As a flower dies without water,
As the night is blind without the moon,
So is my heart without you, beloved. – from one of my husband’s love poems
On May 31st I asked my readers to submit questions for a collective interview with my husband; he read those questions and dictated replies to me, then I rearranged the questions and answers so as to provide a more logical flow, combining some answers and slightly rewording a few questions in the process. When answering one of the questions he suggested I provide a link to the column I did on the subject, and we decided I should do the same for other answers where appropriate. One point of interest: We’ve never been exactly sure who the mystery woman who steered him in my direction (see the first question below) was because he couldn’t remember which service he called, but I’m pretty sure it must have been Linda. All the words in non-italic, non-bold type in today’s and tomorrow’s column are his.
How did you meet Maggie?
I was in New Orleans and was in the process of getting a divorce after finding out my wife had cheated on me, so I decided it would be fair for me to call an escort. So I called an agency, and the woman said she didn’t take credit cards, but she referred me to another agency that did and it was Maggie’s. So then I called and I asked for an older girl and Maggie said, “I’m 34, will I do?” She sounded nice, so we worked out the details and she came over to my hotel (and then we played board games, because anything else would be unlawful). One thing led to another, and the rest is history.
Have you always had respect for the working girls, or is this something Maggie gave you? Or to put it another way — before you met Maggie, could you have imagined being married to a hooker?
I have always had the same respect for working girls as for the butcher, the baker and the candlestick maker; they’re just people making a living. I saw other girls before I met Maggie, from streetwalkers to escorts, and I respected them as human beings and never thought of them as anything other than people. I don’t think I would’ve ever considered it before, not because I felt less of them but because of the barrier between client and provider (there’s no sense in wishing for ice cream when you’re in the Sahara). But with Maggie it was different; the way she dressed, the way she acted, she was like any other girl I knew; her GFE felt so sincere and so real that it really was like being with a girlfriend, so I felt like I really had a chance with her. And she later told me that she genuinely did like me from the beginning, so that was probably part of what I felt.
At what point did you emotionally cross the line and know that you were in love enough with a working girl to want to get married? How could you tell?
I really don’t remember, but it wasn’t all that long after meeting her. It was love at first sight, and I knew that I would have to work very hard to convince her that I was serious. A few months into the relationship Maggie opened a drawer at my apartment and discovered a stash of beanie babies I had intended to give her one at a time over months; when she looked questioningly at me I said, “I was prepared for a long siege.”
Was your marriage conditional on your being her only partner/“client”?
Originally it was. She agreed that once we were engaged she wouldn’t do any more calls, and though she ran her agency she didn’t do any calls herself, just bachelor parties and two-girl shows. But later due to extreme circumstances we decided she would go back to work herself for a while, from January 2004 until June 2006.
Does Maggie give you a hall pass when you need some outside variety?
She not only provides the hall pass, she usually provides the hall. We discussed what the rules were from the beginning; since she was an escort I knew she had to see other men, but if she had asked me not to see other women I wouldn’t have. However, that wasn’t the case; she has allowed me to see other women on a number of occasions, and sometimes even provided girls for me. If we had to keep a score card it wouldn’t have worked; I don’t think a relationship with an escort can work for everybody, a certain maturity level needs to be there.
Do you give Maggie a hall pass if she wants to hook up with someone for personal pleasure and not professionally?
She has my permission to be with women, but not with men. I feel that I’ve stretched my liberal outlook on her being with other men as far as it can go, and besides she’s told me she isn’t interested in being with any other men. The reason I don’t mind her being with women is selfish, because if she gets involved with another woman I might be invited to participate.
Are you worried about your wife developing feelings for clients that she sees on a regular basis?
No. We’ve talked about it many times and I know it’s only work for her. In ten years it’s never come close to being an issue.
How do you know that she won’t fall for someone else the same way that she fell for you?
Like any other marriage. She’s not more likely to fall in love with someone else than any other woman would be. You might as well worry about your wife falling in love with some guy she sees in the produce aisle at the supermarket. There has to be trust. I have to trust her just like any other man has to trust his wife; if you don’t have trust your relationship won’t work whether she’s an escort or a secretary.
