Slowly but surely, things are coming together at Sunset. Grace and Chekhov finished the French drain project a few days ago; Sunday they started on a gutter system. These things are necessary because Sunset is located on the edge of a rain forest, yet the previous owners somehow managed to go over 90 years without any means of properly carrying the copious volumes of rainwater which the property receives every year away from the house! After the gutters, Grace is going to start on constructing concrete footings so as to stabilize the house against further soil erosion, and then we’ll be able to fix the floor issues which enabled me to buy this property at roughly half the market value of comparable places in the area. Then we’ve got roofs to redo, bookcases to build, a bathhouse to construct, and a bunch of other things to buy to make it all happen. And as soon as we can find the right one, we need to acquire a companion for this lonely llama; though he enjoys watching the chickens and chasing the dog, I think he would probably like some other woolly quadrupeds to share his barn with.
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A phrase that means nothing isn’t a useful term for serious adults; it’s a fad for the immature and silly. – “Meaningless”
Imagine if you will how a master mechanic might react if he saw you using a wrench to pound in nails, or stepping on the handle of a large screwdriver you were using as a pry bar. If he were of an unusually calm disposition he might just watch you for a while, shaking his head, before making some comment like, “That might go faster if you used the right tool,” or “Would you like me to show you how to do that?” And if he were both patient and wise he might let you injure yourself first before commenting, so that you’d be more likely to listen. But if he were as high-strung as I am, he might quickly lose patience with you, push you out of the way and do the job properly (possibly after striking you repeatedly about the head and neck with the abused tool). As I wrote in “Nasty Words”,
As a writer, words are my tools, and I cherish them and baby them the way a good mechanic cares for the tools of his trade. And just as a good mechanic always uses the right tool for the job rather than trying to make do with whatever happens to be nearby, so I insist on using the right word…and just as some mechanics are annoyed by seeing others misuse or abuse their tools, so am I annoyed by the misuse or abuse of words…
That column was about the rampant misuse of the word “vagina” to mean not only any part of a woman’s sexual anatomy, but also as a vulgar substitute for non-anatomical uses of the slang word “pussy”. I’ve also written about my distaste for the improperly-constructed and imprecisely-used term “homophobia” (which actually means “fear of sameness or monotony”; an attack or word has no feelings and therefore cannot be “phobic” of anything); my rejection of those who want to ban things hiding behind the prefix “pro-“; the powerful annoyance I have for the word “privilege” as it is commonly used today; my deep revulsion for the word “deserve” (“the visible part of an iceberg of moral odiousness floating unseen below the social waterline”); my intolerance for “fair” (both word and concept); and the complete meaninglessness of the faddish shibboleth “human trafficking”. As you’ve probably guessed, today I’m going to unload both barrels on another such term, the meaningless tech buzzword “disrupt”.
First, let’s start with the actual definition of the word: to interrupt the normal progress of something by causing a disturbance or problem; or, to destroy something’s structure (as in “cellular disruption”). If you consult a bunch of dictionaries you’ll discover that there is no positive usage of this word; it always refers to a destructive process. Of course, that could be desirable if the thing one wants to disrupt is itself destructive or evil, such as a police operation or the schemes of a politician. And yet somehow tech-worshipers of the sort who believe in “The Singularity” seem to have assigned a positive meaning to it, and believe that people will react positively when told that the techie wants to “disrupt their industry” (even though even Urban Dictionary admits that the term is a mere buzzword with no specific definition). I recently blasted a reader who sent me an email hawking some website which claimed it was dedicated to “disrupting the oldest profession”, and while I realized later that he was merely forwarding the email rather than writing it, I have to marvel at the deep cluelessness of a marketing department in the modern US which fails to comprehend that no sex worker is going to react well to someone claiming they want to “disrupt” our profession at a time when the government and countless prohibitionist NGOs are working very hard at doing exactly that by
censorship, persecution, surveillance, entrapment schemes, raids and other such tactics. Attention, tech idiots: I know y’all don’t live in the real world, but sex workers are sick and tired of violent thugs and evil control freaks trying to disrupt our profession (and almost that sick and tired of clueless amateurs trying to “disrupt” it in the app-developer sense). Here’s some free marketing advice: When trying to market your product to adults, it’s probably best to avoid adolescent slang, and when marketing to people outside your little circle-jerk it’s probably best to avoid jargon that’s going to sound negative to normal people. Words mean things, and you’ll avoid offending potential clients if you remember that.
