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Logical consequences are the scarecrows of fools and the beacons of wise men.  –  Thomas Henry Huxley

One of the great paradoxes of human behavior is that sometimes, the leading opponents of relatively-unprecedented social change understand its implications much more fully than the leaders of those who support it for selfish (rather than philosophical) reasons.  Certainly, the majority of those who oppose the change are just the typical social conservative, resisting change merely because it is change without any intellectual process whatsoever; those are not the people I’m talking about.  I’m also unconcerned with born iconoclasts and self-congratulating “progressives” who embrace every new idea merely because it is new, again without any intellectual process whatsoever.  The ones to whom I wish to call your attention are the leaders of both factions, the ones all the others follow.  Those at the forefront of the conservatives need to think about all the possible ramifications of change in order to paint credible monsters in the blank portions of the map, while those who are only interested in the change because it benefits them have no concern for future implications of their cause, and are in fact highly motivated to ignore or downplay likely consequences which could rock the social boat far more than the general public (whose support both sides are vying for) is willing to accept.

Now, the situation is reversed in the case of true prohibitions, by which term I mean behaviors common throughout human history which were banned by minority actions due to some new dogma.  Those calling for a repeal of prohibitions against prostitution, alcohol, drugs, pornography, etc have no need to dissemble because history records what societies were like before those prohibitions were in place; in such cases it is the prohibitionists who must lie, conjuring specters of epidemic child prostitution, stoned pilots crashing airplanes, and the like, which sensible people know to be false because society somehow managed to avoid collapse during all the centuries before whatever-it-is was banned.  But when the social change is something really new, something groundbreaking, there is no such body of collective experience to draw upon.  Those who first proposed abolishing the institution of slavery, for instance, were venturing into completely uncharted seas; no large, developed society had ever thrived and prospered except upon the backs of some very large unpaid or underpaid coerced class (slaves, serfs, prisoners, subject foreign populations, etc).  And while eliminating chattel slavery was unquestionably the right thing to do, it’s also true that many of slavery’s defenders predicted the economic and social results of abolition more accurately than most of the abolitionists did.  One might say that many pro-slavery people were morally corrupt but intellectually honest, while many abolitionists were morally correct but intellectually dishonest.

One of today’s uncharted seas is fully-normalized homosexuality.  While not every traditional society condemned homosexuality as Judeo-Christian ones did, it also wasn’t given the full recognition and celebration of heterosexuality.  Even in societies where pederasty was common and even accepted, virtually nobody ever took a same-sex lover as his primary social relationship; nearly all the great “homosexuals” of antiquity were married to women.  Modern Western society is the first in history where large numbers of people not only recognize that homosexual relations aren’t anyone else’s business, but also that civilization isn’t going to collapse if a few people openly choose a same-sex partnership as their primary social and domestic one.  But while we can safely ignore dire predictions of Divine Retribution thundered forth from fundamentalist pulpits, it is highly disingenuous to pretend that there will be no consequences from widespread acceptance of same-sex marriage, simply because every social change has some effect on society as a whole.  I suspect most of these effects will be positive and a few will be negative (because absolutely nothing is ever wholly good), but the factors are far too numerous and the equations far too complex for me to ever hope to predict any of them.  Besides, I’m biased in favor of personal liberty, and might therefore miss some of the negatives even if I were intellectually able to calculate them.

There is one likely consequence which I can predict, however, and though I perceive it as a good thing, it is (as I said in the first paragraph) something which is likely to rock the boat more than most of the general public is willing to accept right now.  The opponents of same-sex marriage therefore keep bringing it up, while the proponents keep denying it, each for the same reason:  they recognize that if the public understands this, it might turn the tide.  When the US Supreme Court decided Lawrence vs. Texas, dissenting Justice Antonin Scalia correctly pointed out that “laws against bigamy,  same-sex marriage, adult incest, prostitution, masturbation, adultery, fornication, bestiality, and obscenity are…sustainable only…[if] laws based on moral choices [are valid].”  Scalia’s moral position, that the state has a right to interfere in people’s private sexual affairs, was dead wrong, but his legal reasoning was faultless.  Likewise, though the Vatican’s attempt to influence secular law is morally indefensible, its logic that arguments for same-sex marriage automatically imply polygamy as well is solid.

Proponents of “marriage equality” keep denying it, but they’re either lying or refusing to see what’s right in front of them:  as I pointed out yesterday, if the government has no right to limit the sex of the parties to a marital contract, how can it possibly have the right to limit the number, duration or other factors?  If it’s going to allow a wholly new kind of sexual contract which has never before existed, how can it legitimately disallow old and venerable sexual contracts such as polygamy and prostitution which are already legal in other parts of the world?  It’s wrong and selfish to promote only one outcome of a legal principle while denying all the others; same-sex marriage proponents who oppose polygamy and prostitution are the moral equivalents of neofeminists who support a woman’s right to control her body in the case of abortion, but oppose it in the case of sex work.  Sailing into uncharted seas inevitably leads to both wonders and perils, some of them predictable and others completely unforeseen; anyone who can’t accept that needs to stay at home on the shore.

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Love and marriage, love and marriage,
Go together like a horse and carriage.
  –  Sammy Cahn

I finally figured out what it is about gay marriage rhetoric that irritates me.  Now, I have absolutely nothing against the concept, except insofar as I think the government should get out of the marriage business entirely and that all “marriages” should be contracts between two or more consenting adults of any combination of sexes, with the terms, privileges, responsibilities, duration, etc spelled out in writing, and disputes arbitrated under standard contract law.  Yet every time I read the arguments of same-sex marriage advocates, especially in the last couple of years, I’ve found myself getting annoyed for no reason I could adequately pin down.  But one cold morning the week after the elections I was walking to my barn to let the animals out and it suddenly came to me (and you’d be amazed just how many things come to me during such walks):  the culprit is “love” rhetoric, as in calling same-sex marriage “freedom to love” or Google’s calling its campaign for the issue “Legalize Love”.

