Sex work is neither contagious nor a pathology. – Eva Gantz
I’m usually a very empathetic person, but I just can’t feel anything but pity for women who insist on willfully misunderstanding male sexuality, the nature of intimacy and the escort-client relationship despite ample materials that explain these online. And you know what? If this kind of maudlin schlock weren’t used to justify state violence while far-more-dangerous amateur cheating gets a free pass, I still might even manage to dredge up a teacupful of sympathy:
Contrary to popular belief, they come from all walks of life…Nor are they all lonely men seeking solace; many have partners and are in long-term relationships or marriages…Numerous academic studies and articles have explored the demographics of punters and sex workers, the horrors of trafficking, and the merits or otherwise of decriminalising prostitution. But almost no attention has been paid to the partners of men who visit prostitutes…a growing number of…women…who discover their partner has been sleeping with prostitutes…are left feeling horribly isolated, with nowhere to turn…most of the men I spoke to…claimed feelings of undiminished love [for their wives]. Understandably, such hollow declarations neither reassured the women, nor repaired their sense of shame, grief and rejection. Because there can be little as shocking as discovering that your trusted partner is paying for sex behind your back…
Another marketing firm hard at work creating bogus prohibitionist “studies”:
…the NSPCC and ChildLine released the results of a survey suggesting that a tenth of 12- to 13-year-olds fear they are “addicted” to pornography. Within days, the government had announced a new policy on internet restriction, justified in part by these statistics. However, the NSPCC has been called out over the fact that these claims are alarmingly flimsy…The company that carried out the NSPCC-commissioned survey is a group called OnePoll, which specialises in generating “news angles and exposure for your brand”. OnePoll is part of South West News Service (SWNS), a media group that offers “heartbreaking, random and shocking” content. OnePoll was behind a recent survey revealing that “20% of people believe that smoking has improved their career opportunities”. This one was commissioned by an E-cigarette company. A poll commissioned during National Ferry Fortnight for Discover Ferries – which had just “invested heavily in improved seating” – revealed that travellers really hate aircraft seats. You get the picture…
I realize one can’t expect quality journalism from YourTango, but this article entitled “I Went Undercover To See If A Girl Could Get Happy Ending Massage” is painfully dumb; from the author’s describing massage parlors as “a mixture of truth and urban legend that captivates male imaginations” [WTF?] to the eminently-predictable pomposity of licensed masseuses in the comment thread, the whole thing is a kiddie-train wreck. Proceed at your own risk.
With the biggest convention ever to hit Nashville — more than 70,000 members of the National Rifle Association are here this weekend for their annual meeting — law enforcement officials have prepared for what some see as the scourge of such large, male-dominated gatherings…Little data exists on the prevalence of trafficking. Law enforcement often fails to categorize prostitutes who are voluntarily committing crimes separately from individuals who are being trafficked, under the duress of handlers. As such, experts say there is little reliable data to prove or disprove that trafficking has spiked during large conventions or sports gatherings…
Note that the reporter’s tiny mind cannot conceive of pragmatic sex as being other than a “crime”, whether compelled or voluntary.
Only Rights Can Stop the Wrongs (#312)
If people’s minds weren’t befuddled by prohibitionist idiocy, they wouldn’t be so confused by wholly predictable outcomes like this:
…Sex Workers…[in Zambia] show…no desire to abandon their…trade saying it gives them quick money to sustain their welfare as opposed to skills such as tailoring which take long for them to earn money…Agness Ng’andu…explained that her organisation had invested heavily in…sewing machines which are presently not being utilised…
Christchurch street sex workers say not having access to basic toilet facilities while working makes them feel like “scum”. Toilets near Manchester St have long been a contentious subject…plans [to install some] were thwarted by nearby residents…The nearest are…locked at night. Women have to ask clients to drop them at toilets at service stations, or go behind bushes. Auckland University…professor…Tracey McIntosh said the lack of facilities reinforced to sex workers that they are “seen as a blight on the city scape”…
…Tech and sex work have an uneasy relationship that traces back through decades…Sex work is seen as something to be kept as far away from women in tech as possible…I recently attended a meetup for women in digital currency…a woman [there]…told me casually, as if it were the most obvious conclusion in the world, “the underlying reason for gender discrimination in tech is porn. That’s the root of it all.” My face must have given me away, because she prompted, “don’t you agree?” No. No, I don’t agree in the slightest. For one, the assessment reduces the incredibly complex issues of meritocracy, privilege, and misogyny into an oversimplified sound bite. This view is every bit as reactionary as a conservative desire to regulate female sexuality…Even just the proximity of association with sex workers is too much to be borne…the…argument rests on the idea that if women in tech are viewed even in the same space as porn performers men will instantly see them as porn stars, too. Not only does this insult the intelligence of men, but it also furthers the idea of sex work as contagion. “Don’t get too close, or it might rub off on you”…