So you’ve never been jealous of her being with other men?
In the beginning I was jealous, not of the sex but rather of the time. Since we had a long-distance relationship our time together was precious, and I resented when she had to go on a call because I was losing that time.
To be continued tomorrow…
Awwww…. Is it too late to ask a question? One of the above brought another question to mind. But I will wait because it may be answered in the continued article later 🙂
It’s definitely not too late; when he was reading the rough draft he mentioned that people would probably ask more questions, and that he’d answer them in the comments. But do wait until tomorrow because there are 10 more questions and a postscript. 🙂
Preface: I don’t think I could be in a romantic relationship with a sex worker, because for me sex is inherently not like butchering animals or baking bread; having said that, I have no problem with harlots or hustlers. For people who do not share my feelings on sex, I imagine sex work can be just like any other job, but I don’t think I will ever visit a sex worker, so my opinion doesn’t count for much. Anyway, please don’t misinterpret the following as an attempt at veiled bigotry, I’m actually curious.
Your husband answered the question about falling in love by saying that you (or a sex worker in general) are not more likely to fall in love than any other woman (or presumably man), but I am quite sure that the scientific consensus is that sexual activity is accompanied by hormone release that triggers and/or intensifies the feeling that is generally called “romantic love”. Has this been taken into consideration, do I overstate the importance or level of biological compulsion, or are you a special case?
When someone uses a drug often, he becomes habituated to it; that is, it takes ever-greater amounts to have any effect. Escorts have sex with strange men all the time, and are pretty much immune to the “romantic” feelings produced by the hormones which accompany sex. In other words, inexperienced girls (who lack extensive exposure to “romance hormones”) are far more likely to fall in love with anyone they fuck than escorts are.
It’s so cool to be immune to the Fuck Me/Love Me drug. It’s like super powers.
LOL! Super Harlot powers! 😀
Harlot Hormonal Power… MAKE-UP!!
GGGGRRRR…….
Thanks for your answer. I once had a colleague who regularly visited with streetwalkers, and he had that exact same experience; a young, streetwalker fell for him, which had never before happened with the older whores, but I never thought about it in this context.
Thanks for your answer.
You’re welcome, Nestor.
Yes.
But the dopamine excitement brain drug that comes from good or great sex with a man that gives the woman gina tingles and otherwise seems like a good partner is part of the process of really falling in love for most women, and the oxytocin brain drug that’s released after good sex and especially orgasms mediates the feeling pair bonded to him for most women.
Doesn’t it follow that promiscuous women and whores will fall a lot less deeply in love, but rather more make the decision that this is a good or great life partner that’s in love with me, whom I’m also sufficiently sexually attracted to?
Did you “fall” in love with you husband, or more decide he was a good choice to love?
I realize this is a very personal question so of course pass if you like, but these two posts are getting into very personal areas.
My reason for asking this is genuinely to try to better understand the dynamics of falling in love when the woman has had a whole hell of a lot of sex partners, whether she’s a pro or not.
I think you’ve got it backward there, Doug, unless I’m reading your comment incorrectly. For women the really good sex comes after one is in love with a man; it isn’t the cause of it but a product of it.
The answer to your question is that no, I didn’t “fall” in love with him. I liked him from the first date, and I found him very attractive; there was that “electricity” there which I’ve only had a very few times in my life. So when he fell in love with me and started wooing me aggressively I started thinking about it, and eventually decided to let him into my heart; it was at that point that I started growing to love him. And honestly, I didn’t miss the “falling” bit at all; my love for him was no less intense for developing slowly rather than quickly. Also, my experiences with falling in love were invariably bad, so had I fallen I would’ve been a lot more cynical about the love being “true” and that could’ve damaged the relationship.
Thank you.
That was genuinely enlightening.
The one part I’ll quibble with is this:
I’m sure that’s been true for you, since you say it has been, but I know it’s not true of all women and I think it’s not true for many or most. Or more accurately, I think it works both ways. It can be part of the cause; but it’s also better when they’re really in love yes, which might happen slowly or quickly. More quickly for less experienced but high sex drive, younger, and more impulsive girls in my experience.
