[As a sex worker] you either have so much agency that you can never be raped or you’re raped, in the abstract, every night. – Melissa Petro
Well, At Least They’re Consistent
Any charge, no matter how ridiculous and outmoded, will be pressed into service in the War on Whores:
Two [Wisconsn]…women face criminal charges as part of what Oshkosh police call an online prostitution ring. Bailey M. Feustel, 20…and…Michelle J. Wescher, 23, [are] charged with prostitution by engaging in non-marital sexual intercourse, which carries a maximum sentence of nine months in prison…
Neither Addiction Nor Epidemic
In January…Joshua Grubbs of Case Western, published…powerful research showing that seeing oneself as a porn addict was predicted not by how much porn one views, but by the degree of religiosity and moral attitudes towards sex….believing oneself is addicted to porn actually causes pain and psychological problems, in contrast to the idea that identifying as a porn addict is a part of a road to recovery…seeing oneself as a porn addict was strongly correlated with depression, anxiety, anger and stress…
Some people just can’t stand the idea of others having sex on their own terms:
According to a new paper, having intercourse with sex robots — a technology that’s not quite there yet, but easy to imagine in the decades to come — is unethical. “I started thinking, ‘Oh, no, something needs to be said about this,’” Kathleen Richardson…said of her early research into sex robots that recreated what she called the “prostitute-john” relationship. “This is not right…extending relations of prostitution into machines is neither ethical, nor is it safe…the development of sex robots will further reinforce relations of power that do not recognise both parties as human subjects”…Richardson — with Erik Billing of the University of Skövde in Sweden, the co-creator of the Campaign Against Sex Robots — [pretends] that she is not anti-sex…
First They Came for the Hookers…
If prohibitionists really want to “rescue” sex workers, why do they keep trying to stop us from getting other jobs?
A high school teacher in Ohio resigned…after her second life as an Internet porn star was exposed…Kristin Sundman worked as an assistant band teacher at Theodore Roosevelt High School in Kent. But in her free time, the 31-year-old was better known online as “melodyXXXtune”…
I just love Elizabeth N. Brown:
Indiana’s attorney general…Greg Zoeller [pretends] that the demand for adult sex workers “fuels” child sexual exploitation somehow. Nevermind the fact that most people seeking consensual sex with adults wouldn’t dream of raping children; they’re all deviants in Zoeller’s mind…”We need something that sends [a] message”…said Zoeller, who is proposing the creation of a mandatory minimum sentencing requirement for those who attempt to pay for sex in any way…the tougher penalties…may also include…[stealing the accused’s] cars…Expect to see more of this nonsense around the country, soon—the folks at the National Association of Attorneys General have been salivating at the chance to throw more people in our already-overcrowded jails…Florida last year became the first to stipulate a mandatory minimum sentencing requirement for solicitation. Anyone convicted of a second solicitation offense must be sentenced to at least 10 days in jail and attend classes where they will receive counseling for sex addiction and be reeducated to see the evils of consensual commercial sex.
Why must so many otherwise-decent pro-decriminalization essays contain asinine, insulting, female-agency-denying passages like this one? “Beyond a doubt most women who enter into sex work are driven into it, either by desperation, coercion, or both…” No, you asshole, that assertion is not “beyond a doubt”, as you’d know if you spent more time talking to sex workers than about us.
I can’t help laughing at how seriously people take this drivel:
…The Lifeboat Project in Central Florida designed the ACT (Awareness Combats Trafficking) app. It’s designed as a fun game directed mainly to 11 to 14 year olds. But within the very interactive game lies a very serious message. One part of the app asks the user to go through and identify potentially dangerous people in a mall…“For me as a survivor I was triggered so I had to leave the room while they were presenting it, because the examples were so real life,” said [“rescue” shill Katarina] Rosenblatt…State leaders like the app so much, they want to make it part of the curriculum in Florida schools…“I think it’s an excellent idea that very [sic] child should automatically have built into their phone,” said Rosenblatt…
It’s rare to see “authorities” admit that no actual crime was committed right in the official accusation: “A [California man] is scheduled to be arraigned today for using social media in pandering and attempted human trafficking and pimping of a fictitious minor girl…”
First They Came for the Hookers… (#420)
Politicians can’t keep their hands off of golden geese:
…Jack Williams of Alabama, where it is technically illegal to sell sex toys except under special circumstances, is trying to do with a bill that would levy a whopping 40 percent tax on “sexually-oriented materials” restricted for sale to adults in the state…Williams [pretends] the legislation…could bring in as much as $20 million…
“Authorities” literally destroy a man’s life because his wife sent him money she earned via consensual business transactions:
A woman in Hawaii is pleading guilty to sending her husband in New Jersey more than half a million dollars she earned working as a prostitute. Khemwika Ernst pleaded guilty…to…conspiracy…and filing false tax returns…Ernst and her husband were indicted in March…Michael Ernst shot and killed himself a month later…
…Whether it’s a witness who wants to be helpful or one who has something to hide, the bottom line is that eyewitness statements are inherently unreliable and erratic. Sometimes it depends on conditions …Other times, it comes…from police pressure. We know that witnesses get it wrong, and that it convicts the innocent. But once they are locked into a statement it’s even more difficult to get them admit any error. In fact, they become more adamant about what they saw, heard, or said when none of it may be remotely true…while there are studies and experts on these innate problems, many courts won’t allow that testimony…because they have have determined that juries “should know” that eyewitnesses can be untrustworthy…Eyewitness testimony is outrageously inaccurate and biased, even under very controlled circumstances…
The Course of a Disease (#510)
Ireland is set to publish a bill…which will criminalise the purchase of sex, despite the recent vote by Amnesty International that sex work and prostitution should be decriminalised…The new legislation…has been described as a “huge step backwards” and likened to Ireland’s controversial blasphemy laws, which were enacted in 2009…
Melissa Petro on what some vile women refer to as “theft of services”:
…the man paid me what I was owed— $2,500—in bank checks. I’d never even seen a bank check before. I was so tired that I didn’t argue…Needless to say, the checks bounced…I felt humiliated that night, that morning—so I kept what had happened to myself…It took me four hours after reading Mitchell’s article to connect the disgust I felt to the fact that I’d experienced what she called “theft of services” …suddenly thinking of some random stranger who had ripped me off nearly a decade ago—someone I felt less strongly towards than I felt towards some random writer named Mary Mitchell, because I have always expected more from women than I have men…
re The Pygmalion Fallacy:
Presumably Ms Richardson’s campaign also targets vibrators for exactly the same reason. No? Funny that.