Maybe it’s just my peculiar sense of humor, but I find this weird mixture of lurid “sex trafficking” fantasy and technical-magazine writing terribly funny:
…More than three million women and children are slaves today. In the dramatic narrative film, Don’t Look Away, the subject of sex trafficking—modern day slavery—is addressed head on. Exploring the alltoocommon [sic] story of a young woman enslaved through tactics exploiting social networks, Don’t Look Away exposes the fertile hunting ground stalked by predators in the human trafficking trade…Don’t Look Away was filmed on location in Central Florida…The company consisted of over 20 crew members, 9 principal cast members and dozens of extras…Don’t Look Away was shot by…Michael Minock with the new VariCam 35 4K camera/recorder, provided by Panasonic…“We have an amazing opportunity to use our gifts and passions to forward the fight on sex trafficking,” said producer/writer/law student, Alex Couch…“If we can start caring for the victims more, we will be better equipped in our efforts to punish the real perpetrators of this horrific crime.” Most of the film’s grip and lighting gear was generously provided by The Art Institute of Jacksonville…The color grading is being done by Daniel Parker at Myjive in Charlotte, NC…
Not Your Rescue Project (#526)
…Sydney sex worker Tilly Lawless posted a photo of herself smiling on Instagram with the hashtag #facesofprositution…[in] response to an article on the…website Mamamia…[which] presented images of bruised, emaciated, drug-addicted sex workers…in the days that followed sex workers from all over the world shared photos of themselves under the hashtag—in some cases outing themselves as sex workers for the first time—to protest against the stereotype that sex workers are intrinsically victims who need saving…
I wholeheartedly agree with your comment about women “willfully misunderstanding male sexuality.” It reminds me of something that Clarkhat or one of his friends posted on Twitter about progressives thinking they were “smarter than everybody else who ever lived in human history.” I know that I don’t have the answers to male-female sexual relations, but closing your eyes to the reality of human biology simply because it disagrees with your religion or it doesn’t make you feel comfortable isn’t the answer.
“Women willfully misunderstanding male sexuality.”
Well … it’s so widespread I tend to think its evolutionary in nature.
The comment section on the first story is extremely entertaining. There’s this one guy ranting and his comments make up about 90-95% of the thread. But most of his points have been handily refuted by the rest of the commentariat.
Males like that are a big part of the problem. An escort rejected him, and this arrogant fellow can’t handle it.
Yeah, this subject was DEFINITELY personal for him. I think someone in the comment thread said as much.
That would be the typical combination of arrogance and an actually rather pathetic real state of things. The arrogance prevents these people from seeing their problems and doing something about it. When somebody else then points things out to them (as apparently happened here), these people blow themselves up even more and make dead certain they do not learn anything from the experience.
Just another instance of “Incompetent and unaware of it”.
The one ranter sounds like a guy who just got banned on my local review board
Re: Wild Guessing – Reminds me why I have a disdain towards the “Animal Rights” movement.
Regarding the funny-sheesh nature of Eva Gantz’ essay in Model View Culture, believe it or not this probably qualifies as some of the saner things they’ve ever published. Shanley Kane herself seems pretty unhinged and entitled, and her vehicle reflects this. I once did a low-hanging-fruit post of the crazazay.
What do you mean “funny sheesh?”
Whenever I read a story about prohibitionists trying to “save” sex workers from their lucrative, independent jobs by teaching them how to sew, I wonder if I could find a similar program in the US, & lie about the extent of my sex work background* in exchange for free sewing lessons. I know it’s wrong, but it’s tempting!
*Explicit nude modeling for a porn site (hello, vulva), & being a sugar baby for a married bisexual woman whose husband also bought me stuff. I think of it as “sex work lite”; it obviously counts as sex work, but it was legal & didn’t involve dealing with strangers. I don’t feel like I’ve earned the right to say I’m a sex worker proper, I guess.
[…] a look over at https://twitter.com/hashtag/FacesOfProstitution, via Maggie McNeill . A few posts there memorialising hookers who were murdered by Johns. […]
Post in the twitter hashtag at https://paulmurray.wordpress.com/2015/04/25/facesofprostitution/
That should be “on”, or “relating to” the hashtag. Doh.