arresting whores that he needed to talk about it in order to excite himself after he retired, or the ones who tried to get themselves off by entrapping me, or the ones who lie in order to get streetwalkers declared “sex offenders” for several decades. Another example is provided by the maladjusted computer geeks and online gamers who staff organizations like “Perverted Justice”; these creeps get their jollies by pretending to be young teenage girls in online chat rooms and drawing men into graphic sexual conversations with them, then publishing the conversations online or digging up details on their victims (by hacking personal records if necessary) and harassing them mercilessly by phoning them and their families, calling their employers to report them as “pedophiles”, etc. The American television network NBC actually gave these perverts a TV show for several years, but were forced to drop it in the face of mounting lawsuits from the families of people whose lives they had ruined, such as Louis Conradt, the district attorney (talk about feeding on their own!) in Texas who committed suicide when police and NBC camera trucks showed up on his lawn because of an online conversation with one of these predatory perverts. The website Corrupted Justice is dedicated to fighting these frustrated monsters whose out-of-control sexuality has destroyed the lives of over 1000 men with no due process whatsoever.
The Injustice Perverts are allowed to get away with their sadistic game because they claim one of the oldest excuses in the world, that they’re doing it to “protect children”. As defined by control fetishists, the term “child” is a protean one, morphing to mean whatever it is convenient to mean. And apparently in the minds of state attorneys, it can be used to mean “adult prostitutes using online advertising”. Yes, flushed with their imaginary “victory” over Craigslist, the Perverts General of 21 American states (Arkansas, Connecticut, Delaware, Idaho, Illinois, Iowa, Kansas, Maine, Maryland, Michigan, Mississippi, Missouri, Montana, Nevada, New Hampshire, Ohio, Rhode Island, South Carolina, Tennessee, Texas and Virginia) have now directed their lurid fantasies of widespread white slavery rings trading underage girls on public websites toward Backpage.com, another popular internet classified site. One can imagine these undersexed lawyers sitting in their bathrooms at night, furiously masturbating themselves to thoughts of nubile young slave girls bought and sold in an eBay of flesh; then going in to work the next day and, their minds disordered by lack of sexual contact with the professionals they dare not hire in election years, lashing out at websites based conveniently in less sexually-repressed regions while describing their sick fantasies in graphic detail via press releases.
It’s time for society to recognize the tremendous harm done by sexually frustrated males and to address it not in the judgmental, punitive ways favored by neofeminists, but rather in a compassionate, pragmatic way which recognizes that these men only behave this way due to repression of their natural impulses. It is not possible to legislate a problem out of existence, and the Pollyannaish “just say no” approach ignores the primordial power of the male sex drive, a force so great it was deified by the ancients. Since Western society has apparently decided that it is no longer the responsibility of wives to provide for their husbands’ sexual needs, and since unmarried men have nobody to provide for them in the first place, we need Vestals to tend the fires of male passion in order to keep them from becoming dangerous conflagrations. Fortunately, society already has such priestesses, the daughters of an ancient order going back to the very beginning of human history but long discredited and suppressed by the jealous priests of other orders. All we ask is that politicians, hypocrites and neofeminists step back, stop harassing us, and let us do our jobs.
Solving problems through compassion? What an odd notion.
I think there may be a difference between pedophiles — people with an authentic paraphilia (i.e. sex with chiildren is their fetish, to varying degrees, from being ‘very good’ to be ‘the only way’ to have sex) and people who, because of sexual frustration, end up doing desperate things (like attacking an available child who cannot defend him/herself).
I don’t think that frustration leads to developing new ideas — usually what our likes and dislikes are doesn’t change with the level of frustration, but rather the amount of effort we’re going to put into getting it, and how many other factors, problems, etc. you’re going to ignore to get what you want. When you are starved, you don’t suddenly start eating stones; but you start suddenly breaking into houses and restaurants or supermarkets to steal food. We might even go as far as cannibalism; but again, we won’t be eating glasses or iron pans, will we? I think our body pretty much knows what it can digest and what it can’t.
Your thesis resonates with me.
I’ve thought the mantra “Rape is about Violence” is easy to understand, politically palatable, and will generate concern and money to the cause.
“Rape is about Lust”……….hmm. Not sure what to do about that.
The neofeminists, as you call them, picked a winner.
