Last week was an incredibly busy one for me; I’ve got some very large bills coming up, so I decided to raise some money quickly by running an extremely generous special. And boy, did I get responses! I was so busy I ran around with a broken nail for over a week because I just couldn’t make time to get to the nail parlor, and by the time I finally managed to do so I had broken a second one during a bondage session (I’ll leave it to your imaginations to decide whether I was tying or being tied). But now that I’ve got your attention, I’ll repeat: I’m running an extremely generous special! For Seattle, it applies to sessions of two hours or longer, but outside of Seattle it only applies to overnights; if you didn’t think you could afford to book me for that long, you may want to inquire about it because it applies anywhere in the US. Please y’all, serious inquiries only! And even if you can’t afford an overnight even with the special, you might want to consider voting on places for me to tour in May; the candidates so far are Minneapolis, Washington, DC and Tampa. Speaking of voting, a clever reader came up with these parody T-shirts for my 2020 presidential campaign, with Mistress Matisse as my running mate; 100% of the proceeds go to SWOP Behind Bars, so please buy one ASAP! And that for right now is that, except for my encouraging you to consider how many people might have been involved in the aforementioned bondage session.
Archive for March, 2017
Diary #351
Posted in Diary, tagged blogging on March 21, 2017| 2 Comments »
Vernal Equinox 2017
Posted in Holidays, tagged holidays, paganism on March 20, 2017| 2 Comments »
Links #350
Posted in Current Events, Links, Miscellaneous, Tyranny, tagged Connecticut, cops, drugs, imaginative fiction, New York, Oklahoma, Oregon, politicians, universal criminality, Utah, video on March 19, 2017| 8 Comments »
But who will fix the roads? – statists
I’ve been watching my collection of Pink Panther cartoons lately, usually one right before bedtime, and I saw this one last week when I was quite high (which, naturally, made it even more amusing). The links above it were provided by Jesse Walker, Scott Greenfield, Jesse Walker again, Tejas, Inspireland, Franklin Harris, and Radley Balko, in that order.
- Anarchy in action.
- Not a police state, nope.
- Paging Morgus the Magnificent.
- How dare she die? THINK OF THE CHILDREN!
- This squares with my experience living in 3 of these.
- Desperately looking for someone, anyone, to control.
- They won’t stop until everyone has a criminal record.
From the Archives
- So very many people completely bereft of the capacity for rational thought.
- I’m skeptical about anything Seattle PD says about victimized sex workers.
- There’s no relationship between porn viewing & ED in healthy young men.
- Bootlicker calls me heartless liar for attacking her masturbatory fantasies.
- Rescue industry’s getting so successful it now has mergers & acquisitions.
- Would this language have been used for this same situation 20 years ago?
- Think a non-cop would merely have lost his job with no criminal charges?
- Nobody looks too hard at those financing efforts for more criminalization.
- Another astonishingly-stupid “study” produces predictably-stupid results.
- It’s not just many pros who dislike oral sex; some amateurs don’t either.
- South Korea’s court battle over US-encouraged sex work criminalization.
- A good article on the use of shaming tactics against sex workers’ clients.
- As usual, the buffoonish Nick Kristof’s not too concerned with the truth.
- “Artists” claim that phone numbers have sympathetic magic properties.
- Soon there’ll be too few free people to buy all the “modern-day slaves”!
- Are the Japanese the only people left who can tell fantasy from reality?
- In which a dumb kid tries to trick me into doing his homework for him.
- “Sex trafficking” fetishists advise doctors to “speak love into [victims]”.
- So very much stupidity here, but I guess the main thing is the “signs”.
- All this requires is the “testimony” of a lying cop out to score arrests.
- The monolith is crumbling; this was in International Business Times.
- Only the alternative media question noxious “end demand” rhetoric.
- Can you hear the sound of fapping while you read this guy’s words?
- It’s so good to see debunking spreading to the mainstream press.
- Dominatrix Kim Petro gets an instant ticket to my Hall of Shame.
- Cops spy on woman who sued them for allowing one to rape her.
- A young man gets more than he bargained for in a strange drug.
- Would this excuse have worked for a victim with any other job?