Women do not fall in love because of good sex. There may be exceptions, but they’re rare. If love was really a product of sex, how would virgins in the old days have ever fallen in love? Yet they did, and no less seriously than sexually active modern girls. Even today there are many, many girls who won’t have sex with a man until they feel they love him.
I suspect that there are girls who decide they must be “in love with” the first man to give them butterflies. Having sex with quite a few guys and realizing that butterflies are the softer side of horniness, not true love, would do a lot of girls a lot of good. Hell, masturbating and realizing that butterflies are the softer side of horniness, not true love, would do a lot of girls a lot of good.
A young friend of mine once asked me how one could tell love from lust or infatuation, and I told her if she had to ask it wasn’t true love. She didn’t understand until she was several years older and heavily involved with a guy, and one day she said to me “remember how when I was in high school you told me I’d know love when it arrived? Now I understand.” It’s strange how there are some things that just can’t be explained in words.
I think I have come to the conclusion that someone that is not a sex worker cannot wrap their brains around “professional sex”. It is not the sex that you have with your wife, or the sex that you have with some one that gives you butterflies.
It is professional, we are professionals. We are experts at making a client feel a sense of reality in the experience, but to us, it is similar to acting. We are not really “losing ourselves” in a passionate exchange, we are mentally choreographing a passionate exchange. We are assuming a role as a character that you are interacting with… fulfilling a need, a fantasy, or a desire in our clients. Paying attention to them, making them happy, and then walking out the door, and then the curtain comes down, and you step back into reality again.
Work has nothing to do with my personal life. Typically. But every now and then, you may come across someone that somehow clicks with “you”. Not the character that you play on the internet. When you look at each other, you know it. So rarely would that occur… but I can see how it could be a start of a great marriage. Some people say don’t date people from work, but others have married people they met at the office, why would it be different for a whore?
Maggie can come out of retirement if she wanted and see a hundred clients and I suspect that it would be a snowballs chance in hell that she would meet anyone that could touch her heart in any way, when she is in love with someone already.
Other than that my only comment is that if I were Maggies husband, I would be hugely intimidated, not by her huge amount of sexual experience, but by that whopping brain she is lugging around with her… Now that is a brave man!
The examples I like to use are therapy and cooking. One might act as a therapist for a friend (listen to his problems, give him advice), but a professional therapist doesn’t become a friend merely because she listens to someone’s problems. And though I put a lot of effort into cooking for people I love, a professional chef doesn’t come to love the people she cooks for.
As for my husband, a wise king knows that a clever and educated queen is a powerful asset; Zeus’ first wife was Metis, the goddess of prudence (and mother of Athena), the Arabian Nights is full of heroes with clever consorts, and even Pericles had his Aspasia. Leadership and intelligence/knowledge are two different things, and contrary to what neofeminists like to claim the most knowledgeable people usually are NOT the best leaders. My husband isn’t afraid to ask me to proofread the papers he writes for work, nor even to call from the field to consult me if he has need of my knowledge. 🙂
I think I have come to the conclusion that someone that is not a sex worker cannot wrap their brains around “professional sex”. It is not the sex that you have with your wife, or the sex that you have with some one that gives you butterflies.
^This.
@Kelly:
Sorry.
Sorry that I can’t wrap my mind around some other guy taking your clothes off, putting his tongue all over you(except for kissing in most cases), rubbing between your legs and pulling your panties off, slipping on a condom, sucking on your nipples, penetrating you and pounding you until you’re both sweaty and he releases. And then doing that as many times as he can with the time that he bought.
I know that women in general can just flip a switch and turn off sexual desire, and I know from reading this blog that professionals have both a natural inclination, and eventual training for the work, as well as somewhat of an acquired immunity to the neurochemical bonding that the average woman experiences. I know that you say it’s just a job, and that you like sex, pleasing people, and financial independence.
But as I am neither a woman nor a sex worker, I can’t relate to either perspective.
