I have been seeing professionals for several years, mostly through an Asian escort service. I really enjoyed some of the girls, but they travel a lot so sometimes none of the girls I like are available, and it’s always hit or miss with someone new. Plus, though I love Asian ladies I also like variety, so I decided to try some independent escorts, and boy has it been a flaky and unreliable experience. I registered with P411, picked only well-reviewed providers, etc, yet nothing has gone right. The first independent I tried cancelled twice at the last minute for ridiculous reasons, then we finally connected and the service was excellent…but when I tried to reschedule she flaked again. So I tried another girl; this one didn’t answer when I tried to confirm on the day of the appointment as she had requested. The next one double-scheduled and called me 15 minutes before the appointment trying to reschedule; a fourth one made an appointment but wouldn’t confirm, then told me to “Fuck off” when I emailed to ask if we were still on for that day. What am I doing wrong? I never had this trouble with the agency.
It’s strange that you’ve had so many bad experiences, so I think you need to look at what the unifying factor might be. Were all of these girls very young? Because young girls are often quite poor at what hobbyists call “TKB” (taking care of business). Also, you said they were all well-reviewed; did any of their reviews mention this flakiness? Because if they didn’t, it may be that you’re somehow doing something to encourage this sort of behavior without realizing it. I suggest you try looking at ladies who have been around a bit longer; if you still have similar problems with escorts who have been in the business for years, it’s definitely something you’re doing that did not affect you when you were dealing with the agency, but causes problems with independent escorts, such as some sort of screening issue that’s making them nervous.
Postscript: This reader later wrote back and confirmed that all of the girls were indeed young, and he suspected that his preference for early appointments might be part of the problem if these girls enjoyed staying out late. He said he would try more mature escorts.
I’ve been seeing an escort I’m extremely attracted to, but all three sessions I’ve had with her were very substandard because she has this rush-rush attitude; by the third time I was so stressed by it I couldn’t even get hard for her. Yet for some reason, I feel compelled to go to her. What should I do?
If she’s rushing you and it isn’t working out, you definitely need to see someone else. I think you’ve inherited a misguided sense of loyalty from your experience with girlfriends, but an escort is not a girlfriend; she is a service provider, and if she’s not making you happy you need to move on, just as you would with a barber who wasn’t doing a good job on your hair.
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Guys always want to go for the young, hot chicks. The problem is – the young hot chicks thing they are “all that” and so they’re less interested in you than someone older and more mature. Of course, there are exceptions to this rule – I know a 22 year old provider who’s awesome but she’s a military vet too.
If you want an appointment during the day time – and that’s the best time IMO – then try to find a single mom who grooves on her kids. They usually have their evenings planned with the kids so daytime is playtime and open to you. They are very appreciative of good honest and gracious clients.
“Rushing” … LOL … I know what that guy means. I can’t last more than 20 minutes in the saddle but give me a 60 minute appointment and I feel like I’m in the Indianapolis 500 – racing to the finish line – and that’s NO FUN.
Which is why my standard appointment now is 3 hours. It’s more like a date that way and it feels more natural. I get to know the girl … drink some wine …
When I get off this trip I’m on now I plan on scheduling a 3 or 4 hour date with that hot little 22 year old military vet – at a very nice bed and breakfast.
Anyway … I will share this secret with any client who’s tired of girls “rushing” and not treating him right …
There is a kind of a “WD-40” that lubricates everything in the paysex industry. It completely melts away stubborn cases of “rush! rush! rush!” … eliminates clock watching and ensures the girl is 100 percent focused on you.
It’s called … $$CASH$$
I would like for you to comment on this too Maggie – since your comments are fucking lame today anyway but …
How many guys tipped you and about what kind of tips did you get from them?
I always tip heavily. I don’t want to be treated like any other guy – I want the girl to remember my ass long after I’ve left her incall. I want her to pick up the phone when she sees my number on her cellphone and I want her to answer my emails quickly when I send them. If I call and ask for appointment and she has has to do some rearranging to see me – I want her to be enthusiastic about doing it.
Money – it’s the ultimate lubrication and just makes things soooo much easier.
Too many guys want to pound as many girls as they possibly can, as often as they can – and so they’re always looking for bargains and being cheap.
Women are like wine … calm the fuck down and savor them one by one. It’s not a race to see how many you can nail … it’s all about grooving on the girls.
By the way – I’m in the middle east and personally witnessed two hot Polish chicks “traffic” themselves into this Arabic country I’m staying in. How do I know they were hookers? Well because one of them I’ve seen on the websites for the country I’m in. I went up to her on a shuttle bus and said … “I know you … you’re famous!” Which she just blushed cuz – she’s really not famous and only pussy-hounds like me would know her face. She gave me her cellphone number and I may call her if I have time. Said the two of them were going to be here for six weeks – then back to Poland.
NO ONE was traveling with these two girls – they were giggling the whole entire time and I saw their passports in their possession.
It’s huge money for these girls. And – I’m sure, back in Poland they are simply college girls that everyone thinks are oh-so-innocent and pure, and quite frankly – that’s fine and I think that’s cool. The time they spend in this Arabic country will be down and dirty and they’ll make a lot of cash – but no one knows them here and they’ll return to Poland with purses full of cash and their reputations intact.
These girls don’t need “traffickers” to “incentivise” them.
When I saw the post title I thought it was another recipe post. Damn.
This one was originally scheduled for earlier in the month; I specifically moved it to the day before Thanksgiving because of the title. 😉
“Yet for some reason, I feel compelled to go to her. ”
Dude, you are responsible for what you do. There is no “compel”.
Personally, I have a simple rule to forestall this kind of one-itis: never see the same girl twice in a row.
Maggie – One more suggestion for Flaky. First, you are exactly right on seeing older ladies that know how to TKB. I too had some cancellations early in my hobbying. One other technique that worked for me is to schedule for longer appointments (2 hours). I often had the feeling that the ladies cancelled at the last minute because a better appointment (i.e. longer) came along. Its much less likely if you already have a 2 hour or longer appointmen. BTW, love your column. Excellent advice and editorials. Henri
This column, like a few others, gives advice which I personally will never use, but I read and value them anyway. It gives me a window into a world I’d never see otherwise, and if I someday write a story and need to know this sort of thing to avoid making big goofs, I will know it because of these columns.