Posted in Miscellaneous, Perception, Tyranny, Words | Tagged advertising, internet, language, psychology | 2 Comments »
I know I’m the second coming of Christ, and I got a command from God to do it. – Todd Kincannon
The big news this weeks was of course the death of Aretha Franklin, so this week’s video is my personal favorite of all her many hits. The links above it were provided by Dave Krueger, Brooke Magnanti, The H.P. Lovecraft Historical Society, Jesse Walker, Wendy Lyon, and Mike Chase (in that order).
- But for video.
- Issues of Weird Tales online!
- Interactive globe of geological history.
- From plain sociopathy to full psychosis.
- In case you thought only US cops did this.
- Crime: sitting on a tractor. Penalty: death by strangulation.
From the Archives
- Be skeptical of claims about the sexual habits of the “younger generation”.
- Economists don’t have a monopoly on stupid assumptions about sex work.
- There are now two outfits cashing in on “sex trafficking” tours in Houston.
- Just because someone opposes bad guys, doesn’t make them a good guy.
- Just in case you thought screws restricted their petty sadism to prisoners.
- Half the population of New York City would be contaminated by sex rays!
- What’s the proper way for a client to express dissatisfaction with service?
- If there are so many “sex trafficking victims”, why keep making up tales?
- I’m glad somebody beat the pompous politicians of Seattle to the punch.
- The depravity of prohibitionists’ lurid fantasies about our lives and work.
- The myth of “sex addiction” sprang from “social construction of gender”.
- Cops, lost cities, weird fantasies, flat maps, prohibition and much more.
- US “authorities” turn driving a friend to work into “child sex trafficking”.
- Hiding migration control behind “sex trafficking” cant is often obvious.
- Prohibitionists try to turn the truth about “gypsy whores” on its head.
- What “legalized and heavily regulated” actually looks like in practice.
- Mr. Bell’s company is under increasing scrutiny for prostitution calls.
- How different the same story sounds when stripped of euphemisms.
- Another violent cop, another black woman profiled as a sex worker.
- Government is just a word for the things we choose to do together.
- A very reasonable article, considering the BBC’s usual prudishness.
- Despite this UK cop wanking fantasy, not one has ever been found.
- Over 90% of violence against sex workers comes from the police.
- Criticism of “anti-trafficking” propaganda from inside their ranks.
- Why do massage parlors bring the puritans out of the woodwork?
- One of the rare times you’ll ever see me actually assist the cops.
- When political & private interests “partner”, it’s called “fascism”.
- If you think they’ll keep this limited to sex crimes, you’re a fool.
- Why won’t those who know anti-sex dogma is bullshit speak up?
- Melissa Petro on the stigma faced by sex workers with children.
- Yet “leftists” are still surprised that “feminists” are anti-sex.
- How can a young guy get an escort to take him seriously?
- Pigs just love to make their fantasies sound “scientific”.
- The result of stigma, encouraged by criminalization.
- An essay by the mother of the late Grace Bellavue.
- Cops, music videos, woo, poop and much more.
- Wow, that’s some MIGHTY “suppression” there!
- Just a typical case in a typical American prison.
- A policewoman decides to turn to honest work.
- Never call the cops for any reason whatsoever.
- Hmm, where have I heard this pattern before?
- Another murdered transwoman, and another.
- Actually, this isn’t the “Nordic model” at all.
- I really hate buying and selling real estate.
- So much for “negative secondary effects”.
