When I was a call girl, men were not paying for sex. They were paying for something else. They were either paying to act out a fantasy or they were paying for companionship or they were paying to be seen with a well-dressed young woman. Or they were paying for someone to listen to them. – Roberta Victor
I recently received an email from a gentleman with two friends, each with confidence issues that my reader thought might be ameliorated with the help of an experienced professional. This is not at all unusual; in my early column “Madonna and Whore” I wrote,
I have gently coaxed sexual response from the impotent or inhibited, or those sexually shell-shocked by disastrous relationships; on a multitude of occasions I have provided a man with some sexual outlet he needed, yet for which he could not or would not ask his wife (usually because she had turned him down cold when the subject was mentioned). I have given much-needed intimacy to men so deformed most women couldn’t bear to look at them, held men while they cried because they were too ashamed to do it before their wives, and played mother-confessor for a host of sins. I have lent a sympathetic ear to clients’ problems, given them relationship advice, comforted them when they were in pain and reassured them when they were overcome by uncertainty.
I’m not remotely unusual in this respect; most whores can say the same. Though prudish American culture prefers to deny it, sex has a powerful healing function (especially for men), and sex professionals can often do far more for a man than a doctor, psychiatrist or priest. In addition to the basics like massage and release of debilitating tension we give virgins their first experiences with women, minister to the sexual needs of the disabled and even help to relieve stress in men who have suffered through traumatic situations; in the following questions we’ll look at two more cases in which a talented professional would be more therapist than tart.
My first friend is a gentleman in his late 40’s who has not been with a woman in the 3 years since his divorce. His friends believe he is completely over his ex, but we have noticed an uncharacteristic lapse in his confidence; we’ve tried to reintroduce him to dating, but it’s as if he doesn’t remember how to behave around women and he pulls back within his shell. Do you think it a good idea to arrange for a discreet professional to meet with him as if by accident and accompany him for an evening, but conceal the true reason for their serendipitous meeting?
Though you can probably find a lady who would be willing to playact with your friend, I’m not at all sure that would be the right thing to do. I’m a big believer in honesty, and though there are certainly some circumstances in which duplicity for a good cause is acceptable, I honestly don’t know if this would be one of them. My concern is that if he ever found out it could be even worse for his self-confidence, and there are a number of ways in which he could find out; it might happen during the date due to perceptiveness on his part or a slip on her part, and what happens when he asks for her phone number at the end of the evening (as he certainly would)? Or what if he goes surfing escort sites (you may think he doesn’t, but what if you’re wrong?) and discovers her pictures online? Spending an evening with an experienced call girl can do wonders for a man’s sexual self-confidence, but I honestly feel it’s better for him to know what’s really going on rather than being fed a fantasy.
My other friend is much younger (in his late 20s) and has almost the opposite issue; he gets so excited that he finishes much more quickly than he would prefer. I shared with him some tips to calm himself, and though he said one of those suggestions has truly helped him it only increased his time from immediately to a few minutes. His last girlfriend moved away and now he’s afraid to deal with another one because he doesn’t want to embarrass himself by “being so disappointing”. He can’t really afford a sex therapist, so I was wondering if a lady of the evening might help him? If so, should he let her know exactly what she’s signing up for?
It’s possible you may already have corrected his problem. You say he used to climax immediately, but now can last “a few minutes”; how many is a few? Because as I explained in an interview with the London School of Attraction, most women don’t want nearly as much actual intercourse as most men seem to think we do. If your friend can go for five minutes that’s enough for most women, especially if he takes the time to give his partner all the foreplay she wants. A good escort might indeed help him, but maybe not in the way you’re thinking: she might be able to teach him to slow down if necessary, but more importantly she could help him develop his confidence and foreplay techniques, and let him know if he really is too fast or just thinks he is.
Seriously – and it’s hard to articulate. When I’m down, a woman will pick me up every time. When I was on submarines, my time in them was marked with frequent mishaps and “holy shit how can we still be alive?” type events. It just happened over and over again and you get to a point where you just accept that one day fate will catch up with you and you won’t make it out of the next situation. That’s when LIFE takes on a special meaning and living every minute of it becomes the most important thing. Sometimes I just needed a woman to hold – or to smell. Try picking up a girl in a bar by saying … “Hey I just want to have sex with you for one night – it’s been a rough week for me!” LOL – it doesn’t work too well (not that I’ve ever tried that).
