Why on earth would anybody pay for sex instead of going to a bar/club & getting it that way for a lot less? What’s so special about these “high-end” services?
Getting sex from random amateurs is fine if you’re a single, socially adept vanilla with plenty of free time, no unusual or embarrassing needs, and no need for discretion who doesn’t mind the possibility of STIs, weird drama or the potential for unwanted phone calls, etc later. Most men aren’t in that position. What you’re paying a sex worker for is competence, professionalism, cleanliness & discretion. If you’re OK with fucking incompetent, indiscreet, unpredictable amateurs with questionable sanitary habits, go for it. But remember that free pussy is the most expensive kind. An experienced sex worker provides quality, cleanliness, expertise, punctuality and the kind of company you want, when you want it, instead of having to cater to someone else’s unpredictable needs. A guy who contacts me spends a few minutes in the contact and screening process, then gets a lady of known high quality for however long he can afford. A dude who gets to bars doesn’t know how long it’ll take and gets an encounter of unknown quality, unknown strings & possible STIs. It’s true that sometimes you can find something really valuable for $10 at a junk shop, but it takes time & you can’t count on it. This isn’t rocket science; it’s a simple case of “you get what you pay for”, which is why we’ve been popular with gents since prehistory.
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Why is this even a question? It is the same for sex work as with all other work that can be done professionally or by amateur: You get what you pay for and with the amateur work you often have a huge risk of follow-up costs and problems. Sure, professional work can be bad as well, but the risk is far, far smaller and there are usually pretty visible warning-signs.
As the old joke goes, you’re not paying a pro for sex, you’re paying her to go away and keep her mouth shut 🙂
The questioner must be highly attractive, charismatic, extroverted and rich, or some subset of those qualities. In my experience “hooking up” in some bar never worked. Whether it was my introverted nature, my nerdy demeanor, or the stink of desperation that surrounded me like a fog, in my single days women just didn’t seem that “into” me. And rarely interested in getting into my bed. If I could roll back the clock to my twenties and take with me what I’ve learned here in Maggie’s blog I would skip that social bullshit and just procure the services of a pro for the reasons she lists. Honestly, I think I would have been a lot happier. Instead of worrying about success at dating and trying to force it, I could have relaxed knowing I could visit a pro when needed. And date when the situation and opportunity came my way. In hind sight I spent an unfortunate amount of my early adult life mildly depressed because I wasn’t successful at just going out and getting some.
Maggie’s answer to this question shows her at her best : eloquent, logical, clear headed, incontrovertible !
When are more people going to understand the obvious: that a straightforward and clear relationship with a sex worker is not only very enjoyable, but it is the only ethical, simple and honest way for a man to satisfy his overabundant libido.
Being constantly on the prowl to pick up women is incredibly draining of one’s time and energy, and it can easily lead one into situations where one lies about one’s intentions and feelings- circumstances that make it difficult to really enjoy the moment. Escorts introduce simplicity and clarity to one’s life.