- Rapist cops of the week, 2016 and 2017.
- Sweden’s “liberal reputation” is bullshit.
- Things I’m not going to tell you about.
- The end of regular fictional interludes.
- When a sick infatuation is frustrated.
- Baltimore police are typical.
- I’m sure you feel safer now.
- Fascism in action.
- Zero equals zero.
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If America had a civil death penalty, putting people on sex registries would be it. – Guy Hamilton Smith
…Westminster’s first code of conduct…introduced after a sex harassment scandal in parliament, ban MPs from paying for sex while…engaged in any activity connected with their role as an MP, whether in the UK or abroad…The new complaints and grievance policy states: “Although it might not be illegal to pay for sex, in line with best practice it is considered unprofessional, inappropriate and a breach of the behaviour code”…
Watch for the definition of “unexplained” to expand dramatically over the next decade or two:
Criminals who can’t explain how they got their money will be [robbed] under a national scheme that allows the government to sweep up their assets. A Senate committee unanimously recommended the “unexplained wealth” legislation be passed…despite concerns being raised by the Law Council and Civil Liberties Australia. The legislation will force people convicted of crimes to prove that their wealth was derived from legitimate sources, rather than the onus being on prosecutors to establish that it came from the proceeds of crime…Banks will be forced to hand over any information they have on the unexplained wealth of a convicted client. The Police Federation has been lobbying for the…scheme for more than a decade…
How many political scandals must Davis embroil herself in to get her name in the news again?
Kristin Davis, also known as the “Manhattan Madam”, will testify before a grand jury in special counsel Robert Mueller’s investigation…Davis [previously] met with Mueller’s team…It is not clear what the focus of that interview was or how Davis may fit into the investigation into Russian interference in the 2016 election and potential coordination between Trump associates and the Russian government. But investigators have been very interested in Roger Stone, with whom Davis has a close personal relationship and has worked for in the past…
This absurd Victorian language is even funnier because it’s meant to be dead serious:
…It’s not a profession. It’s not about the sex, and there’s certainly no erotic aspects about these encounters. It’s purely a financial interaction, business deals that involve blood, sweat, tears and semen…women wait…for dark to descend. Then the hunters begin to approach…Slowly they cruise by, headlights blinding the women as they search for their prey. The hunters feel a sense of control as they strip the victims of their dignity, their humanity…
I was also tickled to see a link to this previous article about the “dangerous cycle of prostitution”, which is presumably a used Harley bought with whoring money. After that one I wrote, “As far as I can make out, this dude’s pearl-clutching tone is dead serious. Do you amateurs really believe this kind of shit?”
Would any non-cop have gotten only probation for this?
Madison County [Alabama cop] Roland Campos pleaded guilty to a [molesting a young girl]…and was sentenced to a year’s probation. Campos…must also [register as a] Sex Offender…the judge suspended the jail term and ordered Campos to serve a year’s probation…Campos was arrested in August 2017 after a middle school student…told a school official Campos had sexually abused her…
The US only prosecutes people for sex worker “propaganda”, which is obviously completely different:
The first minor has been found guilty of Russia’s anti-gay “propaganda” laws. Maxim Neverov was found guilty of “propaganda of homosexuality among minors” despite being only 16-years-old himself. The teenager from Biysk was fined 50,000 rubles on 7 August for publishing photos on social network site Vkontakte [Russian Facebook]…the teenager was not allowed to consult a lawyer. This led him to refuse to testify…
…Recently, a major court decision lambasted registries as ineffective at promoting public safety, while noting that they rendered those on them “moral lepers” who are forced to reside at the margins of society on the sole basis of a conviction. Another decision, currently on appeal in the…10th Circuit…called registries cruel and unusual punishments in violation of the Eighth Amendment to the United States Constitution — an almost unheard-of legal conclusion for American courts to reach outside of death penalty litigation…in my view, it is the right one. I know, because of the nearly million people on America’s sex offense registries, I am one of them. In describing his experiences with solitary confinement — a practice widely regarded as torture — Nelson Mandela concluded that there is nothing more dehumanizing than isolation from human connection…Being labeled a sex offender, you carry your solitary with you, in your heart, and in your mind…The indelible electronic mark you carry threatens to turn your own thoughts against you, unless and until you can find a way outside of the prison your own mind begins to construct for you. Until then, you die slowly, suffocating in shame. I have written more fully about my story and experiences elsewhere, but I have spent the last eleven years living on America’s sex registry. More than simply punishment, in my opinion, it is most fairly characterized as torture…