I always felt like I was an outcast too – so being with hookers was pleasant for me because I considered them kindred spirits as outcasts also.
On this 40 something guy …
Something strange happens to a guy when he’s been monogamous for DECADES. He starts to believe he can only perform with one woman – I know this from experience and 24 years of monogamy. Part of my decision to stray was the fact that my wife went through that “time of life” and came out of it with a greatly reduced libido. But part of it also was this feeling that I could only function with her – and, as a man – I didn’t like that feeling. I think it’s a bad move to just find a girl you like and attempt to have sex – because it could end in disaster. Just hire a professional – like I did, and tell her … “Hey, I have been with one woman for the last two decades – so you may have to be patient with me.”
You need a good girl for this – someone who will be patient and not watch the clock – but she’ll do wonders for you. Additionally, just using a condom – I hadn’t used one with my wife since we got married – and sex feels totally scary when you use a condom after so long without using one. You can’t “steer” your little guy to where he needs to be because you can’t feel too much on the tip due to the condom – so you have to use visual or get help from the girl. Then once, you’re in the saddle – the first thing you think is – “Goddam, this sucks – this doesn’t feel right at all – I can’t feel anything!”
Anyway – there’s a whole host of issues your 40 something guy needs to get through and he needs to work them out with a professional. But yeah – he needs to either hire her himself – or know she’s a pro before going into it.
Yep, Ashley Madison was like learning how to walk again. And now I can run! 🙂
Gee, Maggie, I know you’ve met people who were into strange things sexually, but a woman dressed up as a male physician? She needs to hook up with a man dressed up as a high-heeled nurse. 😉
That picture looks pretty old, probably from the 1800’s. I imagine that any woman doctor (what very few there were) would probably be dressed like that.
It’s from 1902, and is part of a series of French trading cards called “The Women of the Future“.
Has there been scientific studies on sex as traumatic stress relief? It would be interesting to see exactly what’s going on there and how well it works.
Also this:
“But after Katrina, the federal government had lodged many hundreds of survivors in what had formerly been very good hotels; I quickly learned that some three-star properties in the Canal Street zone had degenerated into projects whose lobbies and halls were packed at all hours of the day and night with dirty, low-class people who dropped garbage and even human waste on the floors. I can’t even imagine what it cost to restore those facilities to normal afterward. Fortunately, other corporations had more wisdom than to make a devil’s bargain just to fill rooms, and they stayed as clean and safe as before; most of these were occupied by FEMA officials, consultants and the like.”
Oh, you guys are like kittens some times.
Maggie,have you ever presented this argument to anti sex work feminists or those who say ”whores dont offer anything to society”?i have before and gotten the answer”this isnt an excuse for a form of violence against women”or ”only a tiny fraction of clients are like this,most treat women like a piece of meat”(because sb who has never done the job is qualified to speak how clients are like).but what bugs me is how men are quick to dismiss this argument,while it would seem that theese should be the ones who would understand.
Laida, as someone who uses escort services I very much understand this argument and agree with it. I would imagine the men you’re referring to would be afraid to admit to the truth of that argument since then they’d be suspect of using those services.
Ted, you’re dead on the money. It’s a case of “the lady doth protest too much, methinks.” Laida, is there a good Greek equivalent for that quote?
one of similar meaning goes sth like ”for a pie from which you wont eat,why would you care if it gets burnt?”.on a side note,Diogenes of Sinope or Diogenes the dog was someone who thought it pointless that sb would pay such a high price for a night with a beautiful courtesan.he had written upon the golden statue of Aphrodite that Phryne had dedicated to Delphi”from the profligacy of Greeks”and when he was asked why he didnt buy a night with Lais,who was really popular during that period and men from every corner of Greece came to know her(with the biblical sense of the word),he answered that ”i wont buy with 10.000 drachmas what im going to regret”(10.000 drachmas back then is the equivalent of 2.000 euros today).he however recognised the power courtesans had over men and called them ”queens of kings”,because they could get kings to do as they wished and when he saw a conqueror at the olympic games looking often at a courtesan he said”look at the warlike ram who is immediately taken prisoner by the first foxy girl he meets”
and btw the man who thought whores to be the queens of kings is listed as one of the seven wisest men of the last 27 centuries(the others being Socrates,Pythagoras,Confucius,Jesus,Buddha and Lao Tsu-who also spoke of sacred sexuality).the neofeminists or the victorian men who spoke of sexual women being the slaves of men are nowhere near that title.