Regular readers probably already see where I’m going with this.  For quite some time now the Western world has sunk more and more deeply into the delusion that marriage is “about” love, that love can keep a marriage together by itself, and so on.  As I wrote in “Housewife Harlotry”,

…love is the icing, not the cake…Marriage is first and foremost a socioeconomic relationship, and the modern insistence that love is the be-all and end-all of marriage is one of the primary reasons for the skyrocketing divorce rate, because couples who share no bond other than the biochemical one we call “romantic love” have no reason to stay together when time and adversity weakens or destroys it.  True love is a much more complex emotional bond, but it takes time to develop and rarely does so between people who are not already bound together by other, more mundane bonds such as blood or mutual dependence.

This adolescent refrain of “love love love” (like a scratched Beatles record) whenever the subject of marriage (same-sex or otherwise) comes up gets on my nerves, because for those laboring under that misapprehension all same-sex marriage will do is to slightly increase the divorce rate.

But there’s another, more important concern, which is:  why is the reason two people choose to live together, sign a contract together or have sex with each other any business of the government’s?  I find the notion that a contract of mutual economic interdependence can only be drawn up between two people who boink each another to be just as inane, irrational and offensive as same-sex marriage proponents consider the notion that those two parties must be of opposite sexes.  For example, why can’t two heterosexuals of the same sex make a contract to pool their resources, share insurance, secure inheritance, etc, without having to pretend they sleep together?  Traditionally, marriages were given special rights to protect minor children, not to confer a special state sanction on people sticking their body parts into one another’s orifices; since many couples (hetero- or homosexual) nowadays choose to remain childless, why does it matter whether they have sex?  And please, don’t yammer about “love”; not only is it totally legal to marry for money or other practical concerns, I also think it’s a bit hypocritical for a government which spends billions trying to keep some people from getting high to subsidize others making life-altering decisions while under the influence of mind-altering chemicals, merely because those chemicals happen to originate inside their own bodies.  Furthermore, it’s highly discriminatory to subsidize only sexual love, but not fraternal love.

Governments have no right to set any limits on relations between consenting adults.  They should not be able to bar people from having sex, nor to require that parties to certain contracts must have sex.  They do not have the right to control the gender, number, acts, frequency, duration, terms, reasons, compensation, or any other factors between adults who do choose to have sex, nor to harass them for their choices.  And they certainly don’t have the right to declare that sexual relationships are only for people who are “in love”, or to give special preferences to those who are.  Though Western tradition of the last couple of centuries increasingly frowns upon marriages contracted for reasons other than romantic love, it is not the state’s place to enact such mores into law any more than it would have been its place a century ago to legally require all wheeled vehicles to be drawn by horses.  Sammy Cahn was right; love and marriage do go together exactly like a horse and carriage:  traditionally associated, but not the only conceivable arrangement, and perhaps not even the best one.

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The police department believes that, under state law, you may responsibly get baked, order some pizzas and enjoy a Lord of the Rings marathon in the privacy of your own home, if you want to.  –  Seattle PD press release

Wednesday was the 79th anniversary of the repeal of Prohibition; even regular readers may be impressed (to put it kindly) to hear that I’ve already scheduled a column on the subject for the 80th anniversary next year.  In honor of the occasion Reason did a profile of “The Man in the Green Hat”, semi-official bootlegger to Congress, whose exposure of hypocrisy in those simpler days helped to bring Prohibition down; it’s the first video below, and every link before it was provided by this week’s champ, Jesse Walker.  The first and fourth links between the videos came from Radley Balko, the second from Mike Siegel, the third from Marc Randazza, the fifth from Cthulhuchick, the sixth from Feminist Whore and the last two from Grace.  The second video (which is a cute, funny little satire) was contributed by Furrygirl.

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I don’t want to teach ESL.  I don’t want to work in food service.  I would rather sell sex.  –  Melissa Petro

Joshua JensenLicense To Rape

A woman…coerced into oral sex by [a] Beaverton [Oregon] police officer in 2010 accepted a settlement in her lawsuit…[Joshua] Jensen pleaded guilty to…official misconduct and coercion charges…[stemming] from two incidents…in which [he] arranged to meet a prostitute…and…[showed] up in uniform, in a marked police car.  Both women [said] he ordered them behind a garbage container.  The woman who sued him said he grabbed her head, forced it down and demanded that she perform oral sex…Jensen was not charged with a sex crime and did not have to register as a sex offender.  He was sentenced to two and a half years in prison…[but] completed his sentence in November 2011 through an Alternative Incarceration Program.

Other rapists get lifetime sentences on the “sex offender” registry; Jensen got a slap on the wrist.

The Slave-Whore Fantasy

Another example of what real sex slavery looks like:

A Chinese court sentenced [Li Hao, 35] to death for holding six women as sex slaves…and killing two of them…the former local government employee kidnapped six nightclub and karaoke bar workers and repeatedly raped them in a self-built dungeon.  Two of the six were found dead when a 23-year-old woman escaped and led police to the basement.  Li forced them all into prostitution and filmed them in pornographic videos he put on the internet…He then instructed three women to kill two of the other captives.  The three women were found guilty of murder but were given lenient sentences.  One was jailed for three years and two were put on probation…

An Educated Idiot

It seems credulity and sloppy scholarship aren’t Sudhir Venkatesh’s only flaws:

…Sudhir Venkatesh…is a celebrity…through his research on gang life and prostitutes…but…some of his peers say that…he takes liberties not appropriate for a scholar:  sensationalizing his experiences, exaggerating the reliability of his memory and, in one case, physically assaulting someone…and…he was the subject last year of a grueling investigation into [$241,364.83] of spending that Columbia auditors said was insufficiently documented, misappropriated or outright fabricated…auditors said that Professor Venkatesh directed $52,328 to someone without any “documented evidence of work performed”…He charged Columbia for town cars to take him around, to take his fiancée home from work…[and] to take someone…from [his] address to a building that houses a nail salon and a psychic…

Parable

Flexibeast presents a clever satire making the same comparison I did, namely sex and food:

I’d like to discuss…the commodification of food, and the scourge that is the food industry.  Food…is an essential human need.  When people buy and sell food, the act of preparing and eating food becomes mere support for, and reinforcement of, the notion that it’s acceptable to transform relations between humans into relations between a human and an unimportant unfeeling object.  We must reject all buying and selling of food…

After you enjoy this very funny parody, try this Onion article on “abstinence-only school lunch programs” linked by one of Flexibeast’s commenters.

Down Under

This may have something to do with the good example of Fiji’s closest large neighbors, Australia and New Zealand:  “Health authorities want sex work legalised to remove discrimination…the Ministry of Health’s acting permanent secretary, Dr Josefa Koroivueta…said Fiji was working towards a human rights-based approach and discrimination of sex workers was against human rights…the new legislation should be ready by next year.”

A Load of Farley

chanukah menorahOne can never have too many scathing critiques of Melissa Farley, so I present this very effective one from Glasgow Sex Worker, which criticizes both her horrible personality and her awful “research methodology”, with lots of pertinent links.

Hanukkah

Hanukkah starts at sundown today; Khag Urim Sameakh to all my Jewish readers!

Scapegoats

It’s nice to know that at least one European government is so free from economic concerns that it has time to deal with the little things:

…The German parliament…is considering making it an offence not only to hurt an animal but also to force it into unnatural sex…Germany legalised bestiality…in 1969, except when the animal suffered “significant harm”.  But animal rights groups have campaigned for a change in the law…a fine of up to 25,000 euros…is proposed if someone forces an animal to commit “actions alien to the species”…Bestiality is banned in…the Netherlands, France and Switzerland…in the UK…the maximum sentence [was reduced in 2003] from life imprisonment to two years…[it is legal] in Belgium, Denmark and Sweden, though Stockholm is considering a change…

It’s also nice to know that under current Swedish law, animals can consent to sex while women can’t.

An Example to the West

…[Maharashtra] state minister for women and child Varsha Gaikwad told [the Times of India], “The state women’s policy aims to recognize the concerns of [marginalized] communities…[so] the expert committee reviewing the policy will have…three representatives from the transgenders and the sex workers in order to ensure that their concerns get reflected in the policy document”…San Antonio 4

Traffic Jam

Harvey Silverglate reminds us that some of the victims of the Satanic Panic are still rotting away in prison for “crimes” that never happened:

…Elizabeth Ramirez, Kristie Mayhugh, Anna Vasquez and Cassandra Rivera…[were] accused in 1994 of repeatedly raping Ramirez’s two nieces, then 7 and 9 years old…Mayhugh, Vasquez and Rivera are twelve years into a 15-year sentence.  Ramirez was accused of being the ringleader, so she received 37½ years.  All four of the women refused pretrial plea deals…and three have refused parole offers conditioned on an admission of guilt and completion of a “rehabilitation” course for sex offenders…In September, one of the accusers recanted, saying she now seems to recall a quiet, even boring, weekend with her aunt, her sister and her aunt’s friends.  She has vowed to do everything in her power to help exonerate the four women still imprisoned as a result of her earlier false accusations…

As in other “Satanic Panic” cases and most “sex trafficking” cases, the total lack of concrete evidence, the fact that the accusers’ stories changed frequently and their history of false rape accusations (instigated by their sociopathic father) made absolutely no difference to prosecutors, jury or judge, who wanted to “send a message” that “alternative lifestyles” (the women are lesbians) would not be tolerated.

Coming Out

Melissa Petro is broke, and therefore thinking “a lot” about going back into hooking even though she has often said she didn’t like it.  That’s why her voice is valuable; as I said before, “I think it’s extremely important for women who don’t love the work to come out, because I honestly believe they’re the majority.  Everybody hears from the ‘happy hookers’ and the ‘survivors’, but…for most of the women I’ve known it was a job like any other, with its own advantages and disadvantages…

South of the Border

Funny how “sex trafficking victims” magically get their agency back when they’re Mexicans the “authorities” prefer to deport:  “Three people pleaded guilty…to bringing illegal immigrant women to [South Carolina] to work as prostitutes whose clientele were migrant farm workers…The prostitutes were illegal immigrants but none were being held against their will, [the US attorney] said…”  Apparently, the immigration stooge interviewed for the story got a different memo; he opined that “the women…have been rescued from lives of misery as a result of this investigation.”American Courtesans

The Public Eye

Jessie Nicole reviews American Courtesans, a new documentary about the lives of eleven high-end escorts:

Each of the eleven women had profoundly different experiences…[proving] that there is no single narrative of the sex industries.  Though each one seemed happy and relatively stable at the time of the interviews, many had experienced violence, arrest, and economic desperation…there was no sugarcoating or romanticization …the film also includes testimony from clients and family members…American Courtesans was a good step in the right direction, but we need to keep pushing further…[with] more and better media projects…

Buried Truth

James Cameron, the federal drug prosecutor who fled Maine after his child porn conviction was upheld three weeks ago, was arrested Sunday morning at a used-media store in Albuquerque, New Mexico.  US marshals theorize he was headed for Mexico.