Laura Lee, Sex Work Stigma, and the Limits of #MeToo
Looks like Olaf isn’t going to be able to hush this up as he wanted to:
Gardaí have reopened an investigation into a complaint made by [the late] Laura Lee…friends of Ms Lee have been contacted by officers reopening an investigation into an alleged sexual assault. Ms Lee, a law graduate, had made a statement to gardaí in Dublin about the…incident last November. [Accused rapist Olaf Tyaransen] has strenuously denied any wrongdoing. The garda investigation was closed when Ms Lee died of undisclosed causes this year at the age of 44 but gardaí are now in the process of taking statements again…
For Those Who Think Legalization is a Good Idea (#858)
…“No one has forced me to do this…it pays better than being a maid or factory worker,” said Sanjana Murali…“But with this law, if the police raid a kotha [brothel], I will be taken into police custody and sent to a rehabilitation clinic. What about my freedom to choose?…If the state thinks I should be ‘rescued’ and trained to sew clothes or make papar (papadams) to survive, it is wrong. That kind of work will never pay enough”…When MP Shashi Tharoor raised this point in parliament, he was assured by minister for women Maneka Gandhi that the bill would not target voluntary sex workers. “That’s just her word,” said Dr Smarajit Jana of the Durbar Mahila Samanwaya Committee…“Why isn’t there a single sentence in the bill stating that? All the bill does is empower the police to harass sex workers and disempower the women themselves.” Jana said…that most…sex workers…are…the “heads” of their extended families. Their income pays for food, rent, a relative’s illness, and the school fees of their children, and those of their siblings…“When you put them into a rehabilitation clinic, who is going to look after their children?”…the bill is based on paternalistic assumptions about rescuing sex workers…no…organisation was consulted in the drafting of the bill, even though sex workers are well organised…
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Instead of telling you why porn performer Ashley Sinclair is the 11th member of my Hall of Shame (and the first one in over a year and a half), I figured it’d be easier and more entertaining to show you:
The best part? This is her new Twitter account. The old one got flushed because she vomited out this same nonsense on too many people; she seemed familiar, and a couple of readers confirmed that I did indeed deal with her before when she still had the previous account. See this column for a linked list of the previous ten inductees.
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I’m a trans woman who’s over 50 and working as a white collar professional. It seems like every guy I meet sees me only as a sex object and nothing else, even though I don’t try to project anything like that; how can I meet people for relationships that don’t seem fetish-focused? And also, since I seem to attract that anyway, I’ve been thinking about doing a little sex work on the side; I’ve done some photography modeling and have been successful with that (no income, but well received). However, I’m really turned off by the kink I seem to attract most. What should I do?
Unfortunately, I’m afraid that having to deal with men who are only interested in us for sexual reasons is a problem all women, cis or trans, have to deal with, especially when we’re older. Guys are to a very large degree led by their sex drives, and that means women tend to attract men who are interested in whatever sets them apart from other women. So slender girls tend to attract guys who are really weight-focused, redheads attract guys who are drawn to that, and trans women attract trans fans. That’s not generally a problem when the woman is in her 20s because there are still plenty of fish in the sea, but when we get to our 50s a lot of the guys have died off (males have a higher mortality rate in every age bracket), and the great majority of the ones who are still alive are already taken. That leaves men who are divorced, still married or never married, and since there are more available women at that age than men…you get the picture. You can certainly try the usual dating sites and such, but I strongly suspect a lot of the men who try to date you will still be focused on your trans status (unless they can’t tell, in which case I advise saying nothing; it’s no more their business than any other medical issue like an abortion or an appendectomy).