Laida, I see you use the abbreviation “sb”, what does “sb” mean?
i saw it used often in textbooks when i was studying english as an abbreviation for somebody, like sth was used as an abbreviation for something.are they not actually used at all among native english speakers?
I’ve never seen it. Maybe it’s popular with phonetexters.
I’ve seen that “so” is very common, it means boyfriend/girlfriend, I haven’t seen “sb” before now, but I’m an old, old, old man who tends to type out the word “you” in text messages (all the young people I know, including my so, just type “U.”).
In terms of eliminating stress, there is nothing like professional sex; being with an amateur is never the same in terms of pure relaxation. Just like resetting a clock everything accumulated up to that point fades, all negativity dissipates. No drug could be more blissful than that.
I get this a lot … got this on Friday, in fact, from a young gal.
First – that statement is an “extreme” statement. It’s designed to provoke emotion – not logic. It’s kind of like saying … “Women who sell their bodies” – when they’re not doing anything of the sort. A better statement is “Men treat them with indifference” … but then again, if you phrased it that way, it couldn’t be considered a form a violence then could it?
I might agree that a lot of men treat their hookers with “indifference” – and I would also state that a lot of hookers prefer it this way. A lot of the hookers in the 80’s (here in the U.S.) wouldn’t kiss a guy. They really just wanted the guy to get it up, get it in, get it off, and get it out and the faster he could do that – the better. This is pretty much hookers treating johns with “indifference”. This is the nature though – of a lot of sexual encounters between men and whores though. Just because it’s not pretty, doesn’t mean it doesn’t have value though.
It’s not my kind of experience though – for the most part. I like to talk to the girl and I like for there to be some kissing – but the tongue down the throat is way overboard imo. I like to TRY to satisfy the girl – or at least behave as if I could – even though I know she’s probably concentrating more on depositing the money I just gave her rather than what I’m doing to her at the moment. I like to be a good guy but if the girl has that “wall” up where you can’t reach her – I can read that pretty quick and get on with ending the show.
This is why, up to this point in my life … I’ve always tried to pay more for a more “elite” experience with a girl … because I valued quality over quantity.
At the end of next month though – I’m going to a German FKK with a friend of mine and that will be pure production sex – and trying to see how many young Romanian girls I can run through in a day or two. Why? Just for the experience and the fact I’ve never had two girls at once and this place makes it extremely convenient. Plus – they have a nice pool at this place. I’ll still try to talk to them – and I’ll treat all of them like gold – but I don’t think too many of them will speak the best of English!!
So – reason I mention this is … well if most men treat hookers like “meat” – then this is it. It’s really a disregard for personal relationships with these women but it’s not insensitivity to their desires or wishes. It’s like … “Okay, that’s one down – who’s next?” … which is kind of like eating a meal except it’s sex with girls. Is it bad? Many people would say yes but the girls are all volunteers and so am I – so it sounds like great fun to me personally. These girls will make a lot of money off me for sure! 😛
thats pretty much what i said then when i was presented with this phrase and still do.it makes it look like the guy is abusing the woman.i said that most men are not the violent predators they described, many are just people who want sex without all the drama that comes with dating.while,for a woman who thinks sex=love the ”piece of meat”phrase might seem legit according to her feelings,,a professional doesnt want love from her clients.it would only be abusive if the client disrespected the professionals boundaries,but as for wanting sex without commitment this isnt abusive unless its dishonest(the man pretending he loves the girl while only wanting sex).but this just doesnt happen when you hire a sex worker.
Well, I think you are very enlighted on this while a lot of women out there seem to have their heads in the sand. Well, it’s not just women – a lot of men are ignorant too. Look – the sexes are different – men are just different from women. I’ve told my wife many times since I married her that she’s free to go out and have sex with another man as long as she comes home and tells me all the details. She just rolls her eyes and changes the subject – she’s not really interested in doing that.