Metaupdates

Gorged With Meaning (First Updates of the Year, Part Two)

Pearl-clutching Brits just can’t let this two-year-old study go:

Undergraduates have traditionally pulled pints or waited tables to pay their way through university, but…a significant number are now turning to sex work to make ends meet.  The rise in fees which will see some students graduate with projected debts of up to £53,000 …is being blamed for persuading young women and men to take up pole dancing, escort work or even prostitution.  Experts say that university welfare officers are largely ignorant of the growing phenomenon and poorly equipped to deal with issues arising from young people’s involvement.  Research by Dr Ron Roberts…published in 2010 suggested that one in four students know someone who had worked in the sex industry to fund their studies – up from three per cent in 1990.  Dr Roberts found 16 per cent would consider working in the industry while more than one in 10 were open to the idea of being an escort.  Research by Teela Sanders and Kate Hardy, of the University of Leeds, found that a quarter of lap dancers had a degree whilst a third of the women they interviewed were using the job to fund new forms of training…

This poster won the Irish "sex trafficking" contest described in TW3 #40; all pictures are stolen.

This poster won the Irish “sex trafficking” contest described in TW3 #40; all pictures are stolen.

Coed sex workers have never been rare; they’re just more apt to admit it these days, which is good for everybody.  The funniest part of the article is that its clueless author appears to believe the claims of the con-man behind “Sponsor A Scholar”.

The Course of a Disease (TW3 #8)

Prohibitionists are furious that the Israeli legislature allowed the wildly-unpopular (opposed by 59% of Israelis) Swedish model to die in committee, but what makes this prohibitionist op-ed entitled “Prostitution in Israel: Myth vs Reality” so interesting (if nauseating) is that it completely inverts the two, labeling myths as “facts” and vice-versa.  One wonders how people manage to make it through life in such a deeply-delusional state.

Neither Addiction Nor Epidemic (TW3 #20)

Despite a few good advance hints, the news about DSM-V is mostly bad:

…The [APA] has given its final approval to a deeply flawed DSM 5 containing many changes that seem clearly unsafe and scientifically unsound…Fortunately, some of its most…unsupportable proposals were eventually dropped under great external pressure (most notably…internet and sex addiction…)  But…DSM 5 will start a half or dozen or more new fads which will be detrimental to the misdiagnosed individuals and costly to our society…

Dr. Frances’ list of the ten worst changes includes DMDD; the redefinition of normal grief into “Major Depressive Disorder”, the normal forgetfulness of old age into “Minor Neurocognitive Disorder”, and gluttony into “Binge Eating Disorder”; and (most dangerously) the introduction of “use disorders”, essentially “Behavioral Addictions that…can…make a mental disorder of everything we like to do a lot.”

One Born Every Minute (TW3 #48)

The man uncovered as running a “sex for tuition fees” website…[was] secretly filmed…[and identified as] Mark Lancaster, but when contacted by a television programme refused to speak about the Sponsor a Scholar scheme…

The Course of a Disease (TW3 #48)

Dr. Brooke Magnanti vs. Rhoda Grant on this week’s Sunday Politics Scotland.

This Week in 2010 and 2011

Beside a two-part column on the myth that most whores are enslaved by pimps, this week also featured posts on Barbie, Saint Nicholas, toys, the Salvation Army, my favorite bands and albums, “sex addiction”, sugar daddy sites and the bizarre pretense that historical courtesans were not prostitutes.  We also saw articles on the anti-whore hostility of Canadian “authorities”, the lack of outrage when criminals use Craigslist to commit non-sex related crimes, and why ignorance really is bliss for some people, and I gave advice to a young man who wanted to “rescue” a hooker.

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The evil are guilty, and create Law. The good are innocent, and create Justice.  –  Terry Pratchett

Religions and legal regimes insist that the way to make people better is by threatening them with unspeakable cruelty, but in fact this merely stunts individual moral development and very often creates criminals out of ordinary people.  Furthermore, when laws pretend that ordinary behaviors are “criminal”, they force those activities into the shadows where the people who participate in them can be preyed upon by the truly evil or the merely unscrupulous.  Take sex work, for example: criminalization ensures that those who victimize sex workers (such as bad clients, thieves, serial killers, corrupt or rapist cops, abusive pimps and sleazy businesspeople) can inflict harm with impunity, and though legalization regimes may afford some slight protection from actual violence (assuming the cops can be bothered to investigate crimes against sex workers, which they usually can’t), they throw the door wide open to official corruption and unethical business owners who are well-connected and/or good at gaming the system.  And all too often, the laws themselves facilitate this by rewarding exploitative business practices and punishing fair ones.

Escort services are quasi-legal, and though strip clubs are fully legal they are marginalized and the VIP rooms are only quasi-legal.  What I mean by that is, though these businesses are themselves wholly legal, they depend entirely upon activities which are themselves illegal.  Escort services would make far less money if they could and did reliably prevent escorts from selling sex, and the same can be said for VIP room activities.  In order to protect themselves from asinine “pandering” charges, these businesses must therefore hire girls as independent contractors; I had my lawyer draw up an agreement which every escort had to sign, stating not only that she was responsible for her own taxes and such, but also that she agreed not to have sex with clients.  In other words, the ridiculous prostitution laws forced me to be party to a fraudulent contract every time I hired an escort, and forced my escorts to violate that contract every time they went on a call.