As for your second question, since you’re comfortable with modeling and already had a bit of noncommercial success, I suggest investigating how you can monetize it. If you don’t really like the kind of guys who seem to be attracted to your image, that’s not nearly as big a deal in modeling as it would be in something like escorting or camming, because you’re not directly interacting with them except to sell your pictures. And even if you can’t hide your distaste for them in a one-on-one situation, it shouldn’t be any harder to negotiate poses & payment than it is to deal with annoying folks in the office where you currently work.
(Have a question of your own? Please consult this page to see if I’ve answered it in a previous column, and if not just click here to ask me via email.)
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It’s not money laundering when it’s the government. – Scott Shackford
Government is just a word for the things we choose to do together:
In order to get back any of the money that the New Hampshire State Police took from him, Edward Phipps has agreed to let federal prosecutors keep most of it, even though he has not been charged with any crimes. The cops [stole] the cash during a traffic stop in 2016…[after pulling] the driver over for tailgating and for going one whole mile per hour over the speed limit. A search turned up a bag full of $46,000 cash in the trunk. Police then brought in a drug-sniffing dog, which came up empty…As part of the settlement, Phipps not only agrees to give up everything but $7,000 (which will probably have to go to his legal fees). He agrees never to request that the money to be returned, and he furthermore agrees never to attempt to assert any claim that the government did not have “probable cause” to make him forfeit the money…New Hampshire reformed its civil asset forfeiture laws in 2016 to require a criminal conviction before police or prosecutors could force people to forfeit money or property. Unfortunately, the state’s reform did not close a loophole that lets local police partner with the feds in a program called Equitable Sharing…The state police can’t seize Phipps’ money on their own. So they went to the feds to arrange the forfeiture, and then the Equitable Sharing program lets the Justice Department funnel the funds right back to local law enforcement…
Reporter vomits dysphemisms all over a young woman making the best of a bad situation:
Fourteen-year-old Lilian…passes for an innocent girl at first sight. But a close interaction with her reveals a dark side, apparently a offshoot of a thick skin she as developed in her trade. Lilian…boasts that she has made a name in sex work…and…has no regrets…[because] her guardians do not support her…
If having a “thick skin” means not being a sentimental idiot, I’m glad I have one.
An Arizona court ruling says it doesn’t violate a defendant’s constitutional rights for a [cop] to [lie about being] a minor during a child prostitution [entrapment scheme]…[the] unanimous ruling…says the law barring a defense based on a [pig’s fantasy role-play] of being a minor is constitutional because it is “rationally related to a legitimate government purpose”…Buren Jarrett Burgess appealed his…convictions stemming from a…[scheme] in which two 27-year-old undercover [sows claimed they were]…16-year-old prostitutes. Burgess argued that the [women] appeared to be [the] adults [they actually are]…Burgess was arrested in 2014 and the child prostitution crime has since then been changed to “child sex trafficking”…
In other words, a female cop who is obviously an adult can later claim she told a victim she was underage and that’s good enough to convict someone.
Prosecutors claim they let a child-rapist cop off the hook to “protect” his victim:
Prosecutors gave a plea deal to a[n]…El Paso County [Colorado] Sheriff’s deputy who created a pornographic image involving a young boy and offered to share it on a child porn message board on the Dark Web…Donald Fair…will avoid prison time because of the plea deal [though] he must register as a sex offender and has 10 years to life of sex offender intensive supervised probation…District Attorney George Brauchler is pleased with the deal because [we can’t have members of the ruling class locked in cages like the peons]…“A young innocent child is not further traumatized by testifying and being cross-examined during a trial”…
Funny how nobody worries about traumatizing kids when the rapist isn’t a cop. Also note we aren’t told the victim’s age; I guess that would anger people even more because it’s probably below 5.