So, sorry that I’m not open-minded enough to deal with the mental pictures of a woman I love getting naked with a variety of people, with them pulling & sucking her nipples, and her opening her legs to please them, and letting them ejaculate inside of her, and/or all over her if they so desire & she so agrees. Sorry that I can’t process her saying, “Well, yeah, I fuck them for money but I fuck *you* for love.”
Sorry.
That is hard for any guy to wrap their mind around…. at first. Eventually it sinks in because it’s just reality. Although it is a lot more loving on both sides than you make it sound. There are some guys who are only interested in “wham, bam, thank you ma’m”, but in my experience, they’re in the minority.
Most guys are very kind & respectful with providers and treat them as if they truly are a beloved girlfriend. I have always made it my practice of doing just that. I treat every girl I visit with kindness, respect, and tenderness. It’s not just about fucking after all.
A reality that you choose, yes.
“It’s a lot more loving on both sides than you make it sound.” Because that makes it better, thanks.
Scorch, why are you apologizing? If you can’t handle that you can’t, and there’s no shame involved. I couldn’t be married to a cop, other women can’t handle being married to guys who travel as much as my husband does, and a lot of men can’t handle being married to women who make more than they do. But on the other hand, some guys are happily married to porn stars. Everyone is different, and NOBODY has to apologize for his personal preferences or things that bother him. 🙂
Well, as has been stated, I *am* on a blog full of hookers, and as I’ve stated, I have literally no experience with that world, so sometimes, I feel that maybe I come off as less progressive or whatever. I’m very progressive in my thinking, and you have helped me to grow tremendously, but you’re right, I guess everyone has their own particular wiring, one way or the other.
If you ever feel bad about it, remember that I’m on record as saying the sight of two guys having any kind of sexual contact with each other makes my skin crawl. I’m not against them as people and I totally believe they should be free to do as they please, but I do not want to see it. And if in my position I can admit that, I think you’re safe in admitting you couldn’t be married to a whore.
We are who we are, and wiring is wiring, and if busybodies would stop trying to rewire others we’d all be a lot happier.
🙂
“We are who we are, and wiring is wiring, and if busybodies would stop trying to rewire others we’d all be a lot happier.”
This right here.
I’m all for consenting adults being able to live how they want…and I never have understood how what other couples/families are doing affects *me.* I don’t get that. That’s one of the privileges of being an adult, you get to choose your lifestyle! But again, thanks for your refreshing & direct honesty. #MaggieForPresident or #Queen or #AmbassadorofRelationships
I could absolutely marry a whore. The whores I know are the smartest, toughest, and most together women I can think of. They’re fun to be with and not just from a sexual standpoint. It took seeing a dozen of them over the past 4 months to come to that conclusion. There are a few girls that I would never see again, just not my cup of tea I guess. Most of the girls have however been very sweet, smart, and have great personalities. Are they marriage material? Who knows? I’m not really in a position to ever determine that since I’m already married for 3+ decades. I’ll never really have an opportunity to spend enough time with those girls “off the clock” so to speak to ever really know them that well. But in my book….yes….I’m absolutely sure that if my circumstances were different and I did have the opportunity to really get to know one of the girls well enough…. matrimony would not be impossible.
Wow. That was the most liberating and enlightened thing I’ve heard all day. I was half-expecting you to castigate him but your reply was Grace in Written form.
Yeah I’ve long been interested in what being married to a (sane, not drug addicted) porn star was like.
I tend to think it would be much tougher jealousy wise that being married to an escort, if both were concurrently working, and even if not.
Male porn stars are after all chosen for having huge equipment, fit bodies, great lasting power and vigor. They’re chosen for seeming to be male sex gods. Even though most of them would probably make poor mates for reasons of income, stability, drugs, low intelligence, low loyalty and so on, in the pure sex department the men she has paid sex with would seem threatening in reality to the great majority of men I think, if they loved the girl.
Escorts aren’t paid to have sex with male sex gods, the great majority of time I’d think.
No, definitely not. But I also have to say that, though I can only speak for myself and I haven’t seen a porno scene in about five years (nor a whole porn movie in probably 17 years), I’ve never seen a male porn actor I found attractive.