This is why virtually all sex workers are independent contractors; the liability created by prostitution laws in general and “pandering” or “avails” laws in particular is so great that no business can afford it.  But while ethical business owners like me understand and accept the drawbacks to using only contractors, unethical owners (and there are many) want the advantages of the contractor relationship without the disadvantages.  In other words, they want to call their girls “contractors” on paper, yet treat them like employees in fact, and without the expenses and liabilities inherent in the employer-employee relationship.  This is very common among bad escort service owners, but it’s epidemic in strip clubs, and a recent lawsuit called attention to that fact:

A federal court has approved a…$13 million settlement in a nationwide class-action lawsuit initiated by women who worked as exotic dancers for the Spearmint Rhino adult nightclub in Oxnard [California]…Christeen Rivera and Tracy Dawn Trauth…claimed they were wrongly treated as independent contractors rather than employees entitled to benefits.  They sought back wages, tips, attorney fees and damages.  According to the suit, the women each earned an average of $500,000 a year in tips for lap and table dances.  But the dancers alleged most of the money went to the club to cover “rent,” the disc jockey, stage fees, overhead costs and even penalties if they didn’t get enough men to purchase drinks during a shift.  In addition to the financial hit…the clubs have agreed that within six months they will no longer treat dancers as independent contractors or lessees, but as employees, shareholders, partners or some type of owner.  In California specifically, dancers will no longer be charged stage fees…Rivera and Trauth were eventually joined by 12 other Spearmint Rhino dancers who agreed to be named as class representatives in the lawsuit.  Each of them will get an “incentive award” of $1,000 to $15,000 for the time they spent on the case and the personal and professional risk they took in allowing their names to be used.  The rest of the dancers’ share of the $12.97 million settlement will be divvied up among an unknown number of dancers in six states who end up filing claims…

In every country where sex workers have won rights, the struggle was framed and presented as a labor issue (hence the slogan “sex work is work”); only in the United States is the emphasis consistently placed on the “sex” rather than the “work”.  But if lawsuits like this one keep succeeding that may change, not just for “legal” sex workers but eventually for “illegal” ones as well.  Once sex work is finally recognized as legitimate labor, those who work for larger businesses (strip clubs, brothels, escort services, etc) will be protected by labor laws just as other workers are, businesses will no longer be forced to call all of the help “contractors” even if they prefer to have employees, and honest businesspeople will be able to ostracize dishonest ones just as they do in other areas of commerce.

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When you grow up you realize that there isn’t really any Santa but the monsters are still around.  –  Anna Quindlen

Every year on Saint Nicholas’ Day I publish a column about him, not merely because of his association with Christmas but also because he happens to be the patron saint of prostitutes.  If you’re wondering how on Earth the same man could come to be associated with both whores and holidays, read my first column for this day from two years ago, which mentions that this popular saint is also considered the patron of archers, children, merchants, sailors, students, repentant thieves and several cities including Amsterdam (where St. Nicholas’ Church lies immediately adjacent to De Wallen, the famed red-light district).  In a comment to that column Sailor Barsoom pointed out that “there’s something beautiful about the same saint being the patron of both those society holds as most innocent, and least,” and I wholly agree; moreover, in his modern form of Santa Claus, he belongs to the whole world.  Though associated with an ancient and widely-observed holiday some selfish Christians have tried to hoard as exclusively theirs, St. Nick truly symbolizes the spirit of giving, and of peace on Earth to all of good will, not just Christians.  And that’s why it irritates me so badly when people try to compel Santa to shill for their own agendas, even when those are in stark contrast to what he really stands for.

Now, I’m not talking about the use of Santa in advertising; despite what some anti-Santa Christians claim, he was not pushed as a symbol of commercialism, but rather the opposite:  advertisers used his image precisely because it was a beloved and instantly-recognizable one with strong positive associations.  For example, Coca-Cola started using Santa Claus in its advertising in the 1920s because the company experienced a sharp decline in sales over the autumn and winter; Coke was widely viewed as a warm-weather beverage and so Santa – associated as he is with snow and midwinter – was picked to put the idea into people’s minds that the soft drink could be enjoyed in cold weather as well.  It was only after the ads proved so popular that the company decided to publish them every year, and in 1931 the highly-regarded commercial illustrator Haddon Sundblom was hired to make the rather stern-looking Santa of the first few spots more “jolly” in keeping with the way he was described in Clement Moore’s “A Visit from Saint Nicholas”.  But these paintings neither damaged nor subverted Santa’s reputation; in fact, they established Moore’s description of Santa (with a strong Thomas Nast influence) as the image of the “jolly old elf”, even in the minds of people who never drank Coca-Cola.  The Santa-haters claim that Sundblom was ordered to make Santa’s suit red and white because they were Coke’s colors, but this is specious humbug; though it is true that earlier illustrators had sometimes depicted him in green (like the traditional English costume of Father Christmas) or more rarely in other colors, red was always the most common in the New York tradition inherited from the Netherlands, where Sinterklaas wears the red robes of a bishop.

No, the Santa-traffickers I’m griping about aren’t the ones who merely employ his good reputation in order to attach a positive association to some commercial product, but rather those who cynically try to change some part of his image that they don’t like in order to promote their pet social engineering schemes.  A few months ago we heard that a (mercifully small) publisher had decided  to bowdlerize “A Visit From Saint Nicholas” in order to remove the now-politically-incorrect detail that Santa smokes a pipe.  And at the height of neofeminist influence in the early ‘90s, some deranged “women’s studies” professor actually published a ripoff of the poem (intended not as a parody, but to be read to children) in which a bizarrely-young Mrs. Claus divorces Santa and wins custody of the castle, reindeer, gift-giving role and several unnamed dependent minor children.  Apparently, that version even revolted most feminists because I was unable to turn up even a reference to it either on Google or in a database of almost a thousand “Night Before Christmas” parodies.

But though these over-the-top perversions are annoying, they are ultimately no more damaging to Santa’s image that any of the thousands of commercials that use it every year (as evidenced by the disappearance without trace of that “Santa’s divorce” abomination).  They can’t hold a candle to the most twisted misuse, namely that of the Salvation Army.  It may be that most of the money collected by their ubiquitous bell-ringing counterfeit Clauses goes to the poor as promised, but even if that’s true the campaign frees up other funds (which might otherwise have to be used for the poor) to be spent on hateful persecutions of those whose sexual behavior offends the Salvationists. The beloved image of the bringer of peace and joy is used to trick people into supporting a movement which believes some people deserve death for sexual preferences, and the bearded visage of the patron saint of whores disguises a crusade to wipe us out.