- Is the ACLU finally beginning to do the right thing, at long last?
- An in-depth analysis of how Eden and its ilk harm sex workers.
- Sometimes “trafficking” just means “bringing in brown people“.
- Crappy poll claims the number of whores & clients is the same.
- Mark Draughn on the claim that sex work hurts the economy.
- The same “sex trafficking” story from different media outlets.
- A whore uses her superpower to seek revenge on an enemy.
- The United States, a shining example of liberty to the world.
- Brooke Magnanti sues idiot who claims she wasn’t a whore.
- Would a stay-at-home wife contract be legally enforceable?
- Another state expands the definition of “prostitution”.
- These fake numbers aren’t nearly as absurd as usual.
- Cops, criminality, plastic, Daleks and much more.
- Thailand arrests refugees as “trafficking victims”.
- My two previous columns for the vernal equinox.
- Noah Berlatsky on anti-sex writer Chris Hedges.
- Obviously, these “facts” don’t include any math.
- On the simultaneous having and eating of cake.
- Cops, rhetoric, propaganda and much more.
- More “questionable” than being a vice cop?
- In which I try to settle into life in Seattle.
- Jillian Keenan schools ignoramus judges.
- Charlie Sheen recommends sex workers.
- Sex work is evidence of brain damage?
- Higher education in the US is dead.
- Google censors antiwar protests.
- “Might be”? Try again, Emily.
- Catching up from SASS.
One of Them
Posted in Miscellaneous, Perception, Philosophy, tagged activism, BDSM, bisexuality, Madonna/whore, psychology on March 17, 2017| 13 Comments »
I’ve always been uncomfortable with pigeonholing, the notion that it’s possible to completely define people by whatever groups they might belong to. It’s the basis of all bigotry and “us vs them” thinking, and those who forcibly include others in their groups are no better than those who exclude others because they belong to certain groups. In other words, I’m just as offended by women who say, “you’re a woman and so you must act in this way and accept this political dogma” as I am by men who say, “you can’t do such-and-such because you’re a woman.” Yeah, I’m a woman. I’m also human, American, mostly-Caucasian, middle-aged, brown-haired & brown-eyed, and of fairly average height and weight. My sexuality is responsive to both men and women, and I’m turned on by a lot of things lumped under the category “kink”; I also make a living providing sexual services, and I’m extremely good at what I do. I used to be a librarian, and I’m still a pretty good writer; I like a lot of different ethnic cuisines (especially Mexican, Italian, Indian and Thai) and dislike green, leafy vegetables and undercooked food. I have reasonably broad tastes in music, but there are a number of genres I can’t really appreciate; in fiction (whether written or performed) I tend to prefer fantasy, horror and speculative fiction, and I also prefer shorter stories & shows to longer ones. I enjoy animation and role-playing games (in-person, not computer-based), and I used to be considered a helluva DM.
So as you can see, there are lots of labels which could be applied to me, and lots of groups to which I might be considered to belong. I could be called a human, American, Southerner, New Orleanian, lapsed Catholic, pagan, woman, brunette, whore, courtesan, ex-librarian, writer, speaker, anarchist, radical, queer, kinkster, polyamorist, nerd, witch, bitch, mentor, healer, activist, public intellectual and many other things; some people call me ugly terms like “pervert”, “pimp” or “criminal”, while others prefer flattering ones like “heroine”, “angel” or “goddess”. But the one thing all these descriptors have in common, whether they’re objective or subjective, bland or emotive, insulting or adulatory, accepted by me or not, is that they do not define me. There is not a single one of these terms which tells you all you need to know about me, not even the ones I proudly embrace (such as “whore”). Even if you string them together (I’ve been known to refer to myself on Twitter as a “kinky bisexual whore”, and I’m generally introduced as a “sex worker, writer and activist”) it still doesn’t even come close to telling you what I’m actually like, or serving as more than an extremely general predictor of almost anything about me (other than the specific trait it denotes). The fact that I’m from New Orleans might give you a few clues about me, but it couldn’t predict the kind of movies I like; the introduction I mentioned above lets you know I’m probably very confident, but says nothing about my dietary preferences; and the fact that I’m bisexual tells you absolutely nothing other than that I wouldn’t automatically reject cuddling up with any given person on the basis of their sex.
