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Diary #783

In Oklahoma, my chicken coop was huge; I did it that way on purpose to keep the chickens from being able to kill all of the grass with their scratching.  So when Jae recently suggested expanding our current coop, I didn’t really need a lot of convincing to agree to it, especially now that the turkey is starting to get big.  So last week, Chekhov came over and we set up posts for another gate on the opposite side of the coop from the existing one, plus T-posts to hold up the fence (it only needs to be strong enough to contain chickens on the inside and withstand pig scratching from the outside).  I’m not sure I have enough spare fencing lying around, so I may need to get some more welded wire to finish up.  Then in August I’m going to put a new roof on the henhouse, and we should be good for another few years unless I decide I really like raising larger fowl (which, to be honest, seems unlikely at this time).

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This feels dystopian.  –  Theo Browne

I wish there were some single video that I could feature to honor Dr. Demento, but it’s impossible; there are just too many, even on this blog alone.  The good doctor introduced me to Tom Lehrer, Spike Jones, Allan Sherman, “Weird Al” Yankovic, and innumerable one-off novelty songs of the sort that have littered my Links columns for the past 13 years.  So I’m featuring another of these rolling ball machines I enjoy looking at, courtesy of Rikki de la Vega.  The links above it were provided by Franklin Harris, Jason Kuznicki, Phoenix Calida, Mike Masnick, Radley Balko, and Jesse Walker, in that order.

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The only people who can truly claim to have made an absolutely free choice to do any kind of work are the Paris Hiltons of the world, those who have a guaranteed inheritance, income and secured future no matter what they choose to do with the present.
–  “A False Dichotomy

Though I will never set physical foot on another world myself, I have walked a thousand of them in my imagination.
–  “Ad Astra

If you meet a cop and he wants to arrest you he will do so, even if you aren’t even a hooker, and no magical formula will prevent that.  –  “Magic Formulae

The whole “pimp” and “sex slave” mythology derives from the need to deny the legendary sexual powers of whores by pretending that we’re the pathetic, powerless victims of men.  –  “Don’t Try This At Home

Computers are useful tools and (usually) dependable servants, but apparently generations of science-fiction writers have failed to pound into the heads of the intellectually lazy what a colossally bad idea it is to accept them in positions of authority.  –  “Mechanocracy

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We had another unusually-chilly spring this year, so I didn’t trust my tomato plants outside until this past weekend; if they can’t survive in the first week of summer, I’ll just have to throw up my hands in despair.  But though the temperatures haven’t been quite summery, even by Olympic peninsula standards, the days are as long as they’re going to get, and that means my seasonal anxiety is back.  As I’ve noted in the past, it isn’t nearly as bad since I moved to Sunset as it was in Seattle, probably because the quiet of the countryside counteracts some of it, while the noise and commotion of the city aggravates it.  But this year, it sneaked up on me because I’ve been attributing my emotional stress to grief.  It wasn’t until a week or so ago that I asked myself why that should be worse now than it was immediately after Grace’s death, or in the first few months afterward; I only just realized that as is typical for me, the anxiety runs under the surface and breaks out at weak points.  Expressed another way, the anxiety is acting as fuel for my grief, making it just as intense as it was in January and February, and more intense than it was in March and April.  But now that I’m done with Who in Review (and have even set up my store to sell autographed copies), I have time and space in my life to do some creative writing again.  I’ve already written two new stories for Lost Angels, with a third probably coming this week; it’s percolating through my brain, going through the alchemy by which grief, loss, and pain are transmuted into art, much like a compost heap transmutes organic garbage into humus for growing new plants.  When the tomatoes are ready, I’ll use some of them to make salsa from the recipe Grace and I developed late last summer.  And when Lost Angels is published, the pain I’m enduring now will have given rise to beauty I can share with the world.

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It’s absolutely clear you need a small hit of meth to get through this week.  –  Llama 3

We’ve got three ’60s musicians’ obituaries this week, but since I never cared for the Beach Boys and the Family Stone trumps the Electric Prunes, here’s a song I think is more timely now than when it was released in 1968.  The links above it were provided by Ryan Marino (“stupidity” and “much”); IncarcerNation (“never” and “theft”); Jesse Walker (“Sly” and “James”); Scott Greenfield (“Brian”); and Wendy Lyon (“Dracula”).

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Diary #781

Saturday would’ve been Grace’s 67th birthday, so I’m not especially surprised that I felt quite sad.  Everything seemed off all day; Grace always wanted me to make her favorite dish, Beef Stroganoff, for dinner, with a cheesecake for dessert.  And perhaps in the future, along with burning a candle for her all day, I may prepare those things in her memory; right now the grief is still too intense, so I let Jae cook dinner after she returned from the local “No Kings” protest.  While she was gone, I was here alone and decided to soak in the hot tub with a strong drink, and listen to Queen’s Greatest Hits, which Grace gave me for my birthday in 1999 (if memory serves).  The album includes “You’re My Best Friend”, which as I mentioned last year was my ringtone for her, but it also includes “Who Wants To Live Forever?” which has for almost 40 years always made me cry, even long before my best friend passed from this plane into whatever comes next.  I really am mostly doing better now; I can even get through most days without crying as long as I stay busy (which isn’t hard).  But occasions like this are too painful to manage without grief, and I’ve never been any good at holding in the tears when they’re provoked this intensely.