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Squeeze human nature into the straitjacket of criminal justice and crime will appear.  –  Karl Kraus

Criticism is distinguished from insult by its intent; the former is an analysis and can even be constructive, while the latter is simply an attack.  So while the two may be indistinguishable to the irrational person (who nowadays is as likely as not to refer to either one as “bullying”), the rational person understands that the two are not interchangeable.  Ad hominem arguments provide a useful demonstration of the difference:  valid criticisms are specific, coherent and similar to one another even when negative, while the terms used in ad hominem attacks by different people may be all over the map; as I wrote in “Ad Scortum”,

I’ve been expressing my opinion online for eight years now and I’ve been called a “liberal” and a “conservative”, a “feminist” and a “misogynist”, a “jingoist” and a “cultural relativist”, a “slut” and a “prude”, and any number of other totally-contradictory terms…whatever the accuser felt would invalidate my argument with the particular crowd I was addressing.

Similarly, those who make attacks unsupported by facts or logic are wont to conflate pejorative terms, pretending that they can be used interchangeably when in fact they refer to different ideas and concepts.  This is nowhere more true than in attacks on private, consensual behaviors such as sexual activities (including sex work) or drug use; prohibitionists regularly (and willfully) confuse five different concepts, so a straightforward definition and delineation of each one may prove useful to those who wish to challenge such vacuous arguments.

Sad is the weakest of these conflated pejoratives; in this context, a useful definition might be “violating an individual’s own personal feelings about what would make him happy.”  A typical example of this would be something like, “I think it’s sad that some women have to have sex with strange men for money.”  Those who express such sentiments seem to believe their statements carry some sort of rhetorical weight, but in fact they express no objective information whatsoever; they are declarations of an individual’s own highly personal, highly idiosyncratic preferences and value systems, and nothing else.  Semantically, they are interchangeable with phrases like, “I think it’s sad some people prefer watching football games to reading books,” “I think it’s sad that some people can’t appreciate Rachmaninoff” or “I think it’s sad that some people subscribe to irrational belief systems.”  When the pejorative “sad” is applied to people who prefer computer games to drinking it is usually understood to be wholly subjective and irrational, but when applied to sex work it somehow becomes a valid argument for criminalization.

Rude is the weakest of the five which nonetheless makes a statement about external reality; in this context it means “violating the generally accepted manners and mores of a group.”  Rude behavior is that which offends the feelings of the majority (or at least a substantial minority) of people within a culture or subculture, but causes no physical harm or property damage.  Sexual comments directed toward strangers may be rude, but that’s all they are; no matter what many feminists and nanny-staters may proclaim, they are not criminal, nor should they be.  Mere insult which does not result in physical harm, measurable damage to reputation or economic loss cannot be grouped together with actual assault, theft or character assassination no matter what the tissue-paper feelings crowd may claim, and laws which criminalize rudeness provide almost as wide an avenue for tyranny as those which criminalize imagined offenses against rulers, dead people or insubstantial personae.

Immoral is probably the most widely-misused of these five words; it is regularly employed to mean something barely stronger than “rude”, when in reality it means “violating the rules which nearly every sane, decent person accepts as governing interpersonal relations.”  Theft is immoral; there is no culture in the world where it is regarded as acceptable to take that which doesn’t belong to one.  Similar statements could be made about rape, murder and many other things.  Now, this isn’t to say that privileged groups don’t come up with rationalizations for whatever immoral behavior they find convenient, but such justifications are easily recognized as specious by simply considering how the behavior would be viewed if one of the members of that group inflicted it on one of his peers rather than an outsider.  On the other hand, no matter how loudly the Bible-beaters condemn homosexuality as “immoral” or neofeminists apply their own synonyms for the term to porn and prostitution, these things are not and cannot be “immoral” by any valid definition of the word because they are voluntary interactions which are acceptable to those who choose to participate in them, and are only “wrong” according to some arbitrary, externally-imposed dictum to which the “sinners” clearly do not subscribe.

Illegal is such a straightforward concept that it’s actually quite astonishing that people fail to understand it, yet it’s routinely conflated with “immoral” and “criminal” by those who are easily confused.  The actual definition is “violating some law or regulation established by a government.”  That’s all.  If there is a law against an activity, that activity is illegal whether or not it’s immoral, rude or anything else; conversely, just because an activity is rude or immoral does not automatically make it illegal, nor should it.  There are a number of philosophically-offensive yet practical reasons why some few things which are not immoral should be illegal, and there are a plethora of excellent reasons why most things which are immoral should not be illegal; I discussed this at length in “A Necessary Evil” earlier this year, so there’s no need to rehash it here.  For now it suffices to point out that illegal does not equal immoral, whether anyone thinks it should or not.

Criminal is probably the least-understood of all these pejoratives, which is all the more troubling because it is also the strongest of the five.  Furthermore, it’s also the only one which forms a subset of one of the others; the other four concepts overlap and intersect, but there are some members of each set which do not fall into any of the others.  “Criminal”, by contrast, falls entirely inside of “illegal” just as “dog” falls inside of “animal”:  all criminal activities are also illegal, but not all illegal activities are criminal, which we will define here as “violating a law which is so serious that state actors are justified in breaking moral precepts (or even laws) in order to stop it.”  Few people would disagree that police have the right to arrest (i.e. assault, restrain and cage) a man caught in the middle of committing a rape or robbery, or that the state has the right to fine (i.e. rob) or incarcerate (i.e. cage) that man if he is found guilty of the crimes of which he is accused.  But what about a “crime” like “improper left turn”?  Should police be allowed to brutalize and detain a person for failing to see a sign?  How about for violating a seat belt law?  Engaging in sex with another consenting person in private?  Having leaves and buds of a common weed in one’s house? Building a shed in one’s yard?  Removing insects from some rubbish while cleaning it up?

