My marriage has been sexless for last 20 years. During that time I’ve been fortunate enough to find three married lovers, but nothing recently despite dating sites. I did search “escorts” but I’ve never paid for sex and can’t contemplate $750 an hour for those I saw on these sites. However, I’ve heard housewives selling sex for money are much cheaper; how do I reach these?
Hire. An. Escort.
You are going to get caught if you keep playing around with amateurs, and unless you’re looking in NYC or at porn actresses, escorts aren’t charging $750/hour. I’m “high end” and I charge $400 for one hour, $1200 for a four-hour dinner date; that’s pretty typical in most sizeable US cities. I wrote an article for Reason a couple of years ago with advice on finding a good pro; I suggest you follow that advice before you get caught. And I guarantee you a divorce will set you back more than a few hundred bucks once or twice a month.
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That month was when I found that no store in this smaller town carries Reason.
As I have had occasion to point out elsewhere, “hiring an escort” is not necessarily practicable, or even possible, in large swathes of the country. Outside of some major metro areas, finding an escort service (particularly not one that’s being used as a deadfall to snare victims for the pigs’ War on Whores) is extremely difficult.
And I would also point out that this guy has apparently tolerated his wife’s refusal to live up to the terms she agreed to when she married him…for twenty years. Unless she had a really good excuse (medical problems, imprisonment) any wife or live-in GF of mine who tried that sort of stunt on would be very likely to find herself kicked straight to the curb.
Divorcing her might be horrendously expensive, but that’s the fault of the fact that the divorce laws were written when divorce was rare, scandalous, and all too often left the wife unable to support herself. A revision of those laws seems to me to be long overdue.
Dear Ms. Mcneill,
Why don’t you write a self-help book called finding escorts for dummies? subtitled the safe way to preserve your marriage