I don’t have a problem if a woman fakes an orgasm – women can’t orgasm all the time and faking it is a part of life for most women – so I understand and accept that. I realize that my wife doesn’t particularly get off on sex outside or in a semi-public place where she might be discovered … I get this … so I don’t demand of her that she have sex with me outside even though I’d love to. She went through menopause and I get the fact that some women come out of that without a sex drive – it’s OKAY with me, I’m not going to insist that she have sex with me three times a week when she doesn’t want to. I’m not going to “dump” her either because there is more to marriage than just sex. Since I met her … I’ve been the initiator of sex almost every time although she always had little “ques” for me when she was ready for it. Would I like it if, every time I walked in from work, my woman stripped naked and started talking dirty to me about how much she wanted me? Yes, why – yes I would. However, this isn’t in the nature of most women and I’m not naïve enough to think I can change them. I work with reality – cuz I’m a “real world” kind of guy and, by the way – it’s the “yin / yang” thing between men and women that I groove on anyway. I LOVE the fact that there are these crazy differences that we have to navigate our way around. It’s like a Rubik’s Cube – and when you get all the sides matched to a color you just feel great for solving the puzzle!!
That’s what LIFE is about! Say you dropped me on a planet full of women with sex drives like men from Earth – I might say, in the beginning … “Oh BOY!!” But I can totally see myself saying, after just a short time … “Damn, these women are too easy, I don’t have to pay for them … or pursue them, or even approach them – they come up to me and say “let’s do it!” … WTF is wrong with them? There’s no “hunt” here!!” Even with a hooker there is a “hunt” – because she isn’t going to just show up at your doorstep. You have to do something – like EARN THE CASH to pay her. The rules are simpler with hookers – but they still apply.
I don’t understand why women can’t understand that men are different from them. We compartmentalize. “Sex” goes into this box and “Love” goes into this other box that is across the hall on the OTHER side of our brains! You put your wife in the “Love” box. Yes, she’s also in the “sex” box where other women can be also. She’s also in the “friend” box – where other people can be in too but, nobody else really goes into the “love” box but her – unless you fall out of love with her. Which box does she want to be in? I submit the “Love” box is the one she really wants to occupy singularly.
But no – many wives, if not most – want to be the only one in all the boxes. That’s not logical.
And damn, I have seen so many wives just get soooo destroyed when they found out their husband cheated on them. They won’t admit it – but the reason they’re crushed so badly is because they think he strayed because they couldn’t please him sexually – and this cuts right to the heart of their womanly ego (women have egos too and being able to “tame” a male is part of it). But, they shouldn’t feel that way – a man can be completely sexually satisfied with one woman and still seek out others.
And this is where whores are actually a service to wives, I believe – because even if I tried to move a whore into the “Love” box, thereby ejecting my wife – the hooker would have no part in it. An amateur on the other hand will jump right into that box even if they only intend to stay there for a few days!
I love the box analogy . I used to be too possessive in civilian life. Being a whore has helped me become a healthier women. Theres something liberating about knowing i can dig a client as much as i want and he will stay in his box. Tho i know for some they have taken them out of box and married them but thats the exception not the rule.
I think that there are a lot of people in our society, both men and women, who enjoy the side effects of sexual desperation on the male population. It’s not just manifested in laws against sex work, either. I think some laws are in place just to prevent certain designated men from ever getting laid under any circumstances. For these people, if you talked about the damage that enforced chastity does to men, I think you’d get a gloating, arrogant sneer and a triumphant, “the system works!”
Take IMBRA, ,the International Marriage Brokers Regulation Act of 2009 as a good example. I noticed that the same sexual slavery rhetoric as is used in sex trafficking hysteria was trotted out when this was being pushed into law, and happily married couples or employees of the brokers were excluded from the hearings. This is a law regulating (i.e. deliberately making more difficult) perfectly legitimate heterosexual marriages, just because some guys who might have difficulty on the American dating scene might find a decent alternative.
There is something fundamentally evil about the anti-sex movement in this country. Something that enjoys cruelty for the sake of cruelty, but has to dress it up as concern for the “poor, trafficked women.” (Which I notice never seems to be as prevalent for domestic maids or agricultural workers, who can also be victims of trafficking but aren’t “sexy.”)
It reminds me, actually, of the anti-sex nature of the Big Brother regime in 1984. One of the things that was ruining Winston Smith’s life, and the thing that really eventually drove him to rebel, was the regime’s hatred of sex.
Damn – I did not even know that law existed. That’s a pretty bullshit law!