About 100 years ago, actresses and female singers and dancers were considered by the “upright society” to be no better than whores. We’ve come a long way since then.
It sounds like you & Maggie have a great relationship. I completely understand the sincerity about her GFE services when you met her. I’m married for 35 years and at the moment, it’s a sexless marriage. I’ve been seeing escorts since March but there is one girl that just rocks my world. I spend several hours a week with her (just got back from a 3 hr morning visit with her actually). She’s 25 years my junior but she is so unbelievably sincere in what she does, that you truly believe that she is your girlfriend and is madly in love with you. I got it bad for this girl who is younger than my daughter. I told her when we first met to never let me cross that line, and she doesn’t. We joke about it and she humors me because she knows how deeply I feel for her. I also know that there can never, ever be a “we” and I’m OK with that. So as I explain it to her, since she can never really be mine & I have no intention of ever really pursuing her romantically (I’d be pretty stupid to do that anyway), I love her as passionately as I possibly can during the time that I’m with her every week. I like to joke with her that my goal is to tire her out for the other guys. That’s the only time that I don’t have to share her with any other guys.
I always get the first pick of her appointments and she always makes time for me which really lights me up when I think about it. Since I started seeing her, she has never not been available to me. She is very sweet and is the mom of a 5 year old who is a full time student pursuing a para-legal career. She doesn’t want there to come a time when she can no longer be a provider and has no other means of support. She’s seen that among some of the girls in the area and so have I. She’s smart, tough, and very together and I help her in every way I can. That father thing in me sometimes takes over with her and I always tip her with practical things she can really use, gas cards, grocery cards, those types of things. After she’s out of school, she’s planning to move back to her home town to obtain legal work and has said she would stop being a provider then. Since I travel through her hometown on business, I asked her if I could still visit her as a friend since she wasn’t going to be providing anymore. I love spending time with her talking, discussing things, and would love to spend time chatting over lunch or dinner. Not only did she say that I absolutely could visit her, but that she would provide for me as well. She said in talking with other girls who had left the business, they all felt positive about still being intimate with their favorite guys, and that she would love to do that with me. Talk about being on cloud 9!
So I understand completely when you talk about how sincere Maggie’s GFE services were because I’m there myself at the moment. I can never act upon it though so I count my blessings, enjoy what I have with her, and love that girl to pieces when I’m with her.
What a nice story! I am very happy for you that you found someone to make you so happy, I can only imagine how the positive benefits of your relationship with her have spilled over into your marriage.. (like the unexplained good moods)
Congrats to both of you, this is an ideal client/provider relationship IMO. Lines are clear, but it is a positive exchange for both of you.
Thanks Kelly. Hobbying has been immensely rewarding for me since I started and it’s not just the great sex. Sure, it was the desire for the sex that got me started and pulled me along but as I began to meet so many wonderful women and to feel the increase in confidence I experienced, the desire to translate those experiences into positive benefits in my marriage has been very strong.
It’s really unfortunate that my wife can never know this. She really doesn’t understand how good this is for us. In the meantime, I continue to try to bring my wife around to having sex again and some day, it may happen. Of course then she’ll want to know how come I do all these “things” sexually that I’ve never done with her before. Ooops!
Jack 15220,
Dude, that’s the calling card of an excellent whore. She trips all the bells and whistles and is more like a psychosocial therapist. Damn.
Maggie,
Maggie McNeill
When someone uses a drug often, he becomes habituated to it; that is, it takes ever-greater amounts to have any effect. Escorts have sex with strange men all the time, and are pretty much immune to the “romantic” feelings produced by the hormones which accompany sex. In other words, inexperienced girls (who lack extensive exposure to “romance hormones”) are far more likely to fall in love with anyone they fuck than escorts are.
This is bang-on.
This whole post was so charming, I regret that it’s so short. More than politics or anything else, these kinds of personal insights make for great reading.
Your husband has to be incredibly mature. And you, for that matter.
It’s hard to find a true companion.
That’s all that matters.