Exactly.
As I believe Mistress Matisse pointed out on Twitter, it’s no good panicking over sex with robots because sex with a robot cannot exist. At most it’s advanced-level masturbation.
Especially if they’re programmed to comply with Asimov’s second law.
There is nothing wrong with advanced-level masturbation. On the other hand, the panic here is probably not about sex with somebody else, but specifically about masturbation. History is full of it and of busy-bodies that want to be push their own concepts of how people should live on everybody, even when the aspect targeted is a wholly private one.
Along this line, one of the most absurd comments I ever heard was from a woman who found it disgusting that men paid for sex at a local massage outlet which was right near a high scool. My thought: “Look, it’s a high school. Aside from the kids there bonking away, people live right next door to that high school, and THEY have sex. Why isn’t THAT disgusting? Why isn’t THAT form of paid sex outlawed?”
I’m still not convinced those ‘bots are a fallacy. They will probably command lower market prices than the real thing, but on the other hand, you can buy a ‘bot and rely on it not leaving you.
Nah, it’ll probably end up leaving you for a spotty teenage hacker.
And there’s that dumb movie where everyone falls in love with their sentient operating systems only to have them abandon them for a simplistic simulation of Alan Watts that’s more like a Rogerian psychologist style chatbot than a comparative religious scholar. The op systems even prime their owners to commit suicide after they’ve shot through.
False witness: here in San Rafael, a rabid anti-sex group recounts a tale where a white van dropped women off at a massage outlet which offered extra services. The account says they were left for several days at a time before the next “shipment” came in. There were claims that they were seen milling around nervously out the back. I’ve heard that story several times, and each time something’s missing, or something’s been added.
Of course, the anti-sex group was sure trafficking was going on. The recounting above, if viewed through that lens, could be seen that way. To me, that’s bearing false witness, because no one from that group went into the outlet to see what was going on there.
Now, the code enforcement officer would go into that establishment, around the time people saw the van. He tells me he’d see several scantily-clad Asian women hanging around, chattering rather gaily. There was none of the nervousness and bruises the Polaris Project associates with trafficking. He also knew the owner of that outlet had a house in town, as well as owning another outlet.
His take: the women were carpooling to work.
Morale: Especially people on a mission routinely do not see what is, but what they want to see, thereby committing untold evil. The whole “trafficking” panic is a good example of that.
How can pretending to pay for a prostitute with a check that bounces be rape rather than theft of services, when pretending to pay for a landscaper with a check that bounces is theft of services rather than enslavement?
It might not be forcible rape, but any woman who has been seduced under false pretenses will certainly understand sex workers’ argument that they have been raped.
Rape is a crime. Seducing a woman under false pretenses isn’t. I suggest that lying to a woman is not considered rape.
Actually, seducing a women under false pretense can be a illegal. For example, promising marriage in order to get sex and then not keeping that promise makes you liable under German law. This is civil law though, and the woman in question gets compensated financially by the perpetrator by what I gather buys you around 2-3 hours with an average escort, as far as I remember.
This is not black and white, and there are quite a few possibilities between “not a legal issue” and “rape”.
Earlier this year in Australia, Akis Livas was sent to jail for raping a sex worker by pretending to pay with an envelope stuffed with paper. When one party deliberately sets out to violate the terms of consent agreed to in a (verbal) contract, then non-consensual sex has occurred.
Being a slave is the status of a person and not a one-time event. The bouncing check to a sex worker is a theft of service but it is also sexual abuse at the same time. Rape is obtaining sex without consent. Consent to sex was contingent upon an agreed price. Of course rape is a big word and it’s debatable whether it is suitable here. But it’s definitely a form of sexual abuse.
No. Whether you consented to sex in the past can’t be determined by an event that remains in the future (such as learning that a check has bounced). Your causality is backwards.
I agree. It is still defrauding a person directly, not a larger company, where the damage gets spread out over a group of people. That makes it a lot worse in my book.
I would go one step father and say it is fraud under especially damning circumstances, namely defrauding a single-person business. It is not rape, because if it were rape, then sex-work would be special and not ‘just work’ and that would open a whole other can of worms.
Of course, a sex-worker can be raped, but that is what happens when no business-relationship is involved and consent was not given for the act in question. This is akin to a shop being robbed or a worker being forced perform some work. In both cases, no consent was given, and hence the action was not part of a business relationship.
The distinction is really simple: Fraud is when trickery is involved, robbery, slavery, rape is when non-consensual violence or coercion is involved. I think it is an important distinction and it should nor be watered down for any specific trade.
But keep in mind that fraud hits small businesses and especially single-person businesses very hard, so I think Maggie can be forgiven her irrational stance here.