Redbridge has a history of harassing sex workers while belching up stupid “crime” rhetoric:
…Redbridge Council has introduced £100 fines for those caught soliciting sex workers. The move is a bid to [harass and persecute sex workers]…in Ilford Lane…Extra night police patrols throughout the weekend…[increased] lighting, gating alleyways and installing CCTV are other measures put in place to make Ilford Lane a more “hostile environment for [the peasants].” Cllr Jas Athwal, leader of the [prohibitionists], said…”We want to…create a ‘ring of steel’ around the borough to [harass] our residents and make Redbridge a [more authoritarian] place to live.” The fines will start being issues from the end of August…
This is one of the places where cops claim they can “build communication with sex workers” via stealing their income by harassing their clients.
…Sex trafficking has become so rampant on this mile and a half stretch that county officials…asked a court to declare it off limits, filing a civil lawsuit that prohibits by name more than 80 pimps, prostitutes and customers from doing business on the infamous “Bissonnet Track”. The sex trafficking is so open that it’s listed on international websites as Houston’s unofficial red light district. “For years people in this area have complained about the large number of people buying and selling sex and committing other crimes on or around the Track,” said Mayor Sylvester Turner, who jointly announced the nuisance lawsuit with the county attorney and the city police chief…
“Sex trafficking” has become nothing more than a dysphemism for “sex work”.
New York pigs are still harassing the young woman who was raped by two of their cronies:
The woman who was…raped by two NYPD detectives while handcuffed in the back of a police van in Brooklyn last year was called a “stupid bitch” by a person attempting to serve subpoena papers from a lawyer for one of the cops. “THIS ISNT HARASSMENT?!” Anna Chambers wrote on Twitter [last] Wednesday night, along with a video of the man…“There’s your subpoena right there,” the man says on the video. “What are you afraid of[, Anna]? This isn’t Russia. I’m not the KGB.” The man was attempting to hand Chambers a subpoena for photos…show[ing] her mangled wrists following the [brutal] rape by Richard Hall and Eddie Martins. Chambers repeatedly tells the man to leave. “[I’m from the sheriff’s office,] I could do whatever I want,” the person says before calling her a “stupid bitch.” Martins’ lawyer Mark Bederow said he sent the server, but…condemned [his] behavior…
It’s rare that politicians’ tendency toward “monkey see, monkey do” actually works for good:
[Politicians] introduced a bill…to prohibit federal [pigs, spooks and g-men] from [raping] people in custody, aiming to close a legal loophole that has let them avoid [rape] convictions by [absurdly] claiming sex with [prisoners] was consensual. The proposed legislation would direct additional federal funding to local law enforcement agencies in states that close this loophole…Jackie Speier…and…Barbara Comstock…noted that they were “spurred to introduce the bill” following [the rape of]…Anna Chambers…by two New York City detectives…in their police van…
It’s also rare that a “bipartisan” bill actually curtails police power rather than expanding it.
The anti-whore brigade couldn’t get the people to support them, so politicians overruled the people:
…Dennis Hof has lost the license to his Love Ranch Brothel. The brothel’s license, liquor license, and the female worker’s cards were all surrendered to the Sheriff’s Office, and the property is currently closed…”It’s more political shenanigans, and it’s at the expense of the people here at the brothel,” said Sonja Bandolik, Love ranch madam…”There’s three federal lawsuits against them. They’re trying to do a little payback, and what they’re doing is hurting the people that work here.” County commissioners [claim] they denied renewal permits because the brothel’s application was incomplete. Commissioner Dan Schinhofen says Hof has racked up a number of violations over the past few years, like having signs in the public right of way and not getting inspections after moving portable buildings…
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So many presents this week! Nattie Roman sent me this awesome book I first saw at Conner Habib’s a few months ago, plus a snakeskin wallet (my old one was kinda falling apart), a pair of snakeskin-print jeans and a set of Alfred Hitchcock Presents disks. Thanks so much, Nattie! On the same day as I got the book, I also received a towel warmer, but there was no card or note of any kind and Nattie says she didn’t send it, so whoever did please let me know so I can thank you properly! I took the drill set I mentioned last week out to Sunset and presented it to Grace, who immediately slapped a battery into it and used some doohickey to clean my car’s headlamps while uttering phrases like, “Now that’s what I’m talking about!” She’s almost finished the French drain project, then it’ll be on to the gutters and the footings she’ll need to pour before fixing the floor in the back corner of the house; meanwhile, I took the opportunity to pull as many movies and TV shows as I could find out of boxes and arrange them on temporary shelving. Slow going, for sure, but it’s steadily becoming more homelike, and that’s all I can ask for.