WAIT! Just because a guy would turn to this method of international matchmaking doesn’t make him a loser. I’ve often thought about where I’d start looking for a girl if I suddenly got divorced – and I would say, hands down … I would look in the Ukraine / Romania / Hungary / Czech Republic – with Norway and Denmark as possibilities also.
As Maggie can attest … a LOT of the women where I live let themselves go BIG TIME when they get up around my age. However, in the countries I mention above – that’s necessarily the case and you can always find TOTALLY HOT mature women. I wouldn’t go to a internet dating site to meet them though – because I travel enough overseas myself that I don’t need to do that. Nothing against American women – I love them to death – but the Eastern European and Scandinavian women are both generally good looking and interesting.
In fact, I’d like to be a grandfather already so I’ve been pushing my son to go to Copenhagen to meet a girl there. He won’t be able to resist them if he has one ounce of my blood in him and … I saw more hot women pushing baby strollers in Denmark than any other place I’ve been. So not only are they hot – but they are fertile and enthusiastic reproducers!!
Oh, a friend of mine married a girl from Ukraine, they have a little toddler now. It wasn’t that he couldn’t meet girls on the local dating scene, but the ones he was meeting already had as many kids as they wanted and he wanted a son of his own.
I don’t know how IMBRA affected him (I think he may have met her before it took effect), I do know that he ended up actually going abroad to meet her before she came here.
No, they’re not. The Total Fertility Rate is somewhere between 1.74 and 1.87 with 1.74 being the most current results from the CIA world factbook. That’s below the developed world replacement rate of 2.1. Thus the Danish are fertile and enthusiastic enough to die slowly, rather than really quickly like the japanese.
I’m kinda surprised you didn’t know about the onrushing downfall of western civilization. I learned about it from people arguing against the nanny state. That all evidence points to nanny states literally dying of old age seems like a pretty strong argument against them.
Who said I didn’t know about the “onrushing downfall of western civilization”? I’ve posted about this many times. I’m not the type of person who STOPS living because of something like that. I don’t get excited about things that are beyond my ability to influence. Yeah – I’m an “Empire Guy” – but not a BLIND one.
And – another thing. European “nanny states” – yeah they certainly are. However, in every country I’ve visited I’ve had NO problems meeting like-minded people who believe in self-sufficiency and liberty. The problem is – THOSE people are usually out doing stellar things and PRODUCING – and they’re not involved in the parasitic activities of government. I’ll stand toe-to-toe with any Viking, or Dane, or Icelander … or hell even Somolians that I’ve met who understand what FREEDOM means. I have met quite a few of them in fact – good men and good women who are tough as nails. So when Western Civilization does fall – these people will find a way and that is the way of the world my friend.
I don’t know who wrote the CIA World Factbook but he’s never sat on the outside patio of the Hard Rock Cafe in Copenhagen and watched all the pretty girls go by pushing their strollers … or biking with their babies! 😛
That was kinda of a joke, like people can argue with you about every other “onrushing downfall of western civilization”, but there isn’t really any technology that can fix demographics.
Also that is like totally the problem with the pro-individual side. The government is parasite, like totally man. No parasite ever died off just by ignoring it. No, the way to kill a parasite is get something toxic inside of it.
The parasite must be slowly consumed from the inside, carefully ripp… Yeah, you get my idea, right?
I suppose that it could be only pretty girls are reproducing.
However, I think I trust the CIA World Factbook guy, because his method was almost certainly more boring. And the cold hard truth is that truth is a soulless nightmare with all glory and EVERYTHING fun sucked from it by the uncaring maw of humanity’s thirst for knowledge.
Um, I’m trying to get an early start on Halloween by working on my villainous monologue. Sorry.
The problem is sex itself, I suspect.
There’s a weird similarity between what neofeminisms and gender feminists get into with sex, and what prudes, religious extremists and others get to with sex.
many just don’t like heterosexual sex, at all. It’s as if they see it as inherently dirty or exploitative or wrong. The actual reason seems irrelevant.Whether it’s the fact that men always exploit all women and sex is the tool to do it or sex is a dirty, repulsive animal thing seems almost irrelevant.
I’ve bene discussing this with severla people. I’ve continued to try to engage Taslima Nasrin, for example, but her hard-headed hatred of men shows through. She seems shocked and titilated by sexuality, generally, and uncomfortable with the subject; though mahy of the things in reference to Islam I agree with, they often have a tone of “What! Men are so disgusting, they hurt us and do thigns and they want to have sex with women too!”