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There is a few, some with long words that I can’t pronounce.
–  Kimberly “Science” Coates

Yesterday would have been Grace’s 67th birthday; last year I observed the occasion with the song I used for her ringtone, so this year I decided to use one she sang around the house quite often in the months before her passing (any reference to today’s two obituaries is strictly coincidental).  The links above the video were provided by Ryan Marino, Mike Siegel, Clarissa, Popehat, Franklin Harris, Kevin Wilson, and IncarcerNation, in that order.

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I find paywalls distasteful, and so many people find this blog valuable as a resource I just can’t bring myself to install one.  Furthermore, I find ad delivery services (whose content I have no say over) even more distasteful.  But as I’m now semi-retired from sex work, I can’t self-sponsor this blog by myself any longer.  So if you value my writing enough that you would pay to see it if it were paywalled, please consider subscribing; there are four different levels to fit all budgets.  Or if that doesn’t work for you, please consider showing your generosity with a one-time donation; you can Paypal to maggiemcneill@earthlink.net or else email me at the same address to make other arrangements.  Thanks so much!

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Diary #780

Two dear friends came to visit me on Sunday, and we had relaxing evenings that night and last night.  Since neither lives very close, this is the first time I’ve seen them since Grace died; in fact, the last time they were here was last August, and all four of us sat around the atrium high as kites and had a ball.  This time was a bit more sedate, as I expected, but despite my imbibing enough to considerably reduce my inhibitions, I didn’t cry much (except for once, a little, right at the beginning) and I don’t think I overwhelmed them talking too much about Grace.  But even if I had done, it wouldn’t have mattered to them; they both knew how much I loved Grace, and they both can see how difficult adjusting to life without her has been for me.  And one simple definition of a “friend” could be, “Someone who is there for you when you need them.”  In fact, that’s part of what made Grace so special; she was always there for me, so much so that I may have sometimes taken her for granted.  I believe some of the pain I’m feeling comes from a sort of nebulous guilt that I didn’t always show her enough how much she mattered to me, especially in the first half of the Teens when I was dealing with the dissolution of my marriage and my move to Seattle.  It’s not that she ever grumbled about it; though she was perfectly comfortable grumbling about everybody else who annoyed her, to her I was always “my little angel” who could walk on water.  I reckon part of me wishes I really could work miracles as she seemed to think, and that I could have somehow arrested or at least slowed the gradual collapse of her body, so that I could’ve had at least a few more years of her unflagging support and companionship.

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Grace liked those small, fat notebooks.  She always kept several around, and used them for whatever she needed to write down, without any particular order.  Any given notebook might contain movies or tools she wanted to buy; rough diagram, sketches, and lists of parts for intended projects; things she encountered online when I wasn’t around that she wanted to ask me about later; things she wanted me to add to the grocery list; ideas for her D&D character; audiobooks she wanted to order; and just about anything else she felt should be written down.  Now, over the last couple of years she had developed a fondness for listening to Gregorian chants on her headphones while meditating; she even listened to them while getting chemotherapy.  So when I picked up one of her little notebooks Saturday before last, looking for one that was mostly empty so I could use it for something else, and discovered a page with five lines of Latin, I assumed they had come from a chant she liked.  Believe it or not, her Latin was actually better than mine, so I needed to look them up, starting with the one in the title above…which translates to “help me in my final condition”.  They were all lines from the Dies Irae, part of the traditional Catholic requiem mass.  And of course I immediately started crying uncontrollably, though the tears were not bitter.  Because even though we both knew she was dying for some time (though neither of us realized just how close it was), she had clearly come to accept it.  And perhaps discovering those lines, painful as it was in the moment and in recalling it now, will eventually help me to accept it as she did.

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Somehow the body became secreted.  –  boss hog Kevin Catalina

I’ve been re-watching The Avengers lately, and while perusing a venerable fan site for the show I came across a reference to this video, which I’d never seen before.  The show went to color in its fifth season, and this “mini-episode” was made as a color test; it was broadcast in abridged form on US TV as an ad for the new season, and provides a nice little taste of the show’s style.  The links above it were provided by Missy Mariposa, Mike Masnick, Scott Hechinger, Jesse Walker, T. Greg Doucette, and IncarcerNation (x2), in that order.

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I find paywalls distasteful, and so many people find this blog valuable as a resource I just can’t bring myself to install one.  Furthermore, I find ad delivery services (whose content I have no say over) even more distasteful.  But as I’m now semi-retired from sex work, I can’t self-sponsor this blog by myself any longer.  So if you value my writing enough that you would pay to see it if it were paywalled, please consider subscribing; there are four different levels to fit all budgets.  Or if that doesn’t work for you, please consider showing your generosity with a one-time donation; you can Paypal to maggiemcneill@earthlink.net or else email me at the same address to make other arrangements.  Thanks so much!

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