These are not merely academic questions; all of these things are illegal in the United States under certain circumstances, and because even the Supreme Court has fallen prey to the widespread conflation of “illegal” and “criminal”, police are authorized to inflict brutality, up to and including potentially lethal force, for the violation of any one of them.  It is possible that many of those who favor making laws against rude or individually-upsetting behaviors do not recognize that the ignorant and wrongheaded conflation of “illegal” with “criminal” is now the law of the land; it may be that they do not comprehend that they are opening the door for men being tased and beaten for clumsy flirting or women being abducted, caged and impoverished for allowing their children to play outside.  I think it’s more likely, however, that most of them absolutely do understand, but are so delusional that they believe the demons they unleash will never return to haunt them.  “Sad”, “rude”, “immoral”, “illegal” and “criminal” are separate concepts and must remain so for a society to remain free; conflating them releases the brakes on a juggernaut of injustice which will inevitably crush everything in its path.

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Rose is a rose is a rose is a rose.  –  Gertrude Stein

A whore is any woman who gets money for sexual contact with someone.  It doesn’t matter what kind of sex it is, or how expensive the price, or how long the contract, or who pays, or whether intercourse is involved, or whether busybodies declare it legal, or what either party’s primary motive is, or under what conditions the contact takes place, or whether one or both parties have a “license” from some “authority”; as I wrote in “Whorearchy”,

If you accept money from someone that he gives due to sexual interest in you, then you are a whore and everything else is just semantics.  When politicians, pundits or rulers use some arbitrary determinant like penetration, duration, location or motivation to bless some harlots while damning others, what they’re actually doing is reducing the size of the group who might oppose them and winning supporters from among those granted legitimacy.  This is why I’m harshly unsympathetic to those who vehemently maintain that their species of sex work or sensual therapy is absolutely not prostitution:  all they’re doing is throwing other women under the bus, and if we had all stuck together from the beginning of second-wave feminism half a century ago, prostitution would’ve been decriminalized long ago and many women who are now dead or damaged might still be alive and healthy.

I’m bringing this up again because of a new movie called The Sessions, based on the true story of a whore named Cheryl Greene who was able to help a man disabled by polio experience sex before he died.  Regular readers are already familiar with how sex workers like Rachel Wotton, Catharina König and yours truly give disabled men the opportunity to enjoy sex, but unfortunately some who specialize in this type of therapeutic sex work imagine themselves to be better than their sisters and, like many dominatrices, sugar babies, porn actresses, virginity sellers and “professional cuddlers”, loudly and repeatedly (and unconvincingly) insist that they aren’t prostitutes because of some hogo bullshit arbitrary reason.  In this case, it’s because they are trained by people with fancy titles and adopt one themselves:  “sex surrogate”.

The concept of “sex surrogacy” was pioneered by Masters and Johnson in 1970, and it’s a good and sound one:  it’s a lot easier to diagnose and treat some sexual problems with a hands-on approach.  Any dedicated call girl worth her salt can do this, sometimes with great efficacy; the only difference between them and surrogates is that surrogates are trained in theory, terminology and therapeutic techniques in addition to their natural abilities.  Not long after I started escorting, my friend Dr. Helena (who had studied under Masters and Johnson) started talking to me about the possibility of becoming certified as a surrogate; she felt I would excel at it, and I don’t doubt that she was right.  If not for her untimely death she might eventually have talked me into it; the main sticking point for me was that I would need to undergo many months of training in order to make literally one-third what I did as an escort.

But though surrogates’ pretense that they aren’t hookers may appease their families or their own internalization of the Madonna-whore duality, it won’t fool readers of this blog and I suspect the only reason cops and district attorneys don’t go after them is that their screening is far too thorough and a prosecution might make too many people question the validity of prostitution laws.  Here’s an excerpt from a recent New York Post article on the subject:

…Helen Hunt plays a sex surrogate in the acclaimed film The Sessions — but in real life there are sex surrogates working right here in NYC…“People tend to be ill-informed about what a surrogate partner does,” explains [Dr. Fern] Arden…“They think of it pejoratively, the same as a sex worker, but it’s not,” she adds.  “Just as you have legitimate massage therapists and people who run massage parlors, there is a huge difference between them”…But…Derrelle Janey, a defense attorney at…Gottleib and Gordon, likens the sex surrogacy practice to prostitution — after all, money is being received for sex:  “It doesn’t matter if the client is disabled, it doesn’t matter if he is suffering from some kind of emotional distress — that just makes it kind of sad.  They have agreed to pay money for a sexual experience, and everyone understands that’s the transaction.  In my view, that’s prostitution”…Arden…insists what she does is not prostitution; it’s a public service…

It’s bad enough when cops and prohibitionists spout ignorant pap in interviews, but unforgivable when someone who should know better does.  A sexologist who denies that sex work is every bit as much a public service as what she does is either a liar, a quack or a lying quack.

…“Most of the men who come to my center are sexually inexperienced, so the surrogate program allows them to progress with their treatment.”  She argues it would be “cruel” not to treat them and have them “remain dysfunctional” until they find a willing partner to accompany them to therapy…“The sessions with the surrogate evolve gradually.  It’s a very gradual, sensual process of getting used to holding hands, caressing and kissing…[The clients] could come into treatment for several visits before they even take their clothes off.”

Sensuality and gradualness are also found in several other types of sex work as well, as Arden should well know.