I laughed, quite a bit, at “I was prepared for a long siege”.
That really made my day.
Wow. I could never. I couldn’t even triangulate my mind into a configuration that would make such a thing possible, but more power to those who can.
All,
Glad to see all of your responses and I hope you all understand what I am trying to say in answering your questions. As far as bdevereaux wanting to ask another question feel free (you know you have a free pass) ;). Also, for folks that wanted to ask question but may have been afraid to, please feel free to ask, but wait until tomorrow because there are 10 more questions that will be answered in the next post. Just wanted to chime in and let you all know that I’m watching.
lol… Love the user name!
I have many more questions, but alas, I can’t ask them with Maggie present. they’re more beer-bar-quiet talk questions, like, … “So, is a whore – Maggie in this case – better in bed or the same as other women?”
I dated a whore, too. She hated the word, but she was an expensive call-girl. She was interesting, and obliging in the bedroom – but was into me for reasons having nothing to do with sex; though the sex she enjoyed. I presume she was deadened by that point and felt no need to seek sex itself or make up excuses if she wanted it, the way most women do.
But she was both better in bed and more obliging. I’m wondering if this is true in your marriage. Any differences?
See; hard question to answer in the presence of the women.
Next –
selective non-monogamy seems to be interesting. I’m in an interesting situation: I have a dedicated significant other, dating for a year now, and living together; the plan is to make it permanent. I also have an ex-lover that for reasons far to complex to go into, I cheated on my So with last summer and it morphed into a kind-of open relationship, with both the knowledge and participation by my SO. My personal opinion is that it’s playing into the vanity of both.
But it went from the strangely exotic and exciting to the troubling and now hard-to-navigate – with me having to extricate myself from the weird sexual energies being passed around. In reality, I just want a mate. having hot fun with another girl on the side is interesting – but I never signed up for the bizarre and utterly unexpected political consequences. They’re shifting and complex, and require me to be in top form all the time (emotionally). The fact that both women have befriended each other makes me somewhat uncomfortable.
I’m expected to be the partner my SO wants; but I travel a lot, and so does the Ex. And the ex visits my SO and hangs out with her. They’re both extremely vain (my SO’s major character flaw, or perk, depends on how you look at it). But I;m expected to be properly contrite about it.
The politics: it turns on my SO to think of me with another woman, specifically because she’s equally attractive, slightly younger and racially different (Asian). My SO finds the jealousy titilating. In one memorable moment, she essentially “sold” me to my ex, and proceeded to observe us together. it drove her mad, but also mad with jealousy-induces anxiety and this turned her on hugely. Since then, I’ve taken huge pains to show my emotional attachment to my SO, and she has no doubt about the genuineness of my feelings.
But this “fling” means that I have to deal with hyper-complex emotional issues. The sheer sexual power I felt at first, walking into a room with two attractive women (both the most attractive I’ve ever been with, barring a Japanese stewardess who was weird and forgettable), well, that power has worn off.
I thought it would end really soon – say, after one or two encounters, and a month or so. But it’s lasted for 4 trips to Asia and about 8 visits to the US; we haven’t hooked up, but the two of them are fast friends – my ex literally glommed onto her, in a kind-of glamor-girl way, and when she’s here in the US, the whole purpose of the sexual relationship is on my SO’s terms: as a kind-of extension of my SO’s image of me as her older bad boy (who, incidentally, rescued her from a failing MA by forcing her to finish her thesis by restructuring her life and walking through her relationship tests with relative ease), and because my SO has discovered that mild jealousy turns her on.
I should say: She’s Persian (not Muslim), and most of the men she’s been with before me are hard-core, Alpha-Male Arab/Persian types with money. I’m none of that. I’m cerebral and, while I hunt and work out, hardly the bad boy alpha jerk her former boyfriends were.
So this might play into that. I understand her motivations more, now. She also likes to play liberal girl and unposessive woman. This is, I think, a ruse.
But when in Asia, I’m Alternate Boyfriend for the ex, who, while she has no designs on me, as she only “dates” the super-rich and they have to be Korean, incidentally, but the politics are beginning to get weird.