The “rape is not a crime of sex” dogma was already well-established by the time the neofeminists took over the feminist movement in the early ’80s; I suspect that if they had been in control from the beginning they’d have been only too happy to cast rape as a natural outgrowth of male sexuality. And indeed, many of them have tried since then, with predictably confusing results.
then, who/how/why did the “rape is about violence” mantra take hold?
My Daughter #1 went to overpriced elite university and learned that mantra, which kinda sickened me.
As I explained in the essay, it was a strategy of early ’70s feminists, who were largely pro-sex, to warn women about the dangers of rape without scaring them away from their newfound sexual freedom. The leadership didn’t think “hey, sexual liberty is dangerous so enjoy it but please be careful and take responsibility for your actions” was nearly as catchy as “rape is not about sex”. In a way this catechism helped to create “date rape” as a big problem because it encouraged women to take sexual risks while simultaneously teaching them that guys who rape are some kind of monster (which obviously that cute, nice guy you’re going home with just couldn’t be). Later the “all men are potential rapists” campaign was started to try to fix this, but the damage was already done.
Indeed. But there was a Scylla and Charybdis problem here. When said sexual freedom as an idea was still new and under strong criticism by the right, telling women who had just awakened to the possibility that sex might be something they could enjoy, or even think about without going to hell or becoming social pariahs, telling them to ‘be careful’ would be something that religious-minded anti-sex activists would have certainly used. “Yes, sex is dangerous — so don’t do it!” or something like that.
It seems always so difficult to portray something as it really is — with dark and light sides, about which one can think impartially… Especially with sex (but also with some other topics), one apparently always has to choose one side and claim it says everything you need to know. Maybe some day people will understand that life isn’t so unidimensional. But it will take time.
I always strive in this column to portray harlotry as it is, both light and dark; that’s the philosophy behind next week’s columns (February 21st-24th), which portray a very dark side indeed.
It contains an element of truth. Women want sex with men who are more powerful than they are. A woman telling a man that she doesn’t find him attractive is implying that he isn’t as powerful as she is. The man’s desire to have sex with her is thus conflated and intertwined with his desire to prove he is more powerful than her.
” penile erection; it’s necessary for penetration, yet as any heterosexual non-virgin could tell you it only occurs when a man is sexually excited. ”
I could debate the crap out of that statement by itself, citing as my list of examples otherwise: “morning wood” “purely physical stimulation” “female-to-male rape” and “Adolescence”.
However, in the context of your essay’s point (“is a male rapist sexually aroused, or acting upon malice only?”) you’re correct; he is aroused. So I’ll skip the mini-essay in the comments of a longer one. 😛
Well, masturbation works well in controlling male sexuality. It does require that the male in question is both reasonably comfortable doing it and actually does understand the problem, namely that unreleased sexual tension has a massive negative impact on cognitive functions, of which lower impulse control is just a factor. A higher willingness to rape is one of the effects, and it is quite possible that quite a few rapists do not understand what they are doing during the act.
Of course, that is another thing the neofeminists do not like: While rape is complicated and certainly has strong sexual components, neofeminists are not: They hate men and want as much power over them as possible. Controlling male sexuality, primarily by denying sex, is one of the strategies transparently employed. This is also why they hate prostitutes and porn so much: Sex for money and masturbation-aids sabotages this strategy.
Of course, our culture’s lack of compassion for men who “can’t get laid” doesn’t help, either. A “real man” is expected to be “getting it regularly,” and if you aren’t, then you aren’t a “real man.”
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All male sexuality is predatory?! Does that also mean that all female sexuality is mercenary? Most men – at least most middle class white men who are not LEOs do not engage in rape when sexually frustrated. Rather they retreat into depression and self-harm: over-working, over eating, smoking, drinking too much. I would say that your statement is absolutely correct that in western culture wives no longer consider it their responsibility to tend to their husband’s sexual needs. Certainly not after age 40. Most of the married guys I know over 40 are slightly mad from sexual deprivation.
I believe Trayce Hansen has written an excellent essay exposing this fallacy.
http://www.drtraycehansen.com/Pages/writings_politics.html
One of the excellent points made is that in most rapes, only enough violence is used to get the victim to submit. This is, obviously, completely inconsistent with feminist dogma.
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