And yet there are people who absolutely refuse to get this. I’ve run into folks who presume that because I’m a white Southerner I must be racist; others who imagine my dislike of greens carries some deeper meaning than that they shouldn’t offer me spinach at dinner; still others who declare that my love of sci-fi shows & fantasy games allows them to make predictions about my sex life and living arrangements; and many thousands who fantasize that my profession means I must either be a “victim” or an “exploiter”, or even both. Then just the other day in an exchange with Matisse, I wrote that my terms for letting women snuggle up to me are generally less strict than my terms for letting men do so because “I’m bisexual (leaning lesbian at this stage of my life) & most women don’t try to fuck me without paying“; a dude replied to this with “Oh, a lesbian”, as though that entirely summed up my personality and now he understood everything he needed to know about me. Forget the fact that “bisexual leaning lesbian for the time being” isn’t the same as “lesbian”; even if I did identify as a lesbian that still wouldn’t give you more than a small fraction of a description of my sexuality, and it wouldn’t tell you squat about any other aspect of my personality. The fact that I enjoy kissing and petting other women no more defines my “identity” than the fact that I like spicy food or the fact that I prefer fiction of the imaginative variety; it doesn’t even tell you what I don’t like because preferences aren’t necessarily exclusive (I also like kissing men, eating vanilla ice cream and some movies with absolutely no element of the fantastic). It’s simply not possible to understand any human being by knowing one fact about her, no matter what cops, politicians and tribalists may want you to believe; pigeonholes are fine for pigeons, but unsuited for people.
In the News (#721)
Posted in Current Events, Miscellaneous, News, Perception, Tyranny, tagged acting, Backpage, brothels, California, Cooties, cops, drugs, ethics, Guinea Pigs, If Men Were Angels, India, Louisiana, Madonna/whore, Minnesota, Never Call the Cops, Norway, Pennsylvania, psychology, rape, rescue industry, Rough Trade, Send In the Clowns, Spotlight, Still a Child, streetwalkers, stripping, surveillance, The War Goes On, To Molest and Rape, United Kingdom on March 15, 2017| 1 Comment »
White people saving white people is not as sexy and compelling as white people getting to further exercise their savior complex through the racist stereotype of the submissive, obedient Asian sex slave. – Laura LeMoon
From Norway, the other feminist paradise:
A 36 year old man has been sentenced to five years in prison after being found guilty of two rapes. The punishment would have been harsher if the victims were not prostitutes…the judgment of Stavanger District Court [reads]…”By the rape of a prostitute who has agreed to sell sexual services, but where a situation arises where the offender will not pay, and thus develop into a rape which in this case is the violation of sexual integrity by a somewhat different character”…the verdict has been appealed…
Sex work is not an evil to be tolerated, but a good to be celebrated:
…Over the next year I sought out…sexworkers…every for every time I felt I was losing control…the only thing holding me together was the sexworkers I was seeing every three to four weeks. They kept my wife safe from my anger…Based on the recommendation of a sexworker I sought help. I was diagnosed with PTSD…later [my wife] filed for divorce…years [later] I met a young lady…that stole my heart. After two months of dating…she said she could not have an exclusive physical relationship with me, but if I was willing to have a mentally exclusive and love exclusive relationship, she would be more than happy to join me in such a relationship. That’s when she explained that she was a sexworker…Today, she and I are married. We have a loving relationship based on openness and honesty. She actually encourages me seeing sexworkers…
[Doctor] Naga Thota…was sentenced to more than two years in federal prison for distributing controlled substances without a legitimate purpose, part of…a “quid pro quo situation in which he exchanged drugs, gifts and money for sex.” A criminal complaint accuses him of having similar arrangements with two other patients — all of them in their 20s and addicted to pain pills…Thota and the women would exchange sexually explicit texts, then Thota would write prescriptions in exchange for sexual favors…he switched them to more powerful painkillers, then increased the dosages — and their dependence on him as a supplier…
“Protecting women” is nearly always code for either spying on us or controlling us:
…the imagination of safety for women in public spaces always ends up focusing on monitoring their moves – by dotting the cityscape with closed-circuit television cameras. The Karnataka government responded to the allegations of rape and molestation by announcing the purchase of 550 more CCTVs, never mind that the thousand-odd such devices had failed to stop the assaults in the first place…in spite of having more security cameras than any other country in Europe, only 3% of street robberies in London were solved using CCTV images in 2015. Additionally, this bolsters the notion that crimes against women are always inflicted by unknown persons — the ubiquitous stranger rape – and erases that most such violence happens within the home, by family members, where there are no CCTVs…The gentrification – which included CCTV installation — of Kolkata’s biggest lakeside park threw sex workers and transfolk onto the streets and made them far more susceptible to police and stranger violence…
Don’t socialize with the sleazy fuckers, either:
A Minneapolis [cop]…sexually [assaulted] an unconscious woman with whom he was out drinking earlier that night…Thomas Robert Tichich…and the victim were with another woman who invited them to spend the night at her home…to avoid driving drunk…the victim passed out on a large living room couch. The woman went to sleep in an upstairs bedroom and told Tichich to sleep on a smaller living room couch…[she] woke up later to find Tichich in her bed touching her arm…[so she] told Tichich to leave the room. A while later, the woman, unable to sleep, went downstairs to find Tichich naked and standing over the victim sleeping on the large couch and attempting a sex act. She took photographs using her cellphone, then kicked Tichich out of her house and called police…
A rare victory against prohibitionists:
[Prohibitionists] were dealt a blow…in a federal court in Louisiana, with U.S. District Judge Carl Barbier siding with strippers between the ages of 18 and 20 in their dispute with a recent Louisiana law…that prohibits anyone age 18 to 20 from dancing nude in Louisiana strip clubs. The decision deals a major blow to what legislators [pretend is] an effort to shield young women from being exploited by human traffickers that they [fantasize] recruit young women in clubs…The ruling appears to establish stripping as a constitutional right under the First Amendment, making Barbier not just a hero to strippers, but to Americans in general…
Extra police patrolled West Mifflin, Pennsylvania over the weekend after officials received reports of two men with weapons, dressed as clowns, frightening a group of children…The search didn’t turn up any evidence…The children were playing hide-and-go-seek in the woods, when around 4:15 p.m. they [claimed] two men dressed like scary clowns and carrying weapons approached them…
In the fight against child sex trafficking, shutting down an epicenter like Backpage was a major victory, but one against a relentless foe that quickly unfurled new tentacles…it…illustrated how difficult it is to stamp out the practice of selling children for sex…Eric Quan, a [vice pig]…with the San Jose Police Department, said there had been a conspicuous rise in street prostitution…
It’s interesting how often cops & reporters with “sex trafficking” fantasies are also apparently fans of hentai. Also note that though this reporter keeps drooling about “selling children for sex” the woman he interviewed for this tragedy porn is 18.
Super-ally Frankie Mullin exposes cop bullshit:
“Pop-up brothels” full of trafficked women are sweeping the country, according to a spate of recent reports…The tale – valiant but kindly cops, the suggestion of women chained to radiators – with its trendy packaging in hipster terminology has been guzzled up by the press. Basic fact-checking…is absent…in the last 12 months recorded, Devon and Cornwall police have made just one referral for sex trafficking to the National Referral Mechanism…and that was for an underage girl from the UK…Insp Dave Meredith…admitted…”We haven’t managed to locate any traffickers as a direct result of visiting pop-up brothels”…when I checked out Meredith’s claim – repeated by every news outlet which covered the story – that “the sex workers are the victims so we try to offer them help and signpost them to various agencies”, I hit a dead end…So…contrary to news reports: no Eastern European trafficking victims have been found, and “signposting to agencies” is, as yet, a hypothetical concept. If the situation arose, cops would “google it”…
It’s so good to see people who had a bad time in sex work attacking self-proclaimed savior Asstoon:
With tears brimming his eyes and a quiver in his voice, Ashton Kutcher testified…how he had recently seen a video of a 7-year-old girl in Cambodia being raped. Search for his speech online, and shockingly, no one seems to have one word of criticism for the actor-turned-crusader…despite the fact that he…according to his own admission, is somehow getting ahold of and watching what is essentially child snuff porn — and then crying about it to the senate, where he’s praised for his compassion. Unlike Kutcher, I am a trafficking survivor. I have also come to the sex industry at various points of my own choosing and have worked as an escort, adult film performer and street-based sex worker…What Kutcher represents…is exactly the problem with the global anti-trafficking movement today: paternalism and the trafficking savior complex…it has become abundantly clear to me that there might be — at most — one other trafficking survivor among potentially hundreds of people at [“anti-trafficking”] events. This is precisely why Kutcher is problematic…
Diary #350
Posted in Diary, tagged activism, drugs, Presents on March 14, 2017| Leave a Comment »
I really like this picture someone took of Joy de Vive and I at the Harlot’s Ball weekend before last, so I’m sharing it because I didn’t last week and it IS my blog, so I can do what I like. A generous reader sent me another new dress, but unfortunately I guessed wrong on the size so I’ll have to send it back to switch it for a medium. See, that’s the problem with women’s sizes; the dress in this picture is a size small, and as you can see it fits me perfectly. But though the new one is also a small and fits my hips and waist perfectly, it…well, in the words of Sol Finer, “There is no way this zipper is going to close with those massive boobs in the way.” So let’s see what a medium looks like (le sigh). Anyhow, there aren’t any pictures I can share from any of last week’s activities, which included a good amount of work (including two sessions with a great new client…hi there sugar!), no fewer than FOUR dinners with awesome whore friends, my usual Sunday Doctor Who evening with Lorelei, the previous evening spent watching a really weird movie while stoned with another whore friend, lots of driving around Seattle in the rain, and getting behind on my writing. But work on my new book cover is progressing, my secret project reached another milestone, and my tolerance for liquor seems to have dramatically increased because I can now have two cocktails with dinner and barely even feel it. Ah, well, c’est la vie. And one last thing: I’m probably going to tour in May, and I’m going to decide where by how many gents contact me from any given city; the first place to offer me three bookings wins. So if you want to see this stellar bod up close & personal, email me ASAP and let me know where you would like me to visit!
Stealing Time
Posted in Miscellaneous, Philosophy, tagged psychology on March 13, 2017| 7 Comments »
Early risers in the US may be laboring under the misapprehension that today’s column posted an hour later than usual, but that would be incorrect. My column posted at exactly the same time it always does (except for some equinoxes & solstices); it’s just that your clock is fast. Now, you may protest that your clock isn’t actually fast because everybody else’s is equally fast, but that simply wouldn’t be true; the fact that everyone agrees that a lie is true doesn’t actually make it true (consider “sex trafficking”). Just because a government demands that we all lie about what time it is from late winter until mid-autumn doesn’t make that lie true; it just creates a shared lie. Now, I’m sure some of y’all are ready to pontificate in the comments about how time is a lie anyway and blah blah blah, so I’ll save you the trouble: no. In the mid-19th century telecommunications and fast travel by railway necessitated timekeeping be standardized instead of judged by the local solar time, and so at first railways and then governments adopted standard times and, soon after that, time zones. “Daylight Saving” or “Summer Time” schemes do nothing but throw that standard off and add complexity to coordinating schedules in different parts of the world; the practice costs the US alone an estimated $434 million per year, so we can assume the world cost is in the tens of billions. And for what? So people who work 9 to 5 jobs (of which there are far fewer than there used to be) can have extra time to spend outdoors, despite the fact that the amount of time people in the industrialized nations who invented and maintain this silly clock-setting game spend less time outdoors than they ever have at any point in recorded history. Good grief. How about we drop the nonsense, and those with flexible schedules just go to work an hour earlier so they have their after-work outdoor time? Companies who want to can even adopt summer hours if they like (as many still do). And that would let people like me, whose pineal glands refuse to settle down until at least 4 to 6 hours after sunset, actually get to sleep sometime before 4 AM. Yes, this is a cantankerous grumble; please feel free to ignore the crazy lady with the big tits and the outlandish opinions, and just keep doing things as the government tells you to whether they make any sense or not.