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As anyone who knows me well can tell you, I’m a very affectionate person. I touch a great deal, I like to hold hands when I walk with a partner or friend, and people I love are likely to hear me tell them so at least once every time I see them (and most of the times I text with them). I don’t form romantic partnerships easily, and when I do they tend to be long-lasting (and devastating to me when they end); while they endure I enjoy spending time with my partner and having special things we do together, even to the point of having pet names and private jokes and all that good stuff. I’m telling you all this so that you understand that I’m not actually biased against love or romance when I say that in the West in general and the US in particular, the “couple” has become a cultic totem second only to “The Children!” in repulsiveness and maladaptation.
Now, I’ve been part of couples for a large fraction of my adult life, and probably so have most of you reading this. But in all that time, I have never tolerated a partner who attempted to own me, control me, or monopolize my time. Jack’s childish jealousy was one of the reasons we fought so much and broke up so often, and even as a young adult I was never very sympathetic to girlfriends who whined that their boyfriends had interests other than them and didn’t want to spend every fucking free minute with them. I’ve always disliked Valentine’s Day, and one of the reasons my relationship with Matt endured for 14 years was that he traveled a great deal and had interests other than me. So when I saw these creepy things in a tweet recently, they reminded me of the hallucinations Greg Kihn’s character has when looking at the wedding guests in this video:
Sorry, couples; you’re not actually “one flesh” with a conjoined circulatory system, and it won’t hurt you to sit separately for the length of a domestic flight:
Alaska Airlines faces a public-relations storm after a gay couple were forced to give up their seats on a flight from New York City to Los Angeles…to make room for a straight couple. Though the complainant …accepted an apology from Alaska, which said the outcome was a mistake [due to the gate agent’s being given incorrect information] and not reflective of any disrespect, dissemination of the incident on social media has damaged the airline’s image…as…gay-friendly…David Cooley, owner of a popular upscale gay bar in…West Hollywood…[was] on board [with his partner] in their assigned premium seats when a gate agent asked his companion to give up his seat and move to [steerage] so that another couple could sit together. Although Cooley…protested that the two men were also a couple and wanted to sit together…the agent insisted that his traveling companion had to either move to coach or get off the plane…
NOBODY, single or coupled, queer or straight or asexual, should be forced to move from their seat so a “couple” can sit together. What the fuck is that about, really? “Hi, you need to move because these two people like to shove their body parts into each other’s orifices.” Really? Wanna sit together? Plan ahead & get reserved seats; done. And if you have those seats, as Cooley and his partner did, you shouldn’t be forced to move for those who didn’t (and certainly not moved from First Class back into the cattle car). I’ve been separated from partners on planes because of circumstances (standby flying, last-minute plans, poor planning on our part or whatever) before and we lived. But then, we weren’t the devotees of a weird religion which teaches that we somehow deserve precedence over other people because we habitually boink each other.