Sarah, one of Arden’s surrogate partners…carefully fielded questions about the practical side of her job…“I don’t feel compelled to tell everybody that I meet [that I work as a sexual surrogate],” she says.  “There are certain people in my life who understand what I do and are very supportive of it.  But there are also people in my life who there is no reason for me to even go there.”

Sound familiar?  Nobody denies that surrogates are more educated than the average whore, but so am I and so are a number of other sex work bloggers, writers and activists.  And nobody denies that the surrogate experience usually has a different goal, pace and focus than the average date with a hooker, but then PSEs, GFEs, fetish sessions, private viewings and listening to troubled men are all different from a quick blow job.  Pretending that surrogacy is not sex work merely divides our already-marginalized profession and further empowers the prohibitionists to interfere in people’s sex lives, thus undermining the sexual understanding surrogates are supposed to promote.

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The buried truth germinates and breaks through to the light.  –  George Bernard Shaw

I’ve written on a number of occasions about reaction formation, the psychological defense mechanism by which the mind shields itself from uncomfortable desires (usually sexual) by forming an obsession with the opposite of that thing.  “preacher who is obsessed by porn might frequently speak out against it from the pulpit, and a man who is obsessed with child porn in particular might champion legislation against it, or…seek a position investigating allegations of pedophilia.”  A man obsessed with whores might devote endless hours to a website about how we’ll all burn in Hell, or to writing column after column about “sex slaves”, with their tortures described in lurid, loving detail.Lisa Biron  A repressed homosexual might even become a “counselor” in a ministry dedicated to helping others to “pray the gay away”.  The syndrome is much more common in men, but not unheard of in women:

…Lisa Biron, a Manchester, N.H., lawyer associated with the Christian litigation group, Alliance Defending Freedom, was arrested by FBI agents…on [Mann Act] charges…  possession of child porn…and …sexual exploitation of children…Biron transported a teen girl…to Ontario…and coerced her into engaging in

sexual acts with another person…[according to Queerty, ADF is] “a group of reactionary Christian attorneys lawyers pressing litigation to curb reproductive rights and block the freedom to marry“…[it] was founded in 1994 by…Focus on the Family’s James Dobson and American Family Association’s Donald Wildmon, among others…[and] has been fighting against gay rights for over 18 years…

Biron is not the only sexually-repressed lawyer who thinks the prohibitions she vigorously supports should not apply to her; James Cameron was a federal prosecutor dedicated to punishing people for enjoying illegal pleasures, but has now fled the gears of the life-destroying legal machine he served for years:

Less than 12 hours after a federal appeals court upheld seven of his 13 [child porn] convictions…former drug prosecutor James Cameron cut off his [electronic tracking] ankle bracelet and disappeared…[if caught he faces] 16 years in federal prison

tentacles from graveReaction formation is the psychological equivalent of burying some abhorrent thing underground and piling junk on top of it.  Sometimes the thing stays buried, with the “reaction” behavior marking it like a cairn; other times the cover washes away and the despised urges are revealed to the world, as in the cases above.  But sometimes the buried lust rots, decaying in the subterranean darkness into a thing of hideous foulness that eventually bursts forth to destroy not just the one who entombed it, but others as well:

A young Arlington woman is dead and her husband along with several other members of her secretive prayer group are suspected of raping her, then killing her and trying to make it look like a suicide…the body of 27-year-old Bethany Leidlein Deaton was discovered in a van near a lake southeast of Kansas City on October 30…[then] Micah Moore, a…fellow prayer group member…confessed [November 9th] to murdering her…[under] orders of Tyler Deaton, Bethany’s husband of a mere ten weeks.  Tyler Deaton reportedly feared Bethany was about to tell her therapist that Tyler had been drugging her and forcing her to have sex with his friends as part of their religious activities.  The assailants allegedly recorded their sexual assaults of Bethany Deaton on an iPad, and then wrote poems about the rapes…Moore told police that the charismatic…and domineering Tyler Deaton had sex with his male followers as well…The group…Bethany Deatonfollowed Tyler Deaton en masse from Texas to Missouri to attend a Kansas City institution called the International House of Prayer University, an evangelical missionary training school…

So, what kind of “prayer group” involves coerced homosexual activity as “part of a religious experience”, plus the gang rape of a heavily drugged woman?

One of his group’s stark positions on Scripture was that homosexuality was wrong.  Deaton’s stance against it weighed heavily because members said he had “struggled with being gay…He struggled with it, but he overcame it,” a [former] member of his group…said.  “It was a victory”…The International House of Prayer had great appeal to the group…They loved the strong evangelism and the dedication to following Scripture…Many shared a belief that the “end times” were at hand…

There are certainly other motivations for prohibitionist fanaticism, such as vengeance or sour grapes.  But when nothing in the fanatic’s personal history indicates an obvious motive, repressed desire for whatever it is he wants prohibited is nearly always a safe bet.

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Superstition belongs to the essence of mankind and takes refuge, when one thinks one has suppressed it completely, in the strangest nooks and crannies; once it is safely ensconced there, it suddenly reappears.  –  Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

This week saw a strong rebound from the Thanksgiving slump, and though we haven’t seen any worthwhile Christmas items yet there were an unusual number of astronomy-, death- and monster-related items.  Radley Balko was top dog in links as usual (contributing everything down to the first video), but four others provided two each:  Walter Olson (first video and the link below it), Mike Siegel (“Pat Robertson” and the link above it), Michael Whiteacre (“Kentucky” and “censored elbow”), and Brooke Magnanti (second video and the link above it).  The others came from Aspasia (“demon sex”), Wikileaks (“Swedish attitude”), Franklin Harris (“cyber terror”), Jesse Walker (“sic transit”), and Jack Shafer (“snow in Hell”).

Here’s a cute, funny PSA from the Melbourne Transit Authority.

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