Many of these activists lace their language with explicit terms that seem placed deliberately in order to shock; Anal sex! Blowjobs! As If Any Woman Would give Blowjobs! How Disgusting!
I’m wondering.
Do you think it’s just a new iteration of the age-old Nanny or Old Biddy approach to sex?
A lot of women, and a few men but always much fewer than women, seem to just dislike sex, generally, and even when it’s good, just aren’t interested or think it’s gross.
I think it’s this subset that eventually become the nanny-types.
In feminism, they become neofeminists who abhor men and hate the idea of men having sex. Women having sex is fine, though why such people woudl want sex with men seems to befuddle them, but in that case it’s okay because it’s the woman who wants it. If a man wants it, it’s automatcally bad.
Among the religious, they hide behind marriage vows: Sex only in marriage, and then only for God and Procreation.
Among the crazy, it comes out in a kind-of self-hatred.
Anyway, I think there’s something to this: Asexual or antisexual (especially middle-aged) women who seem to care what everyone else is doing.
Am I totally off here?
This might also explain the difference between anti-sex and pro-sex feminism (in addition to lesbians). it might also explain why the anti-side just doesn’t get porn or prostitution, because to them, all sex is basically bad.
Anyway, Maggie, tell me what you think.
A little indifference isn’t a bad thing. While I got on well with most all my clients, I was there to provide a service, not become part of the family.
Sure, I did end up getting close to some of my regular clients. And why not? They were fine, interesting, personable men. But I always had to be aware of the boundaries.
I know that sex generally makes me feel better. I also know that some things just kill the mood, and sex isn’t much of an option under those circumstances. Of course, if my mood is killed, I’m hardly going to be hiring a provider, no matter how many whatloos I have available.
I have this sneaking suspicion that in a hundred years, people will still be predicting the eminent collapse of civilization. It’ll be for some reason we haven’t thought of yet, and there’ll be some annoying jerk pointing out that every generation believes themselves to be living in the End Times.
Thought provoking.
If you’re able to use sex to help people generously, that’s a nice thing. I like your writing.
I would never consider using the services of an escort, first of all with my luck I’d get caught in a sting or two I’d catch something that Ajax or penicillin wouldn’t take off ( thank the military V/D movies for that bit of mental issues).
Actually, you’re vastly more likely to catch something from an amateur than from a pro.
Thank you for that information. Disease is but one issue I have trouble with is this area of life.
The “getting caught in a sting” concern is still a legitimate worry.
I have an interesting comment.
A barely remembered memory:
Back in my 20’s, an ex-GF approached me (while I was getting prepared to get married). She had been sexually assaulted while traveling in another country.
Though I was taken (and about to be married), I met up with her to have dinner. She proceeded to tell me her story (it was all-too predictable: Young woman trusts foreign guy too much, gets taken advantage of, and it’s on the bad end of the possible result range).
She then asked me point-blank if, considering our past and the (limited) bonds of affection that remained, if I would go back to her place with her.
She knew I was taken, so I didn’t konw what to say, but I do remember what she said to me:
“I don’t want my last sexual experience to be a sexual assault.”
(as in the most recent one) > I presume she wanted to drive out the memory.
Despite being taken, I recall I went back with her. I didn’t think about it much, but wrote it off as a kind – of “You’re a jerk if you turn her down”, especially given our previous relationship.
She was grateful, never asked me again, and that was the last time we were together. She described me on Facebook as one of her closest friends, even still, in her little group thingy, even though we haven’t spoken in almost 8 years.
Funny, when my ex asked me (after we divorced) if I’d ever cheated on her, I said no; oddly, I never thought about this evening as being cheating. It just didn’t occur to me. In fact, I didn’t really think about it much at all. except, of course, for lamenting how the world works.
As far as I know, she’s involved with a great guy (second husband) and has two kids by him, so things must be working out. I presume.
Sex is a strange animal.
It’s never quite what you think it is.
I’m a single 45 year old blue collar worker, and as such the topic of sex comes up frequently, when asked if I have a wife, lady friend, a friend with benefits, I feign fear of STD’s, quote articles on antibiotic resistant viruses and HIV as to why I stay alone,this is far easier for me than revealing the complicated issues behind it.