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I have completed an email draft to send to the bitch that will hopefully make her shit herself. – “Constable” Neil Punchard
I’m not really a fan of news videos because text is so much more efficient at providing the information, and though cop misconduct videos are helpful they are almost never properly edited and are therefore usually about 10x as long as they need to be. This is an exception; it was provided by That Anonymous Coward. The links above it are from Clarissa (“heroic”), Tim Cushing (“spread”), Dave Krueger (“never”), Kevin Wilson (“excellent”), and Wendy Lyon (“sun”).
- Heroic levels of protecting and serving.
- I really wish this would spread to the US.
- “Never” means never. Not for any reason.
- It’s never too early to teach ’em who’s boss.
- Not “Headless Body in Topless Bar”, but still excellent.
- Good riddance to bad rubbish. Much more of this, please.
- Everyone responsible should be staked out & left to die in the sun.
From the Archives
- Naturally; they can steal more money from whores & we don’t shoot back.
- Christina Slater on Seattle’s persecution of men who seek consensual sex.
- Trying to turn Lawrence into a “monogamous vanilla amateurs only” club.
- Apparently Dan Rubinstein has never heard of a thing called “pregnancy”.
- As long as these laws exist, all women are vulnerable to cop persecution.
- Authoritarians would be more dangerous if they’d get their shit together.
- While these laws exist, all women are vulnerable to persecution by cops.
- “Sex addiction” is now being used as a defense for violent sex offenders.
- Prosecutors claim sex workers are victims and criminals simultaneously.
- What happens when cops “enforce” laws against acts that hurt nobody.
- Most politicians are more careful when indulging in drugs with hookers.
- Heroic Irish “authorities” save a man from getting a kidney transplant.
- “Sex trafficking” hysteria is spinning out of control of the “authorities”.
- Remember, cops: raping whores is OK; it’s paying us fairly that isn’t.
- No government “commission” will ever recommend giving up power.
- A client who isn’t afraid of the cops and their stupid shaming tactics.
- The Adam Smith Institute continues its support of decriminalization.
- On the fantasy that “predators” use video games to abduct children.
- Louisiana politicians destroy scores of jobs with the stroke of a pen.
- If Backpage was so awful, why did politicians need lies to attack it?
- Cops frame young men for supposedly “seeking sex with children”.
- Exactly like the World Cup two years ago. Why can’t people learn?
- It’s sick and sad how Gay, Inc abandoned him to the government.
- Ian O’Doherty with another denunciation of prohibition in Ireland.
- Cops, Orwell, Sweden, King Arthur, laws, magic and much more.
- British model uses “sex trafficking” hysteria for a publicity stunt.
- Peak hysteria: when a moral panic features in afternoon soaps.
- A rare victory for sex workers against “sex trafficking” hysteria.
- Sometimes “trafficking” just means “bringing in brown people”.
- Cops, fascism, 78s, hypnosis, Glenn Campbell and much more.
- These “experts” don’t criticize “john shaming” when cops do it.
- Nobody still believes cops’ pretense that this isn’t about profit.
- The problem is not with the act, but with the laws against it.
- Pig invents new excuse for criminalization of sex with goats.
- This unsupported and hysterical assertion reeks of racism.
- “Sex trafficking” may be the first truly global moral panic.
- Because female sexual “purity” trumps individual rights.
- Australia has far more sane feminists than does the US.
- On the slow decline of the devadasis in Indian society.
- More on the censors who want to destroy the internet.
- Sydney Brownstone with an update on a sleazy rapist.
- My seasonal anxiety is usually worst in the Dog Days.
- Amateurs, does this kind of stuff actually shock y’all?
- August is also before the heat death of the universe.
- On the actual cost of my exceptional characteristics.
- Irish cops start implementing the Swedish model.
- Slowly but surely, we’re forcing them to listen.
- Do you offer business coaching for providers?
- How can my wife improve her sexual skills?
- This is, as we’ve seen before, pure bullshit.
- The boot has to be on somebody’s neck.
- Swanee Hunt’s foul reek is all over this.
- The first load finally arrives at Sunset.
- Getting my vacuum cleaner back.
- William Blake on politicians.
- Remember “titcoin”?
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