More to the point: I find myself in the bizarre situation of being… more conventional than my SO. I can honestly say this has never happened to me before. The emotional complexities of this are becoming unpredictable.
I thought this situation would resolve itself, but it’s turning out to me more long-term than I bargained for. Like I should whine; but like I said, it’s not… as cool as people might think it is. In fact, it’s stressful and draining, and I’m completely satisfied with my SO. I’m going into Nesting Phase.
And I want to keep her: so stability concerns me. Am I expected to be weird Artist creative guy who philanders and is bad for ever? Perhaps it was a bad image to cultivate.
Do you find your situation to be unstable; do you have tensions you need to navigate? What are they and how do they play out in practical terms?
Specifically, does it bother you? Do you require information from her? Did it bother you – did it make things more interesting ,was it neutral, was it of no account?
if you have sex with other women – and Maggie procures them – how does it affect your relationship?
Obviously, you’ve got to be above my juvenile concerns, but how you deal with it interests me.
Blah blah stuff like that.
I have lots of these questions. All pretty hard to answer in public.
@Kelly,
You wrote: [i]It is professional, we are professionals. We are experts at making a client feel a sense of reality in the experience, but to us, it is similar to acting. We are not really “losing ourselves” in a passionate exchange, we are mentally choreographing a passionate exchange. We are assuming a role as a character that you are interacting with… fulfilling a need, a fantasy, or a desire in our clients. Paying attention to them, making them happy, and then walking out the door, and then the curtain comes down, and you step back into reality again.[/i]
That is one of the things that really makes my favorite girl stand out from all the others I’ve seen. They have all done GFE but my fav is so believable it’s unreal. So many guys just fall in love with her. I know it’s acting, she knows it’s acting, but damn it feels so real. The others just don’t seem to act as well and I can always tell.
It also helps that she’s a real cuddler. Loves the pillow talk. I discovered quite by accident that the cuddling & talking has been a huge hole in my married life. Once I realized that, I tried to engage my wife in some naked cuddling & pillow talk. No go. She’s too self conscious about the weight she’s put on and no matter how much I tell her she’s still the same wonderful girl I married, she won’t do it. She’s gonna take some real work to get back on track.
The excerpt from the poem made my heart sing.
I cried when he first sent it to me, and I still read it every so often. I think it was one of the loveliest things anyone’s ever given me. 🙂
Hi. When your husband sent it – was it after you were certain you loved him or liked him a lot? I ask because I’ve sent over 10+ poems to this call girl that I like. She said some of them were pretty good but she just wants to remain friends. And the attention was troubling her, so I’m backing off.
Beanie Babies . . . boy, he was pullin’ out all the stops . . . you know they’re serious when they bring on the beanie babies.
LOL! 😀
What are “beanie babies?” Jelly beans?
Maggie you write very well – you should really consider publishing your work – its rare to find a Courtesan who is so well spoken and literary minded.
Beanie Babies
I sent over 10 to a call girl that I fell for. Writing them was as natural as breathing air. But she got “scared” that I’ve stopped. We still chat though.
Sorry I meant 10 poems.
At what point did the both of you decide to get into a serious relationship? And may I ask how many times did (Maggie’s husband) have paid sessions with Maggie before he decided that “she was the one” ?
[…] ….and I think I’ve found partial male solipsism. That’s not fully accurate as to what it is, but the point is, it’s a way in which men fool themselves about potential or current wives. I can’t imagine any man being completely comfortable with his wife’s former or current extra-marital activities, no matter what he says. However, there are men who seem to be comfortably married to prostitutes. […]
‘Morning, Maggie. In general terms, not gory details, what killed the relationship with someone so seemingly ‘open’?
I’m not sure what you mean. I’m still with the husband interviewed here; it’s my FIRST husband I’m divorced from, and he wasn’t open AT ALL.
Whoops, Maggie. Wrong spouse! My bad.
[…] for the last few. I think the best way for you to understand his feelings would be for you to read an interview with him I published five years ago, but the short version is that he understands that my work is just that—work—and that my […]