Links #349
Posted in Current Events, History, Links, Miscellaneous, Tyranny, tagged Australia, cops, drugs, Finland, Florida, Japan, lawyers, porn, prisons, video, Wisconsin, yellow journalism on March 12, 2017| 1 Comment »
No amount of intuition from one’s training and experience is a substitute for the basic laws of light and physics.
The absurdity of malum prohibitum “crimes” is amply demonstrated in this WWII propaganda video, in which the US government encourages farmers to grow cannabis (specifically hemp, but even that was illegal for decades). The video was contributed by Jesse Walker and the links above it by Emma Evans (“porn”), Charles Hill (“works”), Mike Chase (“clone”), Tim Cushing (“taunts”), Kevin Wilson (“Australia”), and Mike Siegel (“water”).
- No, porn won’t kill you.
- I really hope this works.
- Can we clone this judge?
- When children’s taunts come true.
- These are the times I really love Twitter.
- Australian states analogous to US states.
- Cops murder mentally ill man by denying him water for 10 days.
From the Archives
- When a cop wants to destroy someone, universal criminality makes it easy.
- The link between abortion prohibition & “sex trafficking” hysteria increases.
- Tired of hard stuff like standing, getting dressed & making paper airplanes?
- Arresting criminals isn’t as fun as ruining people’s lives for consensual sex.
- More and more women who identify as feminists now support sex workers.
- I’m always pleased when someone attacks the concept of “empowerment”.
- Fairies, horses, Terry Pratchett, cops, teachers, politicians, poop & Grease.
- Thought the “anti-pimp hygiene products” trope couldn’t get any stupider?
- Trying to turn Lawrence into a “monogamous vanilla amateurs only” club.
- Why Eastern European women figure so heavily in “sex trafficking” myth.
- Uneven article marred by false equivalencies, but its central point is true.
- Ignoramuses love myth that sex work was always criminalized in the US.
- Some gay activists oppose this because it denies them special privileges.
- The UK press, partying like it’s 1999 & nobody’s heard of escort reviews.
- More continuity between the Satanic Panic & “sex trafficking” hysteria.
- Air hostess can’t understand why sex workers object to being hunted.
- Sydney politicians lose fight against whores they hired a man to rape.
- Pimps! Sex slaves! Benevolent cops! And other imaginary characters!
- That whole “presumption of innocence” thing was nice while it lasted.
- Potty-obsessed politician wants to enforce his hangups with violence.
- Louisville cops insist transgender murder victim wasn’t transgender.
- The unchecked metastasis of the Department of Homeland Security.
- Giving fanatics what they want only encourages them to want more.
- Every decision like this, in any country, brings us closer to the goal.
- Sometimes politicians’ rhetorical devices are blatantly transparent.
- Remember the Dallas outfit cashing in on “sex trafficking” tours?
- Things had been going a lot better for my friend Kelly Michaels…
- The newest “sign” of “sex trafficking”: going to a beauty parlor.
- This is impossible to parody, because the reality is so ludicrous.
- Read this and tell me that Marxism & feminism aren’t religions.
- Spokane schemes to steal cars if driven across imaginary lines.
- Still crusading against imaginary “traffickers” in North Dakota.
- The controversy over escort reviews, especially those on TER.
- If any job indicates a need for “counseling”, it’s politician.
- BDSM practitioners are generally psychologically healthy.
- Why do some sex workers like to pay for social dates?
- They’re literally just making this garbage up now.
- See the resemblance to the “Satanic Panic” yet?
- On the simultaneous having and eating of cake.
- A synopsis of my 31-year history of sex work.
- A female client of sex workers tells her story.
- The world’s first successful penis transplant.
- Charlotte Rose’s work with the disabled.
- The unsinkable Liz Brown does it again.
- Revolting even by rapist cop standards.
- Laws are more important than people.
- Sadly, this was a foregone conclusion.
- Cops, Monty Python & much more.
- Teacher fired for having a sex life.
- My hectic first weeks in Seattle.
- The humility of Meena Seshu.
- The Revolt of the Prostitutes.
- Don’t you know who I am?
- Rapist cops of the week.
- Another Friday the 13th.
- Chimpanzee shrines